As men, we all like to think we’re the most reassuring partners in the world. However, it’s no secret that we sometimes struggle to articulate our thoughts into spoken words.
Internally, we are unequivocally sure that we deeply love and cherish our partners, but we sometimes struggle to convey that through our words.
At the same time, it isn’t just about what you say but what you do. Words are great, but other factors like body language and acts of kindness send a far stronger message.
So what should a man do to reassure his girlfriend of his love? Today, I’ll tackle that question by discussing 11 simple ways to do just that.
It’s important to remember that we all view the world through past experiences. Even though you and your partner have a healthy and loving relationship, you must be mindful of what has come before you.
If your girlfriend has had bad experiences with past relationships, she may need you to provide even more reassurance to make her feel safe and loved.
You need to understand that it’s your responsibility as an alpha to make those around you feel valued, respected, and safe. This is true for your family and friends, and especially your romantic partner.
So, if you’re searching for some surefire ways to reassure that special woman in your life that you will always love and cherish her, this article is for you.
1. Solidify Your Bond With Trust — Be The Most Trustworthy Man You Can Be
If your girlfriend has been deeply hurt by past relationships, you may need to go a step above to help her rebuild her trust in men.
This probably goes without saying, but you never want to be unfaithful. Besides that, you also want to be keenly aware of how your other (seemingly innocent) actions can lead to distrust.
For example, telling little ‘white lies’ might seem harmless to you because you know there’s nothing sinister behind them. At the same time, if your girlfriend has been with a dishonest partner in the past, she may now be hyper-aware of any and all forms of dishonesty.
So, if you lied about working late to watch Monday night football with your boys, it may not seem like a big deal to you…
But if your girlfriend has been cheated on in the past, these lies might seem like a precursor to a larger problem. She might start to distrust you and question other things you do — things you know are harmless but nevertheless make her uneasy.
The simplest thing to do is be the type of man who is honest with his girlfriend at all times. Just tell the truth — always. If you never lie, you’ll never give her a reason to distrust you.
Be honest about who you are and what you need. Don’t be afraid to voice your needs, and never hide behind white lies to get the things you want.
2. Bring Her Into Your Inner Circle and Introduce Her To EVERYONE
This is probably a no-brainer to some, but it needs to be mentioned. When you introduce your girlfriend to your friends, coworkers, and family, it sends a strong signal that she is someone special who you intend to keep around for the long haul.
When you bring your girlfriend into your larger social circle, it reassures her that you want her as a partner in all walks of life. It shows commitment and dedication to building a life and a future together.
And it does more than just show commitment — it helps her become more integrated and comfortable in your life as a whole.
When it comes to your family, these people — for better or for worse — helped shape who you are. If you introduce your girlfriend to these people, she gets a glimpse of your personal history that helped shape the man you are today.
Beyond that, introducing your girlfriend to others is a simple way to convey exclusivity. You’re showing her that you’re proud to have her by your side and further reassure her of your commitment to her.
3. Share Your Vision For A Future Together And Communicate Your Long-Term Intentions
Of course, if you don’t envision a future together, you shouldn’t lie about this just to make her feel better…
But assuming you are in a long-term, serious, and healthy relationship with your girlfriend, you should clearly express your thoughts and feelings about the future.
I’m not saying you have to sit down and start figuring out the downpayment on a mortgage or pick out names for your unborn children, but do your best to clearly articulate that you plan on building a life with her.
Remember what I said about past experiences. Sure, you may have known from the second date that the two of you had great potential, but don’t assume that your feelings are clear to her.
As you may well know, the worst breakups are the ones where you think the relationship will go the distance, only to find the entire thing was built on unsteady ground from the start…
If your girlfriend suffered through a bad breakup in the past, she may be trepidatious about the future.
Reassure her by telling her that you see this relationship going the distance and you want her to be in your life long-term.
4. Never Forget The Power Of A Simple Complement — And Never Get Lazy With Them
Ever eaten at a certain restaurant that was amazing the first time you went but then somehow seemed less impressive when you went back a second time?
Or have you ever watched a movie and raved about it to everyone you know? But when you sat down to rewatch it again, it didn’t seem to have the same wow factor?
It’s natural for excitement to fade over time. This is true with food, movies, trips, and also with romantic relationships.
That’s why it is so important to put in the extra energy and never take your girlfriend for granted. If I were to ask you how your girlfriend looked on the first date, you’d probably tell me she looked amazing — like the most beautiful girl you ever saw.
Well, do you think that really was the best she ever looked, or did you just see things that way because the excitement tainted her view?
Train yourself to recapture this energy every day. Never take your girlfriend for granted, never forget why you love her, and always give her genuine compliments.
Even if she makes you that chicken alfredo dish that you really like, and even if you’ve had it 100 times, always pretend you’re having it for the first time.
Tap into the memory of the past experience to ensure she always feels cherished and appreciated.
5. When Distance Gets In The Way, Use Technology To Your Advantage
Never underestimate the power of a flirty text message to bring a little excitement to your girlfriend’s day. If you’re creative, use that to your advantage and use the written word to charm her.
And if you’re not, a simple ‘good morning’ or ‘I can’t wait to see you later’ will more than suffice.
Again, sincerity is the key; as long as you genuinely mean what you say, you really can’t go wrong.
Also, consider sharing things with her that you’ll know she’ll like. If you come across a cute cat video on social media and she has a thing for cats, send it her way just to let her know that you’re on her mind.
The point is to prioritize your girlfriend’s feelings and presence in your life, even when you’re physically apart.
