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At just the age of 25, Mateo is a Global Management Engineer and a Best Selling Author. His landmark book, The Mind Made Prison, is a 5-star winner and ranks in the top 10 in the self-esteem category. His specialties – as seen on TV and heard on Radio – include personal transformation and self-esteem.
Mateo doesn’t just talk the talk. He walks the walk. Literally. Mateo spent the last 5 years traveling the world in an all-out quest to hone his skills. After ripping knowledge from world masters in self-improvement, Mateo is now formally studying to get his masters degree in Psychology.
Favorite Success Quote
“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority it’s time to pause and reflect.” – Mark Twain
1. Money and Women Are Not the Answer
Despite the constant barrage of media and propaganda designed to make you believe otherwise, excess wealth and an abundance of women do not provide true happiness and fulfillment.
I know that you might find this hard to believe and that it goes against everything that you have been told, but it’s true.
Money is great, having a lot of it is great.
But unless there is more to your life, it will not fulfill you.
Women are wonderful, and no man will argue that there is a beauty and joy found in meeting and seducing a beautiful woman.
But that joy doesn’t last.
If you want true, lasting fulfillment, then you need to break out of the external validation mindsets conditioned in you by society.
True peace and joy are found from within.
They are found by loving yourself, doing work that is meaningful, and constantly growing and expanding your horizons.
You can chase money and women all that you want.
And it will make you happy…
For a while.
But at the end of the day, if you are not living for something more, it will leave you empty, alone, and broken.
2. Break Out of Your Limiting Beliefs
Every limit on your life is self-imposed.
You were born with limitless potential.
You were born to achieve and do great things.
But somewhere along the line society, your family and your friends started to impose limiting beliefs on your thinking.
You started to believe that you are capable of less than you really are.
If you want to achieve real fulfillment and live a life of meaning and purpose, then you must break out of your limiting beliefs.
Right now, I want you to get out a sheet of paper and write down your biggest limiting beliefs.
Then, I want you to prove them wrong.
So for example, if your limiting belief is that you are lazy, I want you to think back in your life to a time when you weren’t lazy.
Maybe it was a sport or activity that got you really excited and encouraged you to get up early and work hard.
As soon as you can find that one thing, BOOM! Your limiting belief has been proven invalid.
Do this with every belief that you have until you start to see the reality that you have limitless potential and can accomplish anything you set your mind to.
3. Your Reality is Determined Through the Lens You Are Using
In any given moment, you have the power to determine your reality.
It’s all about perception.
Any event or circumstance that is happening to you is determined by the lens through which you view it.
For example, if you are laid off from work, you can choose whether you are going to view this as an opportunity or a setback.
You can choose whether this event is the worst thing that has ever happened to you or a chance for you to start fresh with a blank slate.
If your girlfriend breaks up with you, then you have a choice to view it as a catastrophe or a learning experience.
You can either view the event through the lens of anger and frustration.
Or you can view it as a chance to better yourself and improve yourself as a man so that you can be a better boyfriend next time.
4. You Need to Start the Journey by Accepting Yourself
When you begin your journey to success and fulfillment, you must internalize one truth.
You are enough.
You are not worthless because you do not have what you want.
You are not any less valuable as a human being because you don’t have the business, the bank account, or the women that you want.
You are enough.
You must accept yourself for who you are, and love yourself unconditionally even while you seek to grow and mature into the man that you want to be.
Because you can only grow into the man that you truly want to be by loving yourself and knowing your worth first.
5. You Must Know Your Mind
To create real success in your life, you must start by deeply knowing and understanding your mind.
You need to remember that your mind is not designed to help you, it is made to keep you safe.
You must be the one who intervenes and directs your mind to help you achieve your goals and purpose.
Read books, hire a coach, or talk to a therpaist.
Dive into your mind to uncover the hidden road blocks and mental barriers that are holding you back from success and fulfillment.
Once you can remove teh mental clutter and liberate yourself from the prison of your mind, the opportunities for your life and success become limitless.
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