The age-old question has troubled men since the dawn of time. You’re not alone if you want to know how to impress a girl on a first date.
You’ve got the confidence to ask her out on a first date. Now what?
You need to plan a great date that keeps her coming back for more. You want her to be positive about you and for a second date — and then some.
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Curating a successful date is an art form. Some guys are naturally gifted. They know what to do, what to say, what to wear, and where to take a woman to have her hooked.
If you’re reading this playbook, you’re not that guy. Don’t panic. I’m about to let you in on some of the most effective expert-backed strategies you can use to change your luck with women. Read on to learn what women want and how you can give it to them.
What Women Want from a First Date
Learning how to impress a girl on a date means understanding what she wants. It can be done!
Almost 70% of Americans say they would kiss on a first date. However, to seal the deal, you need to understand what’s going through her mind before you go out.
Here’s the hard fact: Women are socialized to be wary of men. Take a deep breath and understand this baseline truth.
Being a man is a privilege. We never have to be afraid of the opposite sex because — to put it bluntly — they are weaker than us. If we wanted to, we could overpower a woman. She can’t say the same for men.
For that reason, most women enter any dating scenario with an edge of trepidation. She doesn’t know you from Adam. She has no idea whether she will find you attractive or not you’re a threat to her safety. But her train of thought doesn’t start and stop there.
She’s already looking at the big picture. You might be thinking about what to say next. But here’s an idea of what goes through any woman’s mind on a first date:
- “Do I find this guy attractive enough to sleep with and/or date?”
- “Does this man seem like a weirdo? Do I feel safe with him?”
- “Do I see a future with this guy?”
- “Does this guy have table manners, and is he polite?”
- “Are there awkward silences? Do I feel uncomfortable?”
- “Are there any real deal breakers here?”
- “How does he treat the waiting staff? Is he rude to them?
- “Is he putting on a fake persona? Do I trust him?”
- “Does he look like his dating app picture?”
While you’re talking and trying to impress her, all of the above is running through your mind.
Women judge your every move when they are on your first date. Everything you do is a sign to her — an indicator of whether she can date you in the future.
She’s not just thinking about the here and now. No, her mind has already flashed forward to date number 56. She’s looking well ahead in the future. She’s already considering whether you are husband material. She knows whether you would make a good dad.
Knowing that her mind has already gone there gives you an advantage. Take the first date as an opportunity to show her you have what it takes to go far.
8 Best Ways to Impress a Girl on a Date
Okay — you’ve landed the first date. What are you going to do about it?
Most guys put in minimal effort when they go on first dates. That is the biggest reason why they fail to take their relationship further.
You need to tick all of her boxes to get her attention and keep it. If you want to make a good impression on that first date, you must take a genuine interest in her from the offset.
By planning a date that shows her you are attentive, smart, and genuine, you will have her eating out of your hand in no time. Here’s how:
1. Plan every aspect of the date first
Women are looking for strong men who can protect them. They might say they’re not, but trust me — that is what every woman out there is programmed to want.
Show her you have what it takes by planning every aspect of the date. Don’t ask her where she wants to go or what she wants to do. You need to take care of everything.
Make sure you keep things interesting. You don’t have to spend a fortune, but make plans for a few activities. That could mean ice skating followed by dinner. Or a drive in the countryside followed by a picnic you packed.
Take care of all these minor details, and you get her attention!
2. Dress like the man you want to be
Women notice how you look when you turn up for a first date. She knows fashion and will know if you’ve cheaped out on your clothes.
Take a look at yourself in the mirror. Is this the image that you want to portray? What do your clothes say about you? What are you telling women about how you dress?
You want to show her your best self. If you’ve bagged a first date, go out and buy yourself some new clothes. Choose pieces that suit the date you have planned.
For example, wear a casual suit if you are heading out to the theater. If you’re heading out for a dinner date, try some formals.
3. Take her something small (but meaningful)
Don’t just bring flowers. I’m not about buying a woman’s affection. You don’t need to spend a load of cash impressing her. Instead, you can win her over simply by being thoughtful.
What clues has she given you about what she likes when you speak to her?
Maybe she has mentioned her favorite book. She might have talked about what pets she has. She may have been enthusiastic while telling you how much she likes a show.
Whatever you know about her so far, you can use to your advantage. Take her a small gift that you know she will love.
For example, if you know her favorite author, find a book she has not read yet and take that with you. If she has mentioned that she has a cat, get a toy for her pet.
If you want to impress a girl, all these things will help. You need to show her that you have a genuine interest in her and want to get to know her. Put in the groundwork!
4. Give her some genuine compliments
Women are used to being complimented when they are on first dates. The wrong type of flattery will get you nowhere fast.
However, if you are honest in what you say, you will make a great impression on her. Take a moment to consider what you like about her.
Be detailed in your complimenting style. Don’t simply tell her that she has nice shoes. That’s old and boring.
Instead, say that you like how she matched her shoes to her bag. The more specific you are, the more you show that you’re being genuine.
5. Engage her in interesting conversations
First date conversations can be hard. Awkward silences will happen — you just need to plan for them.
Don’t just start talking about your interests. Chances are, she doesn’t want to hear about your golf handicap. Ask her questions and get to know what she wants to learn from you.
Find out what she does in her free time. Figure out if she has any hobbies. Find out how she likes to socialize.
Let her speak. Women don’t like being interrupted. Let her know you are interested in what she has to say by giving her the space to say it.
When there is a break in the conversation, reflect on what she has said. Repeat it to her in different words. That shows you’ve been listening to what she’s said.
6. Show off your manners
If you take a girl on a first date, she will notice this small thing. If you put your elbows on the table and speak rudely to the staff members, you can kiss that second date goodbye. Trust me; she will find a man who knows how to behave.
If you know you lack the manners you need, now is the time to elevate them. When you are on that first date, consider everything you are doing. Here are some pointers:
- Open doors for her and pull her chair out
- Say “please” and “thank you” to the staff
- Make sure you use your cutlery well
- Be friendly to everyone you interact with
- Keep your phone in your pocket
- Pay attention to what she has to say
7. Put your best foot forward
Confidence is attractive.
If you want a second date, your first date has to be killer. That means showing you have a high level of self-esteem.
Ensure you stand tall when you meet her, make eye contact, and have good body language.
If you are struggling when it comes to confidence, it’s worth working with a confidence coach or therapist to get you there.
Even the most elite men tend to struggle with this simple thing. The expert support you need will help you become the most confident man.
8. Make sure you have a backup plan
Things might go wrong on your first date. Always expect the unexpected.
Life is full of unexpected hiccups. When planning first dates, you need to make sure you have some backup plans in place.
If something goes wrong, you need to be able to deal with it at a moment’s notice. Plan, and you won’t fail when dating women.
Learning how to impress a girl on a date is straightforward. Using the above expert-backed strategies, you can ensure you get a second date and even a third. The date tips I’ve shared here are the foundation that you need.
Once you apply them to your dating style, you will find some common interests with women and start building a real connection. All these things significantly affect how a woman perceives you on a date. Keep in mind that it is the small details that count.
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