Trash Your Porn, Quit Masturbating and Crush Life

For the first time in human history the availability of high speed internet access has brought with it unprecedented levels of porn and masturbation use among young men today.

Generation Y is in danger.

Claims are made online that masturbation is healthy for you, but that’s similar to saying a glass of wine a day is healthy for the heart—when you overdo it, things get out of control. Men are not aware of the negative side effects of frequent porn and masturbation, especially when combined, and as a result they do significant damage to their lives. The point is if you quit masturbating and porn use you will see dramatic improvements in your physical and emotional well being.

Before we start digging in, understand that dopamine is a chemical in the brain (a neurotransmitter, specifically), that helps control the brain’s pleasure center. Then, watch the TED Talk: The Great Porn Experiment:

If you start masturbating in your teens, when your dopamine levels are at their peak, then by age 22 you can develop severe chemical imbalances. These imbalances can lead to depression, severe social anxiety, and a lack of healthy relationships. Unending novelty also increases arousal, which makes for unhealthy attitudes in real life—you condition yourself to need new porn, new women and new scenes.

That conditioning leads to a lack of satisfaction in real life, so you’re always wanting something other than what you have in your relationships. Studies show that if masturbating men watch successive porn scenes with the same female, it takes longer and longer to ejaculate. Different women and different scenes lead to faster ejaculation, which is known as The Coolidge Effect.

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Notice how you didn’t stare at one female, but you quickly scanned all of them looking for the next attractive woman.

Our brains aren’t designed to handle so much free and easy access to the women we desire, but now we have it all at the click of a mouse. Each of us has the ability to view (and, to an extent, experience) more women than any man could experience in his entire life 100 or 1,000 years ago. Your brain was never designed to handle this much intense pleasure in such a short amount of time.

This causes dopamine spikes, and that can lead to addiction. It also leads you to connect sexual gratification to being alone, isolation and voyeurism. In real life sexual encounters, it may lead to performance anxiety, erectile dysfunction and OCD.

Real Sex vs Masturbation

Porn essentially comes to replace natural, healthy sex. And what comes with sex is more than what comes with masturbation: courtship, touching, intimacy, smells, pheromones, and emotional connection, among other things. Masturbation skips all of these in favor of quickly triggering orgasm in a more direct way.

We’re tribal, pair-bonding creatures, and as such our brains need close contact for good mental health throughout our lives. When we masturbate too frequently, our brains may replace these basic human needs with ever-increasing desire and more frequent orgasms, without the health-giving touch that actual intercourse provides.

This may modify the brain and its physiology, keeping us from feeling satisfied with actual healthy real-life relationships.

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According to Cyberpsychology Behavior (2/9/2006), “of all activities on the Internet, porn has the most potential to become addictive.” Here’s why: The reward circuit drives humans towards natural rewards. Naked beautiful women give us too much dopamine, which overrides our natural satiation mechanisms.

For the first time in human history, you’re able to completely binge on fake sex, and the affect on brain chemistry is like any other drug: excessive chronic consumption causes dopamine surges, which triggers the binge mechanism (delta fosB accumulates), which in turn triggers cravings for more.

It’s dangerously quick and easy to satisfy that craving again, and the cycle repeats itself. So, instead of turning your natural sex drive into energy that fuels you in meeting and keeping women, you satiate that desire with video and move on with your day—at least until a few hours later, when the craving hits again. You’re getting momentary gratification, and this reduces your drive (and ability) to secure a long-term, healthy solution.

Other areas of your life are affected. You lose your confidence and drive, productivity, and adventurousness. You can push a button and have an orgasm. You do so. It’s free and it’s addicting. You watch some television. You do it again. Play some video games – get frustrated then do it again.

Go out and have a few beers to look forward to coming home to quick session then pass out. It’s depressing, isn’t it? Quit masturbating and take control of your life.

STOP DOING THIS NOW!

Masturbation and porn does more harm than good.

What’s worse is that women sense it, too—overall, you’re less attracted to them because you’ve been satisfied without them, and in turn they’re less attracted to you which ultimately leads to a spiral of more masturbation and porn and more social anxiety since  you have less drive to pursue women in the real world.

Do I have your attention? It’s really important you are reading this because the above stated: the more you masturbate to porn the less likely you are to get laid.

Keep reading to learn more.

