76: Sean Stephenson: How to End Self Sabotage, Kill the Excuses and Stand Up For Yourself

Expected to die at birth, Sean Stephenson has faced an army of reasons to give up and countless opportunities to embrace pity. He suffered more than 200 bone fractures by age eighteen, reached a height of only three feet, and is permanently confined to a wheelchair. Despite his challenges, he took a stand for a quality of life that has inspired millions of people around the world, including Tony Robbins, Richard Branson, President Clinton, and his Holiness the 14th Dalai Lama.

Favorite Success Quote

“In order to do the impossible, you must see the invisible.” – Dr. Elko

Key Points

1. You Cannot Trust a Disempowering Prediction

When Sean was young, every doctor who ever saw him or diagnosed one of his maladies claimed that he would be dead within a year.

Now, decades later, all of those doctors are dead and Sean is still standing.


Because he refused to believe a disempowering prediction.

Life will try and beat you down, it will try and tell you that you can’t, it will try and tell you that you are not good enough.

And it’s right… If you choose to believe it.

The real truth of life is that you have a power and a potential beyond what anyone could ever believe or imagine.

But you must be willing to ignore the negative predictions and focus only on that which empowers you.

2. The Small Things Add Up

People often underestimate the power of small habits done consistently.

If you want to live a life of abundance, success, happiness, and well-being, then start with the small things.

Wake up earlier than you need to, read for 15 minutes a day, eat 1 meal filled with micronutrients and whole goods, keep your space clear, connect with people that you love.

Do not overcomplicate the path to a good life.

It is often the smallest habits that have the biggest impact on our lives.

For just this week, commit to three simple actions.

Hyperhydrate your body, exercise in nature for 20 minutes a day, and spend at least 1 hour a day with someone that you love.

If you do these three things, I promise that you will notice a difference.

3. Masculinity Has Nothing to Do With Size 

One of Sean’s most interesting discoveries came whenever he noticed huge, muscular, powerful men who were being beaten down and kicked into submission by jobs they hated, wives they didn’t love, and circumstances they refused to leave.

It was in this moment that Sean realized true masculinity has nothing to do with size.

It has everything to do with who they are internally.

If you want to be a “real” man, if you want to fully embrace your masculine energy, then you must be willing to step outside of your comfort zone and take control of your life.

Stop allowing negative people, patterns, and beliefs to dictate your actions and start standing up for yourself.

If you want something, go get it.

If you believe in something, then stand for it.

If you love someone, then show it.

Stop making excuses and sabotaging yourself and start living your life!

4. Do Something Everyday that Makes You Feel Great 

If you want to live a life of joy, happiness, and fulfillment, then you must do something each and every day that rejuvenates your soul and makes you feel great.

It doesn’t matter whether your “thing” is playing the guitar,  hiking in the woods, cooking a great meal, or sharing a glass of wine with your significant other.

Find 1-3 empowering activities that make you feel great and commit to doing them each day.


Life is too damn short to be spent doing things that we don’t love.

Pick those activities that fill you up, and then go and do them.

5. You Are Enough 

Let that sink in.

You are enough.

Just the way that you are.

You are enough, even with the debt.

You are enough, even with the divorce.

You are enough, even with the addiction.

You are enough even with the depression.

You are enough.

In this very moment, you have everything that you need to succeed sitting inside of you. You just have to be willing to unleash it and embrace your true power.

You are enough for whatever it is that you want to achieve.

Never let a damn soul tell you otherwise.

Influential Books

The Master of Love by Don Miguel Ruiz

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

The War of Art by Steven Pressfield


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