“The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation.”
Look around you – this is as true now as it was back then.
Think about all of the exciting dreams and aspirations that you had when you were younger.
He longed to…
- Travel the world with the love of his life. But instead, he’s stuck at the office constantly promising or even lying to himself that once the next project is accomplished, then he will make time for adventure and his love life.
- Discover his mission in life and give his heart and soul to it, but he’s stuck doing work that doesn’t inspire him so that he can pay for a endless stream of bills, home upgrades, and keeping up with the jones.
- Wake up excited and on FIRE about the work that he gets to do each day, but instead, he feels tired and burnt out by the never-ending cycle of making more money that has become his entire life.
- To deepen his connection with himself and have the time and space to truly uncover who he is and what he wants in life. But instead, he’s stuck chasing society’s version of success and permanently pursuing the next vanity driven accomplishment.
He did everything right and wanted his life to be this exciting adventure, but here he sits…. On his computer at 10:30 p.m. pouring over reports and sending out yet another email while life is passing him by one day at a time.
We live in a world where men define themselves by the size of their bank account instead of the amount of freedom, joy and fulfillment in their lives.
There is a serious problem here that men aren’t talking about; so we numb ourselves with the instant gratification activities and mindless entertainments of the 21st century.
Where have all the great men gone?
Why is it that the males depicted on TV today are all emotionally handicapped and career driven sociopaths like Harvey Specter, Hank Moody, and Don Draper.
Men who drink endlessly, do drugs, cheat on their spouse and are very good at making money, but completely incapable of navigating the real issues of life like relationships, purpose, and fulfillment.
Is this what we choose to glorify and have slowly accepted as the norm?
We’ve led men to believe that if they have a successful business or career, then they are enough. All the while completely ignoring the painful reality facing men in their relationships, physical health, and personal growth.
It takes only a few minutes of looking at the reality facing modern man today to realize that this dis-ease is real and its impact is far-reaching.
Did you know these startling statistics?
- The suicide rate for men is 3.5x higher than that of women? (Even very successful men like Robin Williams, Anthony Bourdain, Heath Ledger and Avicii fell victim to this horrible act)
- The divorce rate hovers above 58% (Elon Musk appears to be on his 3rd wife)
- Men are 3x more likely to become alcohol and drug dependent – masking their problems rather than facing and solving them.
At this point, you’d think men would reach out for help, but because of the lie instilled by society that “real” men should be self-reliant and capable of handling their problems by themselves, men are far less likely to reach out for support.
So let’s clear something up right now…
Men’s coaching does not mean you are weak or incapable of doing something yourself.
Coaching allows you to grow faster by leveraging the guidance of someone with the perspective, experience and know how to get you where you desire to be.
Someone to hold you accountable – to give it to you straight and make sense of the chaos of life. To finally free you of the BS story that’s been holding you back for years.
To ultimately, increase your status and gain the respect, approval, and recognition you deserve from those you care about most.
Let’s be honest here:
Warren Buffet wouldn’t be the greatest investor of our time without Benjamin Graham…
Marcus Aurelius wouldn’t be one of the greatest philosophers, the Emperor of Rome, and one of the most successful generals in military history without Epictetus…
Michael Jordan wouldn’t be the greatest basketball player and (arguably) the greatest athlete of our time without Phil Jackson…
And it’s crazy to think that you’re any different.
If you want to be great – then you need help getting there.
Men more than ever need coaches to guide them to unleash their greatness in their life, career, and relationships.
Let’s dive into the 10 reasons why a men’s coach is the “secret edge” you’ve been searching for that will unlock nearly limitless power in your health, wealth, relationships, and personal growth.
1. You Need Someone In Your Life Who Doesn’t Just Listen to You But Challenges You to Grow and Move Forward
Therapists, counselors, and psychiatrists will listen to you, give you drugs, and put you in a circle of other individuals who have not recovered from their pain and are likely still living in the past.
The real problem is they don’t stand for your greatness, encourage you to live by your values or challenge you to become the strongest version of yourself.
Talking about your issues might help you identify the problems that have been holding you back, but it won’t help you overcome those challenges or create the life you want.
A men’s coach isn’t like your therapist or counselor. Not only will he help you identify the real cause of your problems and spot your limiting beliefs… But he will force you to take action so you can’t play small or hide any longer.
