83: Bryan Bayer: Stepping Into Your Authentic Self

Bryan Bayer, a personal coach and a co-founder of AuthenticSF, has coached hundreds of people to success in the areas of communications, business, and relationship. Drawing from an extensive study of integral theory, developmental psychology, and man/woman dynamics.

Key Points

1. Get Present 

The first step to living a truly abundant and joyful life is to get present.

It sounds simple, it sounds cliche, but it works.

Right now, as you are reading this.

I want you to get present.

Take three deep breaths, feel the contact of your body on the chair, get aware of the sounds, notice the feelings and emotions that are arising for you as you read this.

How does that feel?

Pretty cool huh?

When you can show up in every encounter, every relationship, and ever moment of your life with a high level of presence, you will find that the pieces start to fall into place.

When you are present, you make better decisions, express love and gratitude, and get in touch with what is really important to you.

So get present.

It will change your life.

2. Become Curious About the People in Your Life  

If you want to improve your relationships in ways that you never imagined, then you must become insanely curious about the people in your life.

Sit down with someone that you love and just start to ask them questions. There is only one rule.

You must be deeply interested in the answer to the questions that you are asking.

While this exercise might be simple, if you apply it correctly, it can absolutely revolutionize your relationships.

3. Love Yourself First 

If you really want to become the kind of man who can attract and keep an amazing woman, then you must first become the kind of man who can love and appreciate himself.

Take time in your life to truly fall in love with yourself.

Commit to a “No Woman Diet” where, for a period of six weeks, you focus only on yourself.

Do the things that you want to do.

Become curious about who you are and what makes you tick.

Stop worrying about what women think. Don’t even make eye contact as you walk down the street.

Take this time to fall madly and deeply in love with yourself.

Just like we can only give our financial resources from a place of surplus, we can only truly love others whenever we are coming from a place of abundant love for ourselves.

4. We Are All in this Together

Instead of getting swept up in the tide of who is wrong and who is right, which country is better, and which political party or religion you follow.

Stop, take a deep breath and consider that we are all in this together.

We are all on this planet, on this crazy journey called life, together.

We are here to live, to love, to laugh, and to play.

Regardless of religion, race, or politics.

When you stop and remember that we are all human and that we all have the same needs, wants, and desires, you will quickly find yourself living more compassionately, more lovingly, and more fully.

5. Just Enjoy the Ride 

Look, life is crazy.

We don’t know what each day is going to bring and we never really know where we are headed.

So instead of worrying and stressing and trying to have everything figured out, why not just enjoy the ride?

Live, love, laugh, play.

Get out in nature, tell your woman that you love her, run around in the mud.

Just live your life, enjoy your life, and perfect your life.

Because it’s the only one you’ve got.

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