In Phillip Zimbardo’s TED talk, “The Demise of Guys?”, Zimbardo asserts that the average boy watches 50 porn clips a week. For every movie made in Hollywood, there are 11,000 porn movies. Brains are being rewired to expect constant novelty and constant arousal, which is out of sync with the reality of real women and real relationships. In fact, the demand that men have for new porn stars cannot keep up with the supply. This trend will only continue as long as men consume more and more pornography.

This causes everyday pleasures to be less exciting than porn activity. This is same for other addicts, but it’s true for porn addicts as well. Few things can cause the kind of dopamine spike that an orgasm can, and healthy activities are steadily phased out. This causes a dullness in the life of man. There is no gusto. No drive to succeed in business, relationships and life. Men won’t be pursuing women in real life. They will go to work, joke around with guys, come home, eat, get online, jerk off to porn, and repeat.

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Porn, the Sexual Performance Killer

A 2011 survey by The Italian Society of Andrology and Sexual Medicine spells it out in depressing black and white: excessive porn kills sexual performance.

In Psychology Today, Marnia Robinson stated that when people “abstain from porn and cut way back on masturbation, their desire to connect with others surges. So does their confidence, their ability to look others in the eye, their sense of humor, their perception of their ‘manliness,’ their concentration, charisma, their optimism, their judgment, their attractiveness to potential mates, and so forth.

Even those formerly suffering from social anxiety are more often than not emboldened to explore new avenues for social contact: smiling and joking with work colleagues, online dating, meditation groups, nightspots, and so forth. In some cases it takes months, but often the shift is so rapid that it catches them by surprise.”

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Without easy gratification, sex drive becomes energy expended in various parts of life.  Quitting frequent porn and masturbation can dramatically improve the quality of your life, especially if it’s a problem in your life that you have not even identified. You’ll notice that you feel more energized, sharper, and focused—because the biological drive that has developed to present you with an evolutionary edge is being put to use instead of squandered.

Take this drive and put it towards focusing on health, your social life, and your career, and you’ll find that you have little need for porn anymore, since women will naturally be attracted to the great life you live.

When stuck in the endless loop of porn indulgence and easy gratification, on the other hand, forming meaningful relationships (sexual and emotional) becomes virtually impossible. Your attachment is to your addiction, nothing else. And since your addiction takes place in private, essentially a secret, you become more isolated and withdrawn socially. This leads to a further decrease in self esteem and sociability, which makes it harder to hang out with people, and the cycle repeats itself.

I suggest quit masturbating and go on a 30 day, then 60 day, then 90 day challenge to fully experience the positive affects of no porn and frequent masturbation. You will see results within two weeks. Strive to make love with women to fulfill your desires instead.

You will find that with all the free time you are being more productive, social, meeting new people, attracting more women into your life, and trying new things.

The key is to understand that frequent porn use and masturbation does not serve you, it only hurts you in the long run. Instead, use that sexual energy to penetrate the world.

Enter Tony Robbins

Self help coach and motivational speaker Tony Robbins discusses how all human experiences can be boiled down into four classes, each determined by the pleasure we feel, if it serves us, if it serves others, and if it serves a greater good.

Class 1Class 2Class 3Class 4
Feels goodYesNoYesNo
Is good for youYesYesNoNo
Is good for othersYesYesNoNo
Serves the greater goodYesYesNoNo

On the flip side, we have Class 3 experiences that feel good, but ultimately destroy our quality of life and give us pain. Any guesses what class porn and masturbation falls in?

Ding ding ding! Frequent Porn and masturbation use is a Class 3 experience.

And the immediate after-effect transitions into a Class 4 experience as you feel depressed, guilty, isolated, lonely, embarrassed, and socially anxious, which prevents you from going out, building relationships and enjoying life.

Tony Robbins argues that the secret is understanding and using the six basic human needs, which are:

  1. Certainty – feeling of comfort
  2. Uncertainty – variety, surprise
  3. Significance – sense that we are unique in some way
  4. Love and Contribution – sense of connection with others
  5. Growth – everything that is alive is either growing or dying… we need to grow
  6. Contribution – a need to grow beyond ourselves

It’s impossible to meet all of these needs if you’re feeling depressed, socially anxious, lazy, or lonely from frequent masturbation and porn use. The effects are horrendous and most people are completely unaware of the negative affects. Excessive porn and masturbation can dramatically decrease your ability to acquire the six basic human needs.

