How to Be Less Socially Awkward and Unleash the Social Genius Within

Growing up, I was never a particularly social or outgoing guy. I wasn’t one of the “popular” kids in high school or college and I leaned toward an introverted personality type. Quiet, reserved, and a little shy.

For most of my early 20’s, I found myself just nodding along and agreeing with what other people said because I’d never put in the effort to develop my own unique personality.

Whenever I was talking with someone and a third person entered the conversation, I quickly faded into obscurity while everyone else joked and chatted.

I assumed the role of the “Silent Third Wheel”, a sort of spectator in social settings…someone sitting on the sidelines rather than acting as a leader of conversations and interactions.

As I grew older, I began to realize that my introverted and often socially awkward tendencies were negatively affecting my dating life and preventing me from meeting the women I wanted.

Not to mention its detriment to my professional life and business opportunities.

And throughout it all, I couldn’t help but wonder, “Why am I so awkward?”

I knew that being socially awkward was holding me back from living the life I wanted and after taking a hard look in the mirror and acknowledging my weaknesses, I committed to learning how to be less socially inept and taking action toward the life I wanted.

Little by little, I began to improve. I noticed myself being and feeling more extroverted. Conversations started to flow more smoothly. And when I started to taste real social success…my life changed forever.

For the first time in my life, I built an abundant dating life filled with women I wouldn’t have even talked to the year before. I started making more and more powerful business connections and acquiring mentors who helped me achieve wild success in my entrepreneurial endeavors.

But most importantly, I developed a greater sense of personal identity and self-confidence.

I never became the “Life of the party” and that was never my goal. But I did learn how to assert myself in social situations with men and women, connect deeply through stimulating conversations, and leave everyone I interacted with better off than before.

And today, I’m going to teach you how I did it.

This guide will teach you step-by-step how to be less socially awkward and more persuasive. You’ll learn the exact systems and strategies that took me from a social zero to her, and, if you take action…I promise, your social life will never be the same again.

Why Am I Socially Awkward? Three Powerful Paradigm Shifts that Will Transform You Into a Social Powerhouse

In this guide, I’m going to teach you how to be less socially awkward. But before I can do that, we must first have an accurate definition and understanding of what social awkwardness really is.

Namely, you must understand three powerful paradigms that will help you beat your awkwardness and shyness for good.

1. You Are Not Socially Awkward

Read that again.

YOU, as a man are not socially awkward permanently. Yes, you might behave in ways that are awkward or “weird” according to social norms. But that does not mean you are an awkward person.

When you are by yourself, with close friends, or hanging out with your dog, you’re a normal guy.

But when presented with the pressures of unfamiliar social experiences, you fall into anxious and awkward patterns and behaviors you’ve been conditioned to since childhood.

When you say to yourself, “I am socially awkward”, you will think and behave in ways that are awkward. You make it a matter of identity instead of behavior. Which wraps the chains of anxiety and self-loathing tighter and tighter around your mind.

However, when you flip the script and say to yourself, “I often act socially inept because I lack sufficient social experience and have not developed the skills required to be a more likable, outgoing, and interesting,” the conversation changes completely.

It’s like someone who’s addicted to cigarettes.

If they say to themselves, “I am a smoker”, it’s a matter of identity. They are their addiction and it’s all but impossible for them to change who they are at their core.

However, if they say to themselves, “Smoking is a choice I consciously make every day and it’s a behavior that can be changed,” they empower themselves to think, act, and live differently.

The same holds true for someone struggling with obesity. If they say to themselves, “I’m just fat and unhealthy and this is who I am”, change is impossible. But when they shift the language they use and say, “I have chosen to engage in unhealthy habits and behaviors and I can make healthier choices today in this moment”, they are empowered to transform their lifestyle and their health.

By changing the conversation from identity to behavior, you remove the inevitable emotional baggage and self-deprecation that comes from identifying with negative patterns in your life.

You are not a socially awkward man. You simply have not developed the skills and mindsets required to navigate the murky waters of unfamiliar social experiences.

2. Being Socially Awkward is Normal

Despite what you’ve been led to believe, every single person on the face of the planet has acted socially awkward at one point or another.

It’s an inevitable part of life. In any new social interaction, you are forced to contend with innumerable variables and unexpected events. No one can predict exactly what another person will say or do and, as a result, no one is socially competent 100% of the time.

There have been plenty of times in my own life when I was in an unfamiliar or uncomfortable social setting and said or did something that was awkward.

There have been even more times where my state caused me to act awkwardly in a social setting I was very comfortable and familiar with (which we’ll talk about in a second).

Whether I’d had too much to drink, was ruminating over a problem in my business, or suffering from exhaustion or brain fog, there have been thousands of instances throughout my life where I felt and acted socially awkward…

…Even though I’m an incredibly social, outgoing, and lively man.

When you accept that every person is socially impaired from time to time, you release the internal pressure to be perfect all the time. You’ll realize that it’s ok to be a little “off” every once in a while. That no one, regardless of how they appear on the outside, is 100% confident and socially savvy 100% of the time.

Life is an inherently awkward experience. One for which we are given no rules or guidebook.