Coaching is about moving forward towards a more inspiring future in the shortest amount of time possible… without brain-altering drugs with severe side effects.
Men’s coaches listen deeply, speak the truth and encourage an action-oriented approach that will help you get real results and create a better life.
I didn’t say creating the life you want was going to be easy… but I can tell you from first-hand experience that it’s worth it.
2. You Want Deeper Intimacy and Connection from Women But Struggle to Show Up as the Grounded Man Women Desire
Just because a man is dating or married to the woman of his dreams doesn’t mean that he’s any more masculine or grounded than the “Nice Guys” residing in the friend zone.
Sure, he may have a wedding band or a significant other who shares his home… But he lacks the true intimacy and freedom inside of his relationship that he ultimately craves.
He wants to feel admired, respected and appreciated.
He wants his woman to look at him the way that she did when they first started dating.
He wants her to look at him like he’s the most powerful man alive with respect and adoration.
He longs to hear her talking with her girlfriends about how much he means to her, about the excitement she feels every time he looks at her, and how he makes her feel like the luckiest woman in the world.
But he doesn’t know how to get there…
He works endlessly, falsely believing that “If I can just earn this next bonus or buy her this thing, then she’ll be happy and appreciate everything I’ve sacrificed for her”.
But it doesn’t happen.
More often than not, his efforts to “earn” his spouse’s approval and love alienate her even further, making him feel unloved, unwanted and under appreciated.
The reason is simple…
Most men (even “successful” men) have no idea how to open themselves up, experience true intimacy and deeper levels of connection.
And this is where a men’s coach comes into play.
Your men’s coach is to relationships what a US Navy SEAL is to combat.
Since most men’s coaches have a background in dating, seduction, and relationships (before evolving their craft into a more mature approach) they will teach you the proven strategies (that none of your family, friends, and peers know) so that you can transform into the type of man that women respect, admire, and brag about to their girlfriends.
A men’s coach will help you unlock the door to true connection and intimacy so that you can experience a level 10/10 relationship that will make her fall in love with you all over again.
He will help you show up as the man your spouse so desperately craves and teach you the mindsets and habits that will lead to a fulfilling intimate relationship that will unconsciously spark a little envy in the hearts of other men and other women.
3. You Need Heavy Masculine Accountability to Take the Difficult Actions Required to Live the Life You Want
Letting a men’s coach down is very different from letting down your counselor or golf buddies. There is a deeper respect and stronger bond that’s developed when you work with your men’s coach.
This respect and conviction is born from the very essence of masculinity and the desire to live in integrity and be a man of your word.
And if your word means nothing… then are you really a powerful man?
When a man is held accountable by someone he deeply respects then he focuses harder and takes the right actions and gets positive and satisfying results
You can’t hide.
You can’t play small.
You can’t live with the excuses that you’ve used for decades anymore.
The pain you feel when you let down someone you greatly respect will propel you into action.
It’s a big reality check for you at that moment where your men’s coach is not buying into your b.s. story that you’ve (successfully) been been using on others for years.
You’ll be thinking in the back of your head, “He’s right. I can’t believe I’ve gotten away with this for this long and it’s time to change.”
“If you hang out with chickens, you’re going to cluck and if you hang out with eagles, you’re going to fly.” – Steve Maraboli
Any man can shy away from help because he’s afraid to look foolish yet it’s the truly strong and courageous man who stands up and asks for support.
If you’re reading this article, then you’re already the type of man who surrounds himself with high achieving men.
But the problem is that you cannot always rely on these men for the real feedback and advice that you need to achieve your biggest breakthroughs and get to the next level in life.
Even though you and your peers are playing at a higher level than the average man, they still want to keep you at the same level. It’s just human nature.
While they mean well and care about you and your success, just like crabs in a bucket pulling any escaping crabs back down, they are terrified of the thought of you outgrowing and outperforming them.
Having a men’s coach doesn’t make you weak or incapable it’s where you can get your edge against your competition. It makes you wise for investing in yourself and working with an expert who will help you build a incredible well balanced life.
4. You Lacked Healthy Masculine Role Models Growing Up
Like me, maybe your father wasn’t the best role model. And his failure to lead left you without a strong masculine identity.