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Enter David Deida

David Deida is an insightful sex essayist and author of “The Way of the Superior Man” who argues that the way we ejaculate typically mirrors the way we interact with the world at large. If we waste our seed, we’re likely also wasting our energy, skills and creativity. As such, he advocates withholding ejaculation (or at least picking the time and situation wisely.)

Quit masturbating and use this newfound energy and drive to fuck the world, not yourself.

Taoists have traditionally been into this idea as well—many of them link semen with vital life force, and as such unnecessary ejaculation equates to needlessly sapping one’s self of energy. At the root of Deida’s concepts is the idea that most masculine energy comes from pent-up sexual drive, so when we allow ourselves to let that build up a little, we see more energy and ambition in our lives.

Isn’t Masturbating Healthy?

The doctor says it’s good to ejaculate because it’s helpful for your prostate. It “flushes your system,” so to speak. But no doctor is going to recommend that you masturbate to porn 2+ times a day and replace normal sexual activity with it.

Masturbating to another male having sex puts you in the beta male position where you are the spectator in another man’s pleasure. The psychological effects of this puts you in a weak state where you place other men on a pedestal who are more “superior” or “alpha” than you. You will see yourself as inferior to other men which ONLY HARMS YOUR PSYCHOLOGY!

You want a healthy sex life, not a healthy masturbatory life. The point is the physical effects of masturbating once a week may serve you well, yet the emotional effects can hinder your success with women and life.

I am encouraging you to quit masturbating and porn use for now, and feel the benefits of no masturbation and porn while you go out and attract the woman you want to be with. Trust me you will develop an aura of energy and confidence that will naturally attract women and others to you like no other.

Given the choice between a great social life, a healthy lifestyle, and regular sex with a woman you are highly attracted to vs. masturbating alone at home, all of us are likely to choose the first option. However, we know the hard route and the easy route and most men will take the easy route. I challenge you to fight for what you want in life and make a stand.

Stop doing what hurts you and do more of what serves you.

I will get the life I want. Say it out loud dammit! I WILL GET THE LIFE I WANT!

How to Quit Masturbating Strategy

It’s going to be tough. It’s going to be very challenging. And some men have found it to be the hardest thing they have ever done, but you are not alone.

The goal is to reduce the amount of masturbation to once per week and eventually to phase it out altogether, replacing it with regular sexual activity with a woman. Not exactly rocket science, right? Jerk it less, work it more. Your body knows the difference stop kidding yourself.

Masturbation SessionsReduce toDuration
3+ per day2 per day1 week
2 per day1 per day1 week
1 per day3 per week2 weeks
3 per week2 per week2 weeks
2 per week1 per week2 weeks
1 per weekAcceptable

Once you achieve 1 per week go for 1 every 2 weeks and you will see very powerful results. From this point you will want to phase out masturbation and porn altogether as you have the energy, drive and confidence to attract a woman and engage in healthy sexual activity. See the testimonials below.

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The goal is to only watch 1 scene to control the dopamine spikes. Yes, this is not as exciting, but it prevents you from becoming addicted. This is like only taking 1 shot of whiskey versus 10. You will not become addicted this way. You want to make porn boring to the point where you would rather go out and do something fun, social, and active—or, better yet, have real sex.

Testimonials

“I’ve been to psychologists for the last 8 years. Diagnosed with depression, social anxiety, memory impairment. tried affecto,zanex, patel many other drugs. dropped out of college twice, fired twice. Women fly away from me even when i’m good looking. Porn addict since age 14 in late 20s now.

Quit porn and off all medication and my anxiety is non existent. My memory and focus are sharper than ever. Huge ‘chick magnet’ and my ED is gone too. I seriously think I had a rebirth, a second chance at life.Today, on my 109th day of a streak, I feel happy, confident, social, smart, capable of meeting any challenge

“I decided to try out a 90 day period of not wanking it at all.

Right now I’m only on day 33 and the results are far beyond what I ever expected. Things have been happening that’s never happened to me before. There is just a very huge difference in my life. As soon as my eyes meet a girl I get this huge “I want to screw you right now” vibe from them. I feel like a god at this point.

I have an incredible amount of free time that i’ve freed up now, so I spent it starting a new business. I get things done and don’t procrastinate anymore.

When I feel the urge to beat my meat I take that as a cue to go get something done.” – RSD Nation Forum Member

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The moral of the story: if you want a real adult life, don’t fap. Face your instincts and deeper feelings that you’ve been ignoring since puberty. They are like a double-edged sword, it can really hurt you, but you will learn to use it if you decide to accept the challenge and strive towards real life.” -Harry Palmer

”Increasing your testosterone can have powerful cognitive and physiological effects. It can enhance your tolerance for stress, helps alleviate fatigue, has mood brightening effects, and improves body composition.

