Christian Hudson is a world traveler, adventurist, and CEO of an 8-figure e-commerce site, the Social Man dedicated to helping men improve their confidence and dating life.
Favorite Success Quote
“The three greatest searches in life for love, purpose, and truth and never resolved at our convenience.” – Christian Hudson
“A man who carries a cat by the tail learns something he can learn in no other way.” – Mark Twain
Key Points (Christian’s 30 Day Challenge)
1. Take Care of Your Physical Health
One of the quickest ways to increase your confidence, self-esteem, and social performance is to take care of your health.
For the next 30 days, I want you to commit to exercising daily, eating healthy, and getting high-quality sleep.
Exercising doesn’t have to be long or strenuous either.
While you can certainly hit the gym 5-7 days a week and pump iron like you’re Arnold, a simple 20-minute bodyweight circuit or a set of high-intensity sprints will more than suffice.
When it comes to your diet, the rules are simple.
Just eat real food.
Stop eating low quality, nutritionally devoid processed crap and eat like our ancestors did.
Go to the grocery store and buy high quality meats, fruits, and vegetables and throw out all of the junk in your pantry.
For many of you reading this, you already follow a regular exercise program and eat healthy foods, but for some reason, you still aren’t making the gains that you want, and you still suffer from low energy levels.
If this is the case, then make a commitment over the next 30 days to get 8 hours of sleep a night.
And not just 8 hours of good sleep, 8 hours of great sleep.
Sleep in a blacked out room, buy a new mattress (if you can afford it), turn the thermostat down to 68 F, and turn off all electronics 2 hours before bed.
If you follow the plan that I have laid out above, your energy levels will skyrocket, your confidence will flourish, and you will be able to show up in every social interaction as a stronger more grounded man.
2. Cut out the Porn and Video Games
Gentlemen, if you want to become a stronger man who women love and men respect, then you have got to cut out the porn and video games.
Porn is a poison.
It wastes your time, corrupts your view of sex and women, and lowers your self-esteem.
Cut it out immediately.
(If you are struggling with porn addiction, you can check out my best-selling book The Porn Pandemic)
But for some of you, porn isn’t your biggest problem.
Instead, your “social vampire” is video games.
While it’s ok to play a round of Call of Duty every now and again with friends, when you make it a daily habit to sit in front of the TV and live in a virtual reality, you are draining your energy levels and depriving yourself of real, authentic human connection.
If you want to level up your game and become a social powerhouse, then you must cut out porn and video games immediately.
Make it through the first 30 days and see how you feel.
Odds are, you will never go back.
3. Meet Women Online and In Real Life
Most men focus on either approach game or online game, but very few men focus on both.
If you want to maximize the number of dates that you are able to get and the number of interactions that you can have with beautiful women, then you need to leverage both online and offline methods.
Get on Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid and any other dating site that strikes your fancy and use this to build up your confidence and meet women with similar interests.
But don’t become reliant on it.
While you are meeting women online, you need to make a concentrated effort to spend time each and every day meeting women in the real world.
Embrace your fears and put yourself out there.
The more women you meet, especially in low-risk environments like coffee shops and grocery stores, the more confidence you will gain and the more success you will see.
4. Devote 4 Hours a Day to Your Social Life
If you had a girlfriend, odds are you would probably spend at least four hours with her each day.
And if you really want to grow your social prowess and become a man in demand, then you need to devote that same amount of time to meeting new people and talking to women every day.
This doesn’t mean that you have to go clubbing every night or that you need to drop $200 at the bar 7 days a week.
It just means that you need to make a conscious effort over the next 30 days to spend at least 4 hours of your day in social settings.
Go out with friends, join local groups, or get involved in some sort of community activity.
If you devote 30 days to consciously growing and nurturing your social skills for four hours a day, I promise you that your life will never be the same.
5. Build Social Momentum
Over the next 30 days, go onto Meetup.com and get involved in local clubs, organizations, and charities.
The goal here is to build social momentum.
While it might be difficult for you to go out and cold approach 5 women a day, all of you can go volunteer at a local habit for humanity build once a week.
It’s simple activities like this that will build your social circle and create the momentum you need to crush it with women and in life.
A Brief History of Everything by Ken Wilber
Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance by Robert Pirsig
How to Get Rich by Felix Dennis
Shantaram by Gregory Roberts