This isn’t a put down of your father – he did the best he could with what he was given from his father.
However, unless your father was a truly strong and grounded man who understood how to create a successful and fulfilling life, then you will likely feel lost and unsure of how to navigate the difficult aspects of manhood in the 21st century.
- You may struggle with knowing how to treat women (especially attractive women)…
- You may avoid conflicts so you don’t upset anyone…
- You may not know how to communicate your needs to others…
- You may not stand up for your own values because you put the approval of others above your own…
Men who were raised without a truly masculine role model lean towards a more feminine nature in their day to day interactions.
And don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with embracing your feminine energy, it’s beneficial and even necessary at times.
However, to be a truly grounded man, you must learn to balance your feminine and masculine energies.
If you want to get to the next level in your life, relationships, and personal growth, then you must learn how to tap into your masculine energy in a healthy way.
But maybe this isn’t your problem…
You may be the kind of man who has developed his masculine energy so heavily that he’s fallen prey to the “Overachievement Trap”.
If this is you, then you know it.
You work hard to mask your pain and validate yourself through external success at work to clearly show you are worthy to others.
Not because you love the work, but because you’re unconsciously trying to win the approval of others and saying “Look at me! I’m enough! Look at my success.”
With a men’s coach you have someone with real backbone to boost your masculinity and increase your confidence in a healthy mature way. You learn the right ways to get your needs met, speak your truth, and be respected by others and most importantly – yourself.
5. You Give Away Your Masculine Power to Women to Make them Happy and Avoid Conflict at Your Own Expense.
Woody Allen famously said, “90% of success is showing up”.
The problem today is that most men aren’t showing up for women!
Men have lost the beauty of their masculine edge and women are starving for it.
Due to lies and half-truths that have been drilled into our heads time and time again by the media, pop culture, and even other “proponents” of masculinity, men have been led to believe that masculinity is bad, that it’s dangerous, that it’s “Toxic”.
Men are more afraid than ever to act like men and as a result, feel weak and powerless; castrated by society and emasculated by women.
When the average man sees or interacts with a beautiful woman, he doesn’t show up in a masculine way.
He hides his true intentions, and puts her on a pedestal believing that what he wants is somehow wrong, dirty or even shameful.
Instead of owning his emotions and communicating them honestly and respectfully, he plays it safe; imagining in his mind what it would be like to have sex with her and “subtly” looking her body up and down.
Women unconsiously know when you’re trying to “get” something from her rather than trying to build something with her.
And they’re getting sick and tired of it!
Everywhere we look in modern society women are crying out loud “Where are all the real men?”
Where are the men who will make me feel wanted and desired? The men who aren’t afraid of me? The men who can look me straight in the eye and speak their truth. The men who are strong, grounded, and willing to lead.
But instead, they find weak men. Men who are unable to speak their truth and show up as the masculine man she desperately wants.
And it’s this very behavior that turns strong beautiful women off and puts you at their mercy. She owns you – and loses all respect for you.
To her you are merely a physically bigger man but with no inner backbone to stand your ground.
Working with a men’s coach helps you regain your masculine power and become more respected by and attractive to women.
A men’s coach not only helps you keep your masculine power… you multiply it and go from approval seeking Mr. nice guy to “wow who is that guy over there?”
With the right coach by your side, you’ll learn how to tap into your masculine power use it in a healthy mature way.
And as a result, women will want to be with you and other men will wish that they could be you.
Learn more about the men’s coaching services Knowledge For Men offers here.
6. You Feel Like Your Sole Purpose in Life is to be a Walking ATM
Many men fall victim to what I call the “Walking ATM Trap”.
They’ve bought into the lie propagated by our consumer culture that the entire purpose of a man’s life is to earn money (more than last year) and bring home the check.
If you bring home 6 or multiple 6-figures a year, even if you’re plagued by feelings of unhappiness, unworthiness, and depression then you are still considered a success.
If you don’t, even if you have exceptional health, thriving relationships, and a deep sense of purpose in your life, then you’re a failure.
Some people accept this paradigm… I call b.s.
You weren’t born to wake up, make money, take on loads of stress, buy useless things you don’t need then die.
You were born for something greater.
To live a life of purpose and passion. To have it all in the realms of health, relationships, personal development, and of course finance.
