Most people fail to reach their full potential in life.
Their dreams die long before their physical bodies do. They live their lives in a state of “quiet desperation”.” They die with more regrets than memories.
I don’t want that to be you, and it doesn’t have to be you. The truth is that reaching your full potential is a lot simpler than it seems.
It sure isn’t easy, but it is simple.
That’s why this article is a lot more than just life hacks. This article is a step-by-step guide that will teach you how to reach your full potential in your life, relationships, business, and more.
I know you don’t want to live at a fraction of your capability. Let’s figure out how to overcome that resistance.
How to Reach Your Full Potential?
Reaching your full potential is a long and arduous road that requires much focus, discipline, and thought, but it starts with habits.
It’s not just about eliminating bad habits, either. It’s about replacing bad habits with good ones.
Stop drinking, and start drinking water. Stop spending your money on stuff you don’t need, like new clothes or a new phone, and start spending it on online courses, books, and ebooks from people who inspire you.
But still, there’s more to self-improvement than just day-to-day habits.
Self-improvement comes from habits that impact your lifestyle choices. It comes from learning to do things that help you become more innovative, robust, peaceful, and effective.
If you learn to do these 11 things well, I can guarantee that you will reach your full potential:
1. Don’t Be Afraid to Fail Publicly
Failure is uncomfortable; that’s why most people like to keep their losses private.
However, the opposite is best for developing self-awareness and moving forward.
When you fail in public, you’re forced to rebuild yourself. If you don’t, you risk facing the social responsibility of being someone who doesn’t take care of themselves.
The thing is, this social responsibility is a potent motivator for change.
It’s perhaps one of the most powerful catalysts for change. Nothing changes you quite like having your bad habits, lack of preparation, and shaky discipline bit you in the bum.
I can tell you from my personal experience- it’s no fun to fail in public.
However, the benefits you reap from overcoming public failure will change your life.
2. Work Yourself Beyond the Point of Exhaustion At Least Once
Society will tell you that you shouldn’t push yourself too hard.
This is terrible advice. If you don’t push yourself beyond your physical breaking point at least once in your life, you will never be able to work with a proper understanding of your limits accurately.
Don’t push yourself too hard – most of the time.
Every once in a while, however, you should push yourself beyond the point of physical exhaustion. You should, as a former Olympic rower says in this Ted Talk, “seek failure” every once in a while so that you can figure out exactly what your limits are.
This will allow you to create habits and work routines that are accurate to your abilities and limitations.
This will allow you to maximize your efforts and, eventually, reach your full potential – as quickly as possible.
3. Set Goals That Seem Stupidly Big
You should feel a bit uncomfortable telling people about your goals.
If you don’t, they’re not big enough.
Your goals should scare you and give you a bit of anxiety. This is important because anxiety and excitement are the same emotion in your brain.
By setting big goals, you’re hacking your brain into giving you the energy to achieve those big goals. In setting goals that scare you, you’re simultaneously setting goals that excite you.
If your goal makes you insanely anxious, it also makes you insanely excited. All you have to do is learn to flip the script in your brain. Learn to make a scary story into an exciting one.
Learn to set stupidly big goals and chase them–even though they scare you.
4. Study the World to Develop a Personal Growth Mindset
Successful people are avid readers. This is a fact.
While you don’t need to read 100 books per year to be successful, it’s a pretty fair assumption to make that in your current state, and you don’t know everything about the world that you need to know to reach your full potential.
Successful people are always learning.
It doesn’t have to be books, but there are a lot of great resources out there online that will help you get better at everything you do.
Podcasts, online courses, ebooks, lectures, blogs, etc. All of these things will help you learn the skills that you need to reach your full potential.
If you choose not to make an effort to keep learning, you will struggle significantly compared to someone who’s made an active effort to learn more about the world.
5. Try New Things and Live In the Present Moment
In addition to not possessing enough theoretical knowledge about the world (hence the learning), you probably also don’t have enough practical knowledge to reach your full potential.
The pathway to reaching your full potential involves much trial and error. You have to do a lot of stuff to determine what you even want to reach your full potential at.