Signs and Symptoms of High Testosterone Levels:

• Well-being (reduction in depression and mild euphoria)

• Confidence (reduced social anxiety and greater assertiveness)

• Energy improvements and greater work capacity

• Motivation (greater ambition)

• Sex drive/libido and response times heightened (shorter refractory period)

• Concentration (greater ability to complete complex mental tasks)

• Strength and muscle mass increases

• Body fat reduction and higher basal metabolic rate”

-Maskatu

“I have been motivated as hell to get my life on track and beyond. All of a sudden, everything is a goal, not an obstacle. ohropax mentioned this. (On a side-note, short-term, and long-term memory is improved, heh)I finally understand what it feels like to be a man who has a hunger for achievement. There really is no way to explain the feeling except that it’s a primal desire, a horniness for success.

Achieving goals, no matter how small, feels awesome. It’s a great little boost to get a long the way.” – reddit user

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Final Thoughts

Using porn to achieve sexual gratification is ultimately a shortcut. The body wants sex, and so you simulate it to quench your craving. That’s called a cop-out.

We’re not about shortcuts and cop-outs here. We’re about healthy, permanent solutions to the things holding you back in life. Men need to go out and meet people, socialize, work out, eat healthy, take care of themselves, and crush it in their professional lives.

These are the things that will attract women to you, and a woman will satisfy you more fully than your own hand every night of the week. The benefits of no porn or masturbation overwhelmingly outweight the short term gain of a quick masturbation session—you’ll have more energy, more drive, more sexual stamina, more motivation, and an overall sense of better wellbeing. The other option increases your isolation, loneliness, and lack of self-worth.

So, no more excuses, and no more shortcuts. Start the plan today, quit masturbating and porn and be amazed at the results.

Once you arrive, you will never turn back. I guarantee it.

A new life awaits.

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* Bonus: The 100 Benefits of Quitting Porn and Masturbation

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1. Clear thinking
2. Breathe better
3. Smoother mood transitions
4. Sharper mental dexterity
5. More articulate
6. Better memory
7. Working through stress more effectively
8. Increased energy levels
9. Reduced depression
10. Deeper interactions with others
11. Improved integrity
12. Boosted confidence
13. No social anxiety
14. Better focus on task at hand
15. Enjoying simple pleasures more deeply
16. Increased faith in ability to control negative mental triggers
17. No risk of arrest or legal troubles
18. Increased joy
19. Renewed self-respect
20. More free time;
21. Need to sleep less
22. More free cash;
23. Confidence to try new things
24. Increased humility
25. Asking others for help
26. Better partnership with girlfriend
27. Better ability to learn and remember new things and new ‘songs’
28. Can travel without paranoia of border checks
29. No worries about of being found by somebody
30. Not supporting organized crime
31. True bonds with friends
32. Better fitness level
33. New doors opening to spiritual world
34. Confidence to take on any task
35. Ability to strike up conversation with anyone I choose without fear or insecurity
36. No paranoia
37. Increased motivation for self-improvement
38. Feeling of wholeness that is not reliant on an external source
39. Not being enslaved by the need for porn
40. No more feeling guilty
41. Saving time
42. Communicating more
43. Renewed sense to sensations
44. So much more energy than before
45. Deeper philosophical thinking
46. Way more patience
47. Increased brainpower and mental endurance
48. Regain of focus to finish one job before starting the next one
49. Waking up in the morning feeling rested
50. The return of wit
51. Improved ability to relate
52. Regain of job satisfaction
53. Stronger mental control over moods and thought processes
54. Better crisis management
55. Experiencing natural highs
56. The ability to inspire other people
57. The development of healthy habits
58. A sharper mental game
59. Increased muscle tone
60. Heightened sense of humor
61. More love towards life
62. Better response to emotionally charged situations
63. Renewed sense of life, waking up to greet the morning sun and air
64. Easier to get out of bed
65. Development of mature, competent coping mechanisms
66. Feeling in control always
67. A stronger sense of optimism about life
68. Being better at controlling other aspects of life, like cooking, exercising etc
69. Improved quality of work
70. More present for family and friends
71. More agility and awareness
72. No need to worry about porn
73. I am not constantly craving something every time I get bored or stressed
74. Better health, less sickness
75. Reduced anger
76. Better communication of feelings
77. Dramatic improvement of self-esteem
78. Being more interesting person
79. Clearer memories
80. More laughs
81. No panic attacks
82. Feeling of more freedom
83. Better teamwork
84. Reduced anxiety
85. No more eye strain or need of eye drops
86. Reduced paper tissue consumption
87. The joy of making things happen and being powerful;
88. Enjoying the daylight and sunlight;
89. Enjoying the observation of lives around
90. Better emotional health
91. Emotional energy savings
92. Feeling intense emotions without being ruled by them
93. Strength to keep going when the going gets tough
94. Joy of keeping promises
95. Enjoyment of the relaxed mental state
96. Improved courage
97. Reduced desk clutter
98. Increased trust
99. Joy of sharing
100. Success.