But somewhere along the way, we forgot this truth and fell slaves to the “Walking ATM Trap”.
If you are currently stuck in a model where your sole purpose in life is to make more money, buy bigger, better, and faster toys… then coaching is the secret to your liberation.
Money is a fantastic servant but a terrible master.
When used properly, money can buy you freedom and help you create a lifestyle of true happiness and abundance.
When used improperly, it will make you a slave to its will, steal your soul, and leave you on your deathbed wishing that you could turn back the clock and change how you lived your one life.
The simple truth is that more money is not the answer. You don’t need another “0” in your bank account to make you happy.
You need a fight. Not physical, but a deeper mission to fight for:
“Your purpose in life is to find your purpose and give your whole heart and soul to it.” – Gautama Buddha
To truly live life to the fullest, you must stand for something that’s greater than yourself.
A men’s coach empowers you to find your path and purpose and give your life more meaning. With the right coach at your side, you can wake up excited about the day and the adventures it will bring, enjoying higher levels of clarity, drive, and direction.
This is when your life begins.
7. You Crave the Freedom to Express Yourself, But Instead You Lock Your Emotions in a Box
At the core of every man is the desire to be free.
Ironically, the vast majority of men deprive themselves of this freedom by hiding from themselves and smothering their emotions under and an endless stream of “I’m fine”, “I’m good”, and “I’ve got it all taken care of” when deep down inside this is further from the truth.
In your attempt to please others, you’ve unwittingly put yourself in a mind made prison… And most men are not aware that they hold the key to their own liberation.
We’ve been told our whole lives; “Real men don’t cry”, “Man Up!”, and “You’re fine, quit whining”.
And as a result, we’ve shut ourselves off from experiencing the real depth of emotions available to humans.
In the process, we’ve closed our hearts off from the authentic connection and freedom of expression that we crave and instead, opted to live like a mindless robot, blindly conforming to the ideals and standards set by society.
“Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.” – Jim Morrison
When a man shuts down his emotions he often becomes distant, angry, frustrated, and apathetic. Kind of like the police officer who constantly gives traffic citations for going just above the speed limit or the teacher who snaps so easily and sends students to the principle for minor interruptions.
And you don’t need to look very hard to see the ramifications of this disease in our society.
Despite the drastic medical advancements our society has made suicide and depression are all on the rise.
Fueled largely by a generation of men who are so out of touch with themselves and so deeply hurt from suppressing their emotions that they lash out in unhealthy and, sometimes damaging ways.
A men’s coach will serve as the catalyst you need to deeply connect with your emotions, women, and other men. He will help reignite the spark and passion that once flowed so freely in your life so that you can re-engage with your life and fully participate in all of the joy, heartache, and beauty that is inherent to the human experience.
Your men’s coach will help you free yourself from the emotional cage so that you can finally experience true freedom in your life.
And as a result, you will quickly evolve into the kind of man with that zest and love for life that others find irresistible.
You’ll find your family, friends, spouse, children, and co-workers asking, “What happened to you? And, more importantly… How can I have the same thing?”
You can learn more about the men’s coaching services Knowledge For Men offers here.
8. You Go Through Life without Strong Masculine Support and Feel Like You’re Doing Life Alone
I don’t mean the men that you compete with on the golf course, or your business buddies, or high flying associates.
These men are often just as disconnected and out of touch as you currently feel, making it all but impossible for you to open up and share your truth with them.
Sure, they might know how to put deals together or they might be the epitome of the “Alpha” male, knowing how to get laid, build muscle, and make large sums of money.
But they don’t stand for your greatness. They aren’t there for you when you’re going through real problems. And they don’t know how to help you work through the emotional and spiritual baggage that’s holding you down… Because they’re afflicted by the same challenges you are.
Most men go their entire lives without close male friends who are willing to be truly authentic and supportive – which means they are living on the surface layer and ultimately, going through life alone.
They’re terrified of reaching out to their existing friends for fear of judgment or thinking they’ll just say “Come on, just be a man!” which doesn’t help at all.
Show me a man who struggles to connect with other men, and I’ll show you a man who feels empty, depressed, and alone – aka suffering.
Humans need to connect at a deep level to be emotionally free and healthy.
It’s no wonder that according to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention the suicide rate for men is 3.5x higher than women.
