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Nick Savoy is the President and founder of Love Systems. A company which defines itself with one simple phrase “We help men succeed with women.” What started out in Savoy’s apartment back in 2004 has grown into an international academy and has taught over ten thousand men to get the girls of their dreams. It is one of the largest and most successful companies to offer training in the art of seduction or ‘game’.
Favorite Success Quote
“Don’t dream it, be it” – Rocky Horror Picture Show
1. What Gets Measured Gets Managed
Have you ever noticed how most men take a wildly different approach to their love lives and romantic fulfillment then they do any other area of life?
While guys will meticulously track their income, calories, and workouts, they will almost never adopt the same approach to their dating and relationships.
But the simple fact is that “What gets measured gets managed” period.
If you want to upgrade your dating life then you need to start making a conscious effort to measure your successes and failures.
Create a diary in your Evernote where you record the quality of different approaches, what was said, what went well, and what could have gone better.
Start giving yourself a score for each approach and interaction and consciously take note of the different patterns and problems that are arising.
Once you are consistently measuring something, then you can start to figure out ways that you can manage and improve it.
Treat your dating life like anything else and you will start to see more success than you ever thought possible.
2. Clarity Precedes Success
Everyone says that they want to be successful with women.
But what the hell does that even mean?
Does that mean that you meet “The One”, ride off into the sunset, get married, have 2.5 kids, and buy a house with a white picket fence?
Does it mean that you are bedding a new girl every night and have seduction abilities that would put Casanova to shame?
Does it mean that you have an abundant circle of beautiful women that you are dating without any sort of commitment or attachment?
There is no right answer, but your specific idea of success must be defined before it can become a reality.
3. Being Nice isn’t a Scarce Resource
The biggest problem with the “Nice guy” isn’t that men are too nice.
It is that they rely on “niceness” to try and woo and seduce women.
The issue here is that “nice guys” aren’t a scarce resource.
There are literally thousands of men in any given city who are willing to be nice to a woman, to give her compliments, to prioritize her over themselves, or to buy her things.
This is commonplace at best.
What is rare is a man who is willing to speak his mind.
A man who can take a woman on an adventure, who can take charge, and lead her without fear of her disapproval.
Being nice isn’t a bad thing.
Thinking that being nice is your biggest resource is.
4. Focus on Emotional Connection
The best way to succeed with women is to learn how to make genuine and authentic emotional connections.
And I don’t mean just asking them where they are from, what they do for a living, or what their favorite flavor of ice cream is.
This interview style of connection almost never works.
The key to creating emotional connection is to be interesting and even provocative.
Ask women questions, and then follow up with statements. Especially statements with a high level of polarity.
If a woman makes a comment about something and you disagree, then say so.
This will create a level of emotional investment where she will want to prove herself and her views to you, and it will give you the opportunity to display your value and your resolve.
When you can connect with women emotionally and find things that are close to their heart, you will experience much greater levels of success then simply interviewing her or making bland statements.
5. Just Have Fun
Look at the end of the day it is easy to get bogged down in the tactics and strategies of seduction.
It’s easy to make “game” a chore.
But the real key to having high levels of success with women is to simply have fun.
Just enjoy yourself.
Enjoy the process, enjoy the rejection, and enjoy going out with your friends to various venues.
When you can remove all dependence on outcome and just go out to have fun, you will unlock a power and a level of game that is almost out of this world.
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