Resources

www.yourbrainonporn.com
www.quitporn.net
Psychology Today: Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow
Psychology Today: Was the Cowardly Lion Just Masturbating too Much
TED Talk: The Great Porn Experiment by Gary Wilson
TED Talk: The Demise of Guys by Phillip Zombardo
Reddit: No Fap Group

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8 Responses to Trash Your Porn, Quit Masturbating and Crush Life

  1. Blonglapsky July 19, 2013 at 4:11 am #

    Wow, what a great article. The most complete no fap article I’ve seen.

  2. ^^ August 1, 2013 at 3:04 pm #

    Worth reading. this article pretty much sums it up. I consider myself as chronic fapper since 10 years old, and I really suffered from those consequences. thanks for inspiring me to stop fapping and to start a new life.

  3. GA November 21, 2013 at 1:48 am #

    i long for a awesome article like this. thank you. thank you so much.

  4. Jon February 10, 2014 at 3:42 pm #

    Amazing. This is exactly that is wrong with me!!!!! Now we will kill it!!!

  5. Kimanzi February 13, 2014 at 5:33 pm #

    Excellent post and very informative. I’ll take the challenge because I think you’re spot on.

  6. Shubham February 21, 2014 at 2:51 pm #

    thank you for writing such a great article .It gave me a new ray of hope to start over a new life
    may god bless you

  7. Calvin Sibley February 24, 2014 at 4:29 pm #

    You hit on a good point which is that using porn and masturbation makes people depressed, socially anxious, lazy, and lonely which makes it impossible for them to meet their needs in healthy ways.

    I would add that the cycle of addiction causes people to have their needs met through their addiction. Case in point:

    Certainty – feeling of comfort… because you know you are going to get the same result every time you use porn and masturbate.
    Uncertainty – variety, surprise… because there is an endless variety of porn on the web and you never know what you are going to run into next. Plus the tendency is to use harder and harder porn as a tolerance is built up which in itself is adds to the variety of the porn viewed by the user.
    Significance – sense that we are unique in some way… in web cam chat rooms users feel significant because when the enter a “private chat” they feel important and special because the person on the other end of the chat is giving them their undivided attention, even though it is only for their money.
    Love and Contribution – sense of connection with others… this occurs naturally in our brain because of having an orgasm. Of course it is fake and the chemicals are released because of the combined porn use and masturbation. But it is impossible for our brain to tell which is real sex and which is fake. We keep tricking our brains into thinking we are having sex which does lead to a connection, albeit with our computer and not a live person.
    Growth – everything that is alive is either growing or dying… we need to grow… this does not happen through porn use.
    Contribution – a need to grow beyond ourselves… this also does not happen through porn use

    so porn and masturbation meets at least 5 out of our 7 basic human needs. This, I believe, is a major reason why the addictive cycle continues. As people become more and more isolated and do not have their needs met in healthy ways they are drawn more and more into the grips of a pornography and masturbation addiction because it meets those same needs.

    Only completely stopping the addiction and by having your needs met in healthy ways, mainly through a relationship with a significant other, will we be able to return to having a normal chemical brain balance.

  8. Jared March 13, 2014 at 6:39 pm #

    Hi guys. I’m trying my very hardest to quit masturbation as I know so well how toxic it is to my social being. I will try to follow the advice from this article though I know I’m at risk of relapsing. Can anyone recommend a good ebook or programme online that I can use to quit masturbation? Please note I very rarely watch porn but do obviously visualise with unrealistic sex. I therefore don’t know if several programmes on the web suit my purpose as they mention loads about quitting porn, not masturbation. Thanks.

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