6. Be A Thoughtful Gentleman And Learn How To Surprise Her With Gifts
Some men like to shower their girlfriends with expensive, elaborate gifts. And if you have really deep pockets and are willing and able to do this, then by all means, don’t let me stop you.
But for the average person, little thoughtful gifts can be just as effective. The secret isn’t so much about the gift itself, it’s about giving it at a time when it’s unexpected.
Most men know enough to give intentional gifts for holidays, birthdays, and other special occasions, but you don’t want to fall into a routine where these are the only times you give gifts.
Be a little spontaneous. Don’t wait for the big occasions where gifts are perfunctory. Bring some excitement into her life.
Order her a book. Bring home a special dessert. Maybe grab some tickets to the play she’s been mentioning. Whatever is in your financial means and that you’re comfortable with, go for it.
7. Reassure Her That You’ll Always Be Her Pillar Of Support
As cliche as it may sound, being a good friend to your girlfriend is more important than you may realize. Before you say, “Of course I’m a good friend to my girlfriend,” just think about the question for a second.
Being a friend means being someone she can rely on. It means being the one person she can share anything with without having to fear judgment.
In other words, you need to be the person who is there through all life’s ups and downs. You need to be a good listener — always.
For example, listening to her stories about her work woes might not be the most stimulating topic of conversation, but it’s probably something that’s very important to her.
Sure, work rants might be tedious to listen to, but things like this are the most important to pay attention to.
Similarly, celebrate her achievements with her, no matter how big or small they may seem to you. Build on her excitement and let that be the source of your energy.
8. Don’t Be Afraid To Open Up About Your Fears And Insecurities
As counterintuitive as it may seem, the key to making your girlfriend feel reassured may be showing some vulnerability yourself.
While you may believe that showing your weaknesses is a sign of, well, weakness, it can actually strengthen a relationship.
We all have parts of ourselves that we aren’t completely confident about. You can either choose to hide them or be open with them to your romantic partner. Being open will deepen your level of intimacy, and that in turn builds trust and reassurance.
When you share these deeper parts of yourself, you signal that you’re not just in the relationship looking to have a good time but are committed for the long haul.
If you struggle to open up and articulate your inner thoughts, it may be worth devoting some time and energy to mastering these skills. A professional coaching or mentorship group, like the one offered at Knowledge for Men, can help you get there.
9. Learn About Love Languages And Discover The Unique Things That Make Her Feel Cherished
Love languages refer to one of several ways people express love: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, or physical touch.
We all have a specific love language that resonates with us more than others. Just because something resonates with you doesn’t mean that the same thing will resonate with your girlfriend.
For example, acts of service might be what makes you feel loved. Maybe you appreciate it when someone does something practical to help you out — like fixing something around the house or doing a chore you dislike.
However, your girlfriend might feel most loved through spending time with you. This means that weekend trips, excursions, and new experiences help her foster a deeper connection with you.
It’s common for couples to have a great miscommunication surrounding love languages.
One partner might think they’re the most affectionate person in the world, but if they’re viewing things through the lens of a different love language, it won’t come across that way.
And figuring out love languages doesn’t need to be complicated. It’s not something you need to search for and try to decipher. Most people have a basic understanding of what makes them feel loved, so all you really have to do is ask.
10. Accept Her For Who She Is And Forgive Her Past Mistakes
All too often, people in romantic relationships think that they can change their partners. They think that with enough pressure, they can force the person to stop doing this one thing or things that they don’t like.
Any healthy relationship is built on acceptance and understanding. You should accept your girlfriend for who she is, and she should accept you.
No one is perfect; not her and certainly not you. And when you love someone, you need to love them for who they are, not for who you’d like them to be.
If there’s something about your girlfriend that is legitimately a deal breaker for you, then make the hard decision and end the relationship. But whatever you do, don’t put pressure on her to try and change who she is because that’s just going to erode the trust in the relationship and breed animosity.
Similarly, be accepting of her mistakes because, again, no one is perfect. You’re both going to make mistakes throughout the course of your relationship that inadvertently cause the other person emotional pain.
Often, when arguments arise, these mistakes come to light again and are used as ammunition for the argument. Don’t do this. Let past mistakes die and look toward the future.
Forgiving doesn’t mean forgetting hurtful behavior; it simply means acknowledging it and learning from it. In other words, don’t let the past weigh down the future of your relationship.
11. Become A More Self-Assured Man
Doubt and fear in relationships can create a slippery slope. It becomes increasingly difficult to provide reassurance to your partner when you yourself are struggling with deep-rooted insecurities.
And if this is the case, it can affect your girlfriend’s inner feelings more than you realize.
That’s why working on your self-assurance is paramount, not just for you but for the health of your relationship.
A true alpha is able to radiate his confidence outwardly, and that positively impacts those around him — especially his romantic partner.
If you can handle setbacks and failures with resilience, it shows that you are a reliable and grounded partner.
The same traits that make a good leader help a man be a good partner. If you’re in a situation where you’re too self-absorbed with your inner demons, you’ll never be able to provide the love and support that your girlfriend needs.
Providing reassurance and love to your girlfriend intrinsically relates to personal growth and being a better man. As the saying goes, it’s difficult to love anyone if you don’t love yourself.
When you are a strong, self-assured, and reliable man, it becomes that much easier to give your girlfriend the reassurance she needs. But when you have unresolved issues and insecurities, these things can inadvertently seep into your relationship.
By working on yourself, addressing your fears, and striving to improve yourself not only as a partner but as a man in general, you can be the beacon of strength and support that your loved ones need.
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