How to Playfully Tease Women — And Make Them Want You

Attracting beautiful women isn’t easy. It doesn’t matter how elite you are; it can be hard to catch her eye and keep her interested. Chances are, you’re playing it too safe. 

Yes, women like to be treated well — the dates, the flowers, the whole shebang. However, she will lose interest if you’re coming across as too keen. Teasing is the secret key. 

71% of women say that humorous flirtation is a turn-on and gets them in the mood. So, if you can perfect this art form, your dating game will change for the better. 

There’s a right and a wrong way to tease her. Getting this right is essential if you want her to treat you like an alpha male. In this article, I will share how you can tease her and make her want you so you can make your move.

Women Fall for Men Who Tell Jokes, According to Science

Do you have a Good Sense of Humor (GSOH)? It is a cliche for a reason. 

Women do fall for men who can make them laugh. While other factors are at play, if you can make her laugh, you’ve increased your chances of sealing the deal ten-fold. Don’t just take my word for it — experts have researched this area of human psychology.

According to a 2016 study on flirtation, humor is the most effective approach. The scientists said it doesn’t matter whether you are looking for a one-night stand or a long-term relationship. The best way to get what you want is to make her laugh. 

It doesn’t end there. It would be best to tell her that you think she’s funny. Humor needs to be a reciprocal thing. When sparks are flying, you should both be laughing. 

“It is not only effective to be funny, but for women, it is crucial that you show your potential partner that you think they are funny,” said psychologist Rebecca Burch from the State University of New York at Oswego in an article based on the study.

The takeaway is clear: Stop chasing women and make them laugh instead. When she sees that you are fun to be around, she will start to envision a happy, blissful life with you. It’s that simple. You want her to be fantasizing about a future with you by her side. 

How a Woman Reacts to Teasing Tells You Everything 

Teasing is a common flirtation technique. You might have a little back, and forth when you’re chatting with a woman you’re into. One thing holding men back when they think about using this approach is whether she will welcome the game with open arms. 

Believe it or not, how a woman reacts to teasing will tell you everything you need to know about her. You’re looking for a woman who can take a light-hearted joke. 

If a woman can laugh at herself, she is real relationship material. Research suggests that people who respond well to ridicule are more likely to be satisfied in a relationship. Think of it like a test. When you’re first getting to know her, tease her and see what happens. 

Let’s say she gets overly offended and starts making a scene. If you haven’t crossed a line, she may have some issues that she’s dealing with. For example, if she has low self-esteem as it is, she will blow up when you say anything that knocks her confidence. 

On the other hand, if she laughs and teases you back, you know that she’s a keeper. When a woman is open to a low level of ridicule, that is a positive sign. It shows that she doesn’t take herself too seriously and can give as good as she gets. 

You’re looking for a partner — someone who can meet you halfway. You don’t want someone who is going to be too sensitive and get upset at minor things. 

How to Avoid Crossing the Line When Teasing a Woman 

Teasing can be flirtatious, but you don’t want to take things too far and cross the line. Go too far and you’ll end up turning her off and losing any chance you might have had with her. The so-called ‘negging’ culture has a lot to answer for here. 

Pick-up artists tell you you can ‘neg’ a woman into bed. That may be true. But you should leave this gimmick behind if you’re looking for a real relationship. 

For those of you who don’t know, ‘negging’ is all about lowering a woman’s confidence. You get her a compliment while simultaneously insulting her.

For example, you might say ‘You’re funny for a woman’ or ‘You’re really pretty for a redhead’. When you say these things, you’re bringing her self-esteem down which — in theory — increases your appeal. 

Here’s the kicker: Bringing her self-confidence down might mean that she sleeps with you. But when morning comes, chances are, she will come to her senses and walk out of the door. The truth is that you don’t need flashy tricks to win a woman’s time and affection. 

There’s an art to teasing a woman and not taking things too far. Women are attracted to men who gently poke fun at them.

