One of the best ways to love your wife is to make her feel beautiful in every way. If every man could learn how to do this one thing, there’d be a lot more happy couples in the world and a lot less lonely men.
I’ve been a relationship coach for over a decade now and have helped hundreds of men learn what it means to be a man and what it means to love a woman.
During this time, I have had the rare opportunity to sit front row and watch and participate in the unfolding of hundreds and hundreds of relationships. I’ve seen crushing break-ups, sparks relit from nothing, and love stories worthy of the big screen.
I’ve learned a lot about how men work, and unexpectedly, just about as much about how women work.
While every romance is different, I’ve come to realize that all the success stories share a handful of indispensable elements.
Perhaps the biggest is this:
In every successful marriage, a man makes his wife feel like the most beautiful woman on the planet.
How?
As men, we will never be able to fully fathom the relationship between women and beauty.
We are often its clueless beneficiaries and nothing more.
Whether you believe beauty to be a socially created construct or the result of millions of years of evolution and mate-selection, if you want to love your wife well, you need to understand that for her, beauty is a necessity.
Women’s bodies age. They get wrinkles in places that were once smooth, their hair loses its shine, and their faces (and other things) droop. You will hopefully see your wife as beautiful throughout her whole life, but she will need a bit of help sometimes.
You can tell her that you’d love her no matter what she looks like, but even if you mean it, she won’t believe you. She needs to feel it. She needs to feel just how beautiful you think she is each and every day.
Making your wife feel beautiful all the time is how you win her heart every single day for the rest of your lives.
And don’t make the mistake of thinking this is about knowing the right compliments or the right colored roses. Making your wife know she’s beautiful is about fostering an environment where she feels appreciated, respected, and truly seen for who she is.
Women, like men, have an inherent need to feel valued and loved. To do this for her, you’ll need two things:
- Intention
- Humility
If you’ve got these two, we can get into the ten best ways to make your wife feel beautiful.
1. Get specific with your compliments
There are a lot of beautiful women out there. You know that and your wife does too.
So why did you choose her?
Even if she knows she’s pretty, she’ll see herself as a flower in a field of equally beautiful flowers.
You see her as a daisy in a field of clovers and you need to make her believe this.
Great ways to do this are to…
- Get specific with your compliments: “You’re beautiful” is a great compliment, but your wife will want to hear more. Why is she beautiful? Is it her eyes? Her smile? Her laugh? Tell her!
- Compliment her in public: Don’t reserve your compliments for the bedroom. Giving your wife unabashed compliments in public shows her that you want the world to know how beautiful she is. Try introducing her as “my beautiful wife” or “my lovely woman”. She may not say anything, but she’ll love it.
- Compliment her without touching her: Men are physical beings. When we’re touching women, chemicals and instinct often take over. While compliments during sex and physical interactions have their place, women subconsciously wonder if these compliments are genuine. Next time you’re at dinner, look into your wife’s eyes and tell her just how beautiful she is without touching her.
2. Learn to flirt again
Remember when you guys met and everything felt so new and exciting.
Remember all you did to show her that you loved her: the late nights, long drives, and flowers.
If you want your wife to make your wife feel beautiful, you need to infuse your relationship with that sense of adventure again. It’s the adventure that women often look for in men. That is the masculine energy trait that ignites true love.
NEVER LET THE CHASE END.
Some of the best ways to do this are too…
- Let her catch you staring at her
- Send her flowers without reason
- Plan a romantic getaway on a random weekend
- Touch her tenderly and flirtatiously in public
If you can make your wife feel young, your relationship will feel fresh and exciting as well.
3. Write to her
Women love words.
One of the most personal ways to make your wife feel beautiful is to write to her. In a technological age dominated by “ILY” and the red heart emoji, a handwritten letter or even a short note stands out as a timeless gesture of love and appreciation.
You don’t have to be a poet or a master with words to make her feel loved. To your wife, it’s the gesture that matters.
It’s the fact that you found a pen and paper, sat down, and thought about her. That’s how to make her feel special.
Need some ideas…
- Write a love letter
- Pen a flirty note telling her about your plans for later ; )
- Jot down a good morning note before you head to work
The little things go a long way in love.
Find ways to show your wife that you’re thinking of her throughout your day. It’s the thought, not the action, that makes her feel special.
4. Be touchy outside of the bedroom
Physical touch is a powerful way to convey affection and make your wife feel beautiful.
But many men make a huge mistake when it comes to the aspect of touch in their relationship: they reserve it for the bedroom.
I have spoken to tons of men who say something akin to, “She tells me she wants more attention, but we have sex many times a week! I’m a great lover.”
Women want to know they’re just as beautiful as they are sexy.
In a world overrun onlyfans, and hookups, non-sexual physical touch is one of the most profound expressions of love and admiration.
Here are some of the best:
- Hand-holding anytime anywhere, but especially while walking
- A gentle squeeze on the shoulder or hand on the lower back as you pass her in the kitchen
- An arm around her hip in public
- Forehead kisses: your wife will thank me
Your goal is to boost her confidence, cherish her, and assure her that your affection extends beyond the confines of the bedroom.
5. Mind where you let your eyes wander
Your eyes are a direct reflection of where your attention and interest lie.
Being mindful of where you let your eyes wander is one of the most crucial aspects of making your wife feel beautiful and valuable.