Try traveling. Try new workout routines. Read new books. Talk to new people. Try fasting. Try a cooking class. Try writing. Try playing an instrument.
The easiest way to blow past limiting beliefs is to do things you couldn’t imagine yourself doing.
Your full potential in life is found on the other side of experimentation, and you’ll probably find great joy in doing things you’ve never done before.
6. Cut Out People Who Don’t Want You to Be Your Best
Sometimes, the people who want the worst for you are also the people who are closest to you.
It could be your girlfriend or even your wife. It could be your best friend. It could be your own family.
It doesn’t matter; this resentment will kill your potential faster than you can blink. In the quest to reach your full potential, you will encounter people threatened by your progress. They want you to be average because your mediocrity and lack of internal motivation justify the same lack of motivation in them.
Mediocrity, like misery, loves company.
To be excellent, you will have to have periods of your life where you are alone.
You will learn that loneliness is not bad in cutting out toxic people.
Learn to remove bad company and enjoy your own company.
7. Find a Good Support System
The only thing better than learning to enjoy your own company is learning to enjoy the company of other people who enjoy their own company.
It’s great to do the whole “self-improvement” thing and work on yourself, become stronger, and create a better life, but shouldn’t there be some payout for this effort?
That’s what healthy relationships are for. Healthy relationships are the prize for making waves toward reaching your full potential. If you want to achieve success, you have to spend time with good people.
This will help you climb even closer to your full potential, and this is what we’re really after with this whole “self-improvement” thing anyway.
Having a sound support system where you’re surrounded by good people will help you to reach your full potential, but it’s also the prize for starting to reach your full potential.
After you remove bad company and learn to enjoy your own company, then you should start to build a better support system for yourself and the people that you want to lift up.
8. Master Balance and Self-Care
Self-care gets a bad rap today.
People think self-care is an opportunity to slack off their goals, act like children, and sabotage their progress in the name of “putting themselves first.” This is not self-care.
Self-care is meant to complement your self-work, not replace it or harm it. It’s about building a balanced life.
This balance is supposed to give you the ability to pursue goals over long periods, which will give you the ability to chase bigger and better goals.
You reach your potential in life by having a sustainable infrastructure that allows you to pursue goals over a long period.
9. Learn How to Play the Long Game
Success doesn’t happen overnight.
One of the most important aspects of improvement is learning to see the big picture. It won’t happen next week, next month, or, depending on your goal, even next year.
This is a good thing. Worthwhile goals take some time to reach. That’s a good thing. You’re supposed to chase goals that take a long time to reach.
The payoff for working toward long-term goals is worth the wait in happiness and serenity.
What you need to do is develop the ability to wait. You need to learn to take joy in the doing of things, not the success of doing things well. This gives you lasting motivation to work hard despite success or failure.
10. Develop Skills That Enable Lasting Personal Development
Essentially, three skills create long-term personal growth.
If you can develop:
- Grit – the ability to stick with goals over long periods
- Discipline – the ability to follow routines throughout your day-to-day
- Time management – the ability to manage your life on a day-to-day basis
You will become insanely effective.
People with time management will develop the skills to win the day, people who practice discipline can win over weeks and months, and people who have grit can succeed over the years.
If you have all 3, you will practically control your success.
11. Have a Clear Vision for Your Success
If anything, this is the essential point on this list.
You’ll never get there if you don’t know where you’re going (like really know). You reach your potential in life by setting goals and chasing them.
If you’re able to reach those goals, excellent work. You earned it.
Now, set more goals. Before you know it, you’ll live the life you’ve always dreamed of with no regrets.
That’s what living to your full potential is: living a life you won’t regret. It’s doing things that scare you. It’s working hard.
It’s all the things we’ve talked about, but it’s doing things with a purpose. That’s what masculinity is about.
That’s what life is about.
I don’t want you to live a life of desperation and regret; many men out there don’t want you to live that way, either.
For many men, role models, like-minded peers, and even people who support their goals are ridiculously hard to find.
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