104: Elliot Katz: Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants

Elliot Katz is the author of 7 nonfiction books including Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom on Being a Man. Seeking to understand the challenges he faced, Elliott Katz explored the wisdom of the ages. He discovered powerful, often-forgotten insights that gave him the answers he needed to change. He also discovered that many people face similar challenges.  People started seeking his advice and he was repeatedly told, “Why didn’t someone tell me this before?”

Favorite Success Quote

“If a man is worthy, the woman will be his partner, if he is not then she will be against him.” – Elliot Katz

Key Points

1. Manliness Requires Leadership 

To be a “manly” masculine man means, first and foremost, that you are a man with a plan.

You are a leader.

If you want to be the strong man that a woman truly wants, then the first step is to start leading the women in your life.

Don’t shirk all decision making and responsibility onto your woman with the mistaken belief that you are “empowering” them.

Women don’t want that responsibility.

They want a man who can take charge, step up, and lead them to a better life.

And it starts with the simple decisions each and every day.

If you ask a woman out on a date, then show up with a plan.

If you decide to take your wife or girlfriend out, do so with a plan of action.

Just step up and take charge of the relationship.

Women can only fell truly feminine, safe, and secure when they are with a man who is willing to take charge and lead them forward.

2. Women Want Men with Strength 

A big mistake that many men make is to follow the false belief that women want men who are “nice” and tender.

Sure, women want a man who can be soft and loving.

But more than these feminine qualities, they want a man who is strong.

Strong in his morals, strong in his convictions, and strong in his character.

How can a woman feel safe with you if you are not willing to stand up for what you believe in?

If you allow women to step on your values and your beliefs because you don’t want to be overbearing, you are slowly and quietly undermining your strength and eroding your woman’s ability to trust you .

You must eradicate this nice guy behavior from your life.

Stand up and be strong.

Speak your mind and don’t hold back.

3. Find Successful Men and Emulate what they Do 

If you want to be a better man, then surround yourself with men who are better than you.

It’s that simple.

If you want to figure out how to be the “manly” man who is respected by his peers, society, and his wife, then find men who possess those qualities and emulate them.

Join a men’s group, find a sport’s team, join a local mastermind.

Find places where strong men congregate and then show up humble and eager to learn.

The more you can surround yourself with strong manly men, the stronger you will become.

4. You Must be More than a Provider 

As a man, your primary role is that of the provider.

Your job is to protect and provide for those that you love and to make sure that they are taken care of.

However, your job goes much deeper than that.

If you are just providing your wife and children with financial wealth and stability, you are not doing your job as a man.

Your family needs more from you.

They need you to be present.

They need you to be available to help them through their struggles, support them through their hard times, and love them unconditionally.

Yes, you need to provide for the people in your life.

But you also need to realize that provision is not your sole job as a man.

5. Take Ownership of Your Problems 

If you are facing problems in your personal, professional, or romantic life, then you need to take responsibility and own the problem.

Stop blaming your wife, your boss, or your peers.

If you have a problem, it is your fault and no one else’s.


You are the one who decided to get into the relationship, to take the job, or to get involved with that group.

You hold ultimate responsbiilty for every situation in your life, and as such, you also hold every solution to solve the problems that you are facing.

So take extreme ownership for your life, cut the excuses, and achieve greatness.

Influential Books

 No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover

If by Rudyard Kipling

Connect with Elliot Katz


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