A glance at other women’s bodies here and there is a sure way to erode your wife’s trust in you and drive her self-esteem into the dirt.
You may not even be malicious in your intent. It may be instinct or just a passing glance with no interest or intention. Trust me, your wife won’t see it this way. So do yourself the favor and go overboard to protect her heart.
You can never be too cautious when it comes to other women.
And though I shouldn’t have to say it, kill your porn addiction before it kills your relationship. Watching porn is one of the quickest ways to make your wife feel like she’s not good enough for you.
And beyond that, it will destroy your perception of romance and drive down your libido in the bedroom.
Instead, make your wife the apple of your eye. Focus your eyes and 100% of your attention on her when you’re having dinner out. Focus on meeting her needs before yours in the bedroom. Treat her like she’s the most precious thing on the planet and you will have a long and prosperous relationship.
6. Notice things that are different about her appearance
I’m going to let you in on a little secret that men in long and fulfilling relationships know well:
To make your woman feel beautiful, you need to learn to be interested in the things she likes.
Sometimes, I’d go so far as saying you need to care about things you really don’t care about.
Let me give you an example: your wife and you are going out for dinner and she’s asking you which earrings you prefer.
You think she’s beautiful and don’t give a d*mn what earrings she wears, but what do you do? You look at both pairs with a contemplative expression.
They’re almost identical and you really don’t have an opinion on which suits her better. What do you do? You pick a pair and tell her with confidence that those are the ones you want.
You make yourself interested because she is. The same thing goes for every other aspect of her appearance.
When you see her new hairstyle, compliment it. Tell her how beautiful it is and why you like it. When she gets her nails done, tell her how much you like the color she chose.
This approval and validation will make your wife feel beautiful and give her the feeling that she belongs with you.
7. Be mentally and emotionally present
When you’re with your wife, put away your phone, turn off the TV, and focus on her.
The best way to make your wife feel beautiful is to make her feel worth it. And if your phone, favorite show, or work email have an easier time drawing your eyes than she does, she’s not going to feel worth it.
Give her your full attention when you’re interacting with her and engage with her on a deeper level, beyond the surface-level conversations of day-to-day life.
Be there for her when she has questions, ask her about her day and her dreams, and show empathy when she’s down.
That is the best way to make your wife feel beautiful.
8. Encourage her talents
One of the most effective ways to make your wife feel beautiful is by recognizing and encouraging her talents and passions. By showing genuine interest in her interests and the things she loves to do, you affirm her gifts and strengths.
This is one of the best ways to boost her self-esteem, which for women, contributes ENORMOUSLY to feeling beautiful.
What does this mean practically? It’s not complicated…
- Learn what she is passionate about (painting, cooking, gardening, golf)
- Sacrifice your own time and energy to give her time to explore this interest (take dishes for the night, take care of the kids, etc)
- Celebrate her achievements and growth in her interest area (make a small party, write a letter, bake a cake)
- Never dismiss her interests as trivial or unimportant
A small tip I’ve come across in my years of coaching: pay attention to the things she thinks she’s good at, and be an affirming partner.
One of the most rewarding things for anyone, but especially a romantic partner, is having someone close to them think they’re good at the same things they themselves think they’re good at.
9. Keep her picture close
Don’t underestimate the value of small gestures…trust me your wife doesn’t.
Keeping a photo of your wife on you at all times can make her feel like the most beautiful woman in the world.
You may think it’s over the top. You may love her simply and purely and need no reminder of her as you go about your day.
But for her, this small gesture is a reassurance of your love and a massive self-esteem booster.
Keep her with you…
- In your wallet
- On your dashboard
- On your desk at work
- In your phone case
- As your phone background
Oftentimes, it’s these small acts of commitment and love that set apart short-term relationships from those that last.
10. Take care of your own appearance
This is one that many, many men neglect.
When you think of making your wife feel beautiful, you probably think of things to say or do for her.
The truth is, one of the best ways to make her feel beautiful is to keep yourself looking good for her.
When you eat well, get enough sleep, and keep yourself in good physical shape, you are essentially showing your wife that…
- She is a jewel to be earned and you don’t take her for granted.
- You have high standards for health and beauty–this makes your choice to be with her all the more validating.
- You can take care of her. This gives her permission to focus on taking care of herself.
- You feel lucky to be with her.
I’d go so far as to say that giving your wife the impression that you are in awe of your own ability to “pull” her isn’t such a bad idea.
Taking care of yourself is one of the best ways you can take care of her.
Takeaways
If you are reading this article, you have found the woman you want to spend the rest of your life with.
You want to be a good man for her so you are looking to answer one of romance’s greatest questions: how do you make her feel beautiful?
Your answer, unlike many when it comes to romance, is neither complex nor complicated.
Simply put, you give her more attention and show her more interest than anyone else on the planet.
Kids, job, friends…it doesn’t matter what comes into your life, your wife is your crown jewel. To make her feel this way, you prove it to her everyday.
Give her compliments many times a day, learn how to touch tenderly and not only sexually, mind where your eyes wander, and make her feel like her life matters to you.
But before you can do any of this, you must first learn how to take care of yourself as a man. You need to feel confident and secure in your own skin, sure of where you’re headed, and resolute in your beliefs.
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