However, they are not attracted to mean, cruel or toxic masculinity. When you learn that, you will be well on the way to getting it right. To give you some hints, here are some of the things that you need to avoid when teasing a woman: 

  • Being serious with the insults you throw out 
  • Commenting negatively on a woman’s appearance
  • Drawing attention to her flaws or mistakes
  • Being overly aggressive or borderline rude
  • Humiliating her in front of a group of people 

Read the room. When you’re trying to flirt with a woman by teasing her, take a look at how she (and others around her!) respond to you. When you get a cold reception, you should know that it’s time to call it quits. That’s a surefire sign that you’ve gone too far. 

The better you are at communicating — and reading women’s body language — the better your chances of success will be. The moment that you sense any discomfort in the way that she is acting toward you, you need to cool it.

When her mood changes, thanks to something you’ve said, there will be no way that you can win her back after that. You want to hook her and make it last.

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5 Ways to Tease a Woman and Show You’re Interested in Her 

Think teasing is all about making fun of her? Think again.

When talking to a woman, your aim is to create a real rapport. You want to leave her wanting more. Women need to be stimulated. B

eing the nice guy will only get you so far. You need to make her think about you when you’re not even around. Here are some of the ways to go.

1. Assign her a funny nickname and use it all of the time 

See a woman who piques your interest? Introduce yourself, get to know her, and then give her a funny nickname.

You get bonus points if she’s not all that into the name. Find one that mildly gets on her nerves and you will have her begging you to pick a new one. 

All of a sudden, you’ve got her attention. For example, you can go with something that rhymes with her name or just the name of where she’s from.

Let’s say a woman is from Florida but seemed awkward when she said it. From then on, call her ‘Hey, Florida!’

2. Make funny presumptions about her or her past 

Women love it when you pay attention. So, why not play with that fact? While you’re getting to know a new woman, make some presumptions about her and her past. 

For instance, if she says that she likes a certain band, you could presume that she was a goth. You might make funny comments about her gothy past and ask her if she only wore black when she was a teenager. Ask her if she had a MySpace page too. 

This type of teasing works two-fold: First up, she will want to set you straight and prove to you that she wasn’t a goth after all.

Secondly, she will appreciate that you have noticed something about her and that you’re paying her some interest. It’s a win-win scenario.   

3. Mildly disagree with something that she says 

Establishing some friendly banter with a woman can be tricky. However, the key to this teasing approach is all about disagreeing on something that doesn’t matter. 

You might be talking about TV shows, for instance. If she says that her favorite series is Breaking Bad, you can take that and use it to make a joke. You might say something like, ‘Oh yeah, that was good when it came out. But I think most of us have moved on now.’

Bam! You’ve disagreed with her in one sentence and insinuated that she is somehow ‘other.’

You’ve said that you are part of the mainstream — the ‘us’ — and she is an outsider. You’re in the know and she has to work hard to get back on side with you. 

If you pitch this just right, you will find that she fights back. She might flirtatiously say that ‘No, I don’t think we have moved on yet. It’s an absolute classic and all smart people know that’.

When she comes back with a funny reply, you know that you’ve got her attention.

4. Establish an ‘in joke’ and keep referring back to it 

Creating some fire is about an ‘us’ vs. ‘them’ dynamic.

You can make it seem like you and she are in a small club to create an ‘in joke’. This joke should be about her but shouldn’t be mean or rude to tease her. It can be anything you have noticed. 

For example, let’s say that she never washes her coffee mug up in the office. You notice.

So, you start calling her a ‘washing-up slacker’ and hinting that she is a messy person. When you’re out with a group, you can call back to this joke but only to her.

5. Take the things that she says out of context 

Here’s where you can be a bit cheeky. Let’s say you’re meeting and she texts you, ‘ I’m coming, see you in five!’

You can easily take that out of context and suggest that she was being overly sexual with you. You might say, ‘Too much info… but see you soon!’

Playing with the words that she says and purposely misinterpreting her has its pros. She will rush to defend herself and engage with you on a deeper level. Y

You will also find that she wants you to understand her better — so she will spend more time with you. 

The Takeaway 

Playfully teasing women is a surefire way to get their attention. It doesn’t matter whether you’re a millionaire or a dishwasher; you will find that this approach works.

It gives women a chance to chase you and prove you wrong about them. Practice makes perfect! Perhaps you have had your eye on a woman at work. Maybe you see someone in a bar when you’re next out. Whenever the opportunity arises, try playfully teasing her and see if you get her attention. 

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