258: Sarah Jones: How to Attract Women as an Introvert

Sarah Jones is an online entrepreneur and dating coach for men who helps introverted men unleash the power inside of them to attract and date the beautiful women that they desire by expressing themselves openly and authentically, and avoiding the gimmicks of the PUA community.

Favorite Success Quote

“Enjoy the hell out of being you”

Key Points

1. Love Being You 

The first step that is essential to becoming a powerful man who can authentically relate with and attract the women he desires is simply to love being you.

Love who you are!

Love your weirdness, your quirky traits, your dreams and goals, your hobbies, your flaws, and your strengths.

Many people suggest that loving yourself often causes people to steer away from personal development, but the opposite is actually true. If you genuinely love yourself and love who you are, what is the more loving thing to do?

To allow yourself to live a mediocre life held back by fear and doubt?

Or to break free and step into the life that you know you can achieve?

2. You Have to Live by Your Values to Truly Attract Women 

One of the reasons that many shy guys fail with women whenever attempting “pick up” is that the techniques and tactics taught in the pickup community, even among those who encourage you to be authentic and genuinely relate, are often out of line with the values that you may hold being an introverted male.

If you value genuine conversation and connection and are then told that you have to go to loud bars and clubs start dry humping on the dance floor to attract girls, you will feel disingenuous and it will come across in your interactions.

3. Break the Touch Barrier Quickly

One of the ways that many introverts fail with women is that they are quickly “friend zoned” because they have a difficult time breaking the touch barrier. A woman will never see you in a sexual light if you are not able to comfortable touch her in a respectful way (and quickly)

This does not mean you have to be groping and grab assing, it simply means that being able to initiate a playful touch on the arm or shoulder, or placing your hand on her knee to emphasize a segment of a story you are telling, will go a long way in having her see you as a potential boyfriend and a not a potential friend to cry to when her boyfriend turns out to be an asshole.

4. Your Inner World will be Reflected In Your Approaches

Women have a sixth sense when it comes to how you are showing up in the world. If you are inwardly feeling unconfident, very unsure of yourself, and unworthy of the girl you are trying to spark attraction with. it will come across and she will be able to tell almost immediately.

You have to first develop the inner confidence and put yourself in situations where you can be yourself (for example if you love music, go join a music meet up instead of trying to force going out to night clubs and bars), and then you will be able to meet and attract women easily and naturally.

Influential Books

1. Quiet by Susan Cain

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