This is a very real social problem that people aren’t talking about and most men aren’t even aware of themselves.
Do you have men in your life that you can share the good, the bad and the ugly with who will listen and support you?
Can you be vulnerable and share what’s really going on with other men without being scrutinized or labeled a weak man?
Men who live in the world of truths tend to be more connected to the world and those around them and as a result find more joy, happiness, and fulfillment in their lives.
If the answer is “No” (and, statistically speaking it is), then a men’s coach will help you authentically connect with other men and learn to share what’s really going on without fear of reprisal or judgement. This will lead to greater levels of friendship, intimacy and connection with those you care about most.
9. You Believe Being a “Strong” Man Means that You Can’t Ask For Help.
We’ve been sold a lie that “Self Reliance” and becoming a “Self Made Man” are the epitome of being a man… And we’re just now beginning to realize the terrible price that comes with this belief that you have to figure everything out on your own.
To avoid looking “weak”, you waste precious time, money, and energy trying to figure everything out on your own instead of working with someone who already has the answers you seek and the guidance you need.
What makes you a strong man isn’t your ability to do everything on your own. It’s your ability to admit that you can’t do it alone, so that you can ultimatley get results faster and in less time.
Think back on your life and where you are today…
How many mistakes have you made in your career, relationships, health, or personal development that could have been avoided if you’d only asked for guidance from someone with the results you want?
What relationships could you have saved (or left) before they devolved into a toxic and painful break up?
How much pain was created from all of this? How much better would your life be today… If only you’d had the courage to ask for help?
In the same way that a fitness coach can help you transform your physical fitness, a men’s coach can help you transform your emotional, spiritual, and romantic fitness by teaching you to identify and avoid potential problems before they ever occur.
As hard as this might be to hear you don’t know everything. Congrats on all of the success you’ve had in your life but, what got you here, won’t get you there.
Having a men’s coach isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s the purest sign of true strength and courage.
Your coach won’t judge or belittle you… you get a partner with only your best interest at heart and can tap into the true power that lies within.
10. You Hide Behind Your Professional Successes, but No One Can Tell
One of the most insidious traps that modern man falls into is the trap of playing BIG in career and hiding behind his successes so that he can play small in other important areas of his life.
You’re hurting. You’re longing for more… And no one knows this but you.
You’re hiding behind all of your achievements to mask the real issues in your life and the fact that you’re relationships, physical health, and spiritual connection are faltering.
When you play small, you stop growing – and as Tony Robbins says “if you aren’t growing you’re dying.”
It’s about creating a life that feels good on the inside and not a life that just looks good on the outside.
You know as well as I do that earning more money won’t do much to enhance your life and help you grow as a man. You’ll still have the same problems just a few more zeros in the bank account or plaques to put on your wall.
After a certain point, it’s all the same anyways isn’t it?
Yet you relentlessly pursue these financial goals to escape facing the pain and hard work that is required to improve other important areas of your life that are severely lacking.
When you work with a men’s coach, you can no longer hide behind the external validation and facade that you’ve been using for so many years.
A men’s coach can see right through you and identify the core issues in your life that need to be worked on immediately to prevent a future crisis on the horizon.
You will be forced to identify, address, and overcome the challenges in your life that have been stealing your freedom, peace and joy for so many years.
And by the time you’re done, you, your partner, your kids, your family, and your peers will barely recognize the new man you’ve become for the better.
Everyone in your life wins when you stop hiding.
This is it…
Your journey begins now.
I don’t care where you’ve come from, what you’ve been through, or what you’ve achieved.
This is a call to all men to be great!
It’s time to take charge of your life, drop the mask you’ve been hiding behind for so many years, and finally achieve the life you’ve always wanted.
You’re time on this earth is limited and, as far as we know, this is your only opportunity to make it count.
To live the life of freedom, adventure, authentic connection, and TRUTH that you’ve always wanted to live.
To stop hiding behind your accolades and achievements and address the real issues that have been depriving you of true happiness for so many years.
Yes, it is a scary journey, but you don’t have to do it alone. There are men out there who will stand for your greatness and help you rise.
If this message has resonated with you, then I want to invite you to join us on this journey and allow us to serve you and help you breakthrough to the next level.
Your future begins now
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