We’re all born on a rock hurtling through space with billions of other humans who all have different beliefs, values, and backgrounds…and none of us know what the hell is going on.

So take a deep breath and relax. It’s okay to be awkward. Release the pressure. You don’t need to be perfect. And there’s nothing wrong with you.

3. The 80/20 Rule of Social Interactions: Energy vs. Action

I’m going to let you in on a little secret…

The quality of your social interactions has almost nothing to do with the words you say or the way you act.

In my experience, your words and actions account for roughly 20% of the quality of a social interaction.

What really matters is the energy you bring into a social interaction–your state of “being” in a specific situation.

When you show up to an encounter feeling low-energy, awkward, and shy, this state will manifest itself as awkwardness.

However, when you show up with high-energy, enthusiasm, and a genuine interest in the people you’re meeting and the interaction you’re having, the words you say and the way you act matters much less.

I have close friends who, for all intents and purposes, could be the poster children of social awkwardness.

They say zany and off the wall stuff, do weird stuff, and act in ways that society deems abnormal. But it doesn’t matter. People love to be around them because they are high-energy men who bring confidence, excitement, and aliveness into an otherwise boring moment.

No matter how socially impaired you believe you are, you can change it all in a second by elevating your state and shifting your frame.

When you show up to an interaction with positive energy and say to yourself, “I’m going to have fun and be myself even if other people think it’s weird”, your awkwardness will disappear.

Owning Your Introversion: Why Introversion Does Not Make You Socially Impaired

Before we get into the high-level strategies and tactics you can use to be less socially awkward, it’s worth digressing for a moment to discuss the topic of introversion.

Most people mistakenly conflate social awkwardness with introversion.

They assume that, by the very definition, introverted individuals tend to be the most socially impaired.

But nothing could be further from the truth.

Introversion has nothing to do with your state of being or the way you show up to a social encounter. It’s simply a character trait that determines whether large social gatherings drain or invigorate you.

Introverts are individuals who prefer intimate social interactions (e.g. 1-on-1 conversations, small group gatherings) and recharge their batteries by spending time alone.

Extroverts, on the other hand, enjoy large gatherings with many people and feel recharged by spending time at parties and public places.

However, this does not mean that introverts cannot act extroverted or vice versa.

There are plenty of extroverted introverts and plenty of introverted extroverts.

That state of being extroverted–e.g. Being outgoing, fun, enthusiastic, and energetic–is not determined by your classification as an extrovert or introvert. But the energy you bring to a specific encounter. You don’t need to be the life of the party to improve your social interactions and you don’t need to be an extrovert to eliminate your social awkwardness.

In fact, introverts are often more socially successful than extroverts because of their tendency to foster deep and intimate connections over dozens of shallow connections.

Whereas extroverts tend to have a large pool of acquaintances but few (if any) deep friendships.

Introverts, on the other hand, tend to have fewer people in their life, but build closer ties with those people and create bonds that can last a lifetime. Overtime the introvert will have an army of real friendships in his life.

By being intentional in your social development, you can build stronger friendships and develop a more powerful social network as an introvert.

So, if you’re an introvert, I want you to eliminate all excuses and alibis for social mediocrity from your mindset right now.

You can be socially successful as an introvert. And you don’t need to be the life of the party to do it.

And when you stop using your introversion as an excuse for your social challenges, you’ll be able to overcome them and grow into the social powerhouse you want to be much much faster.

How to Be Less Awkward: 10 Proven Steps for Overcoming Your Socially Awkward Tendencies

Now that you understand the truth about awkwardness and introversion, it’s time to shift gears and discuss the actionable steps to unlock the social genius that’s been stifled for so long.

It’s important to understand that, like any worthwhile endeavor, this process takes time.

In the same way that transforming your body, your career, and your relationships require months or even years of concerted effort, transforming yourself from a social pariah into a social powerhouse will not happen overnight.

But if you’re willing to trust the process and put in the work, I promise that you’ll wake up–whether it’s a few months or a few years from today–and say, “Woah! I never knew my social life could be this good.”

These strategies have worked for me…they’ve worked for thousands of my readers…hundreds of my personal coaching clients…and I promise, they’ll work for you too.

1. Escape the Prison of Your Mind and Use “Monk Mode” to Become a Social Powerhouse

Social awkwardness is most frequently caused by one thing…

A lack of presence.

Our “monkey minds” are always on the move, thinking about the past or the future, but rarely, if ever, the here and now.

We’re always thinking about something. Whether it’s a goal we have, something we said last week, a rejection we experienced two months ago, or a challenge we’re facing in our personal or professional lives, few men in the modern world understand how to turn off the noise and be truly present…focused on what’s happening right in front of them.

Socially, this lack of presence can be disastrous.

Because we’re so accustomed to living in our heads, we rarely, if ever, engage with others in a deep and meaningful way.

Typically, we are living in the immediate future and trying to formulate responses and retorts to what the other person is saying instead of actually listening to what’s being said.

While they’re sharing a story, you’re conjuring up a witty response and trying to think of something to say.

While they’re telling a joke, you’re mulling over punchlines in your head and trying to find your own funny anecdote to “one-up” their humor.

While they’re answering a question you just asked, your eyes have already glazed over as you mentally scramble to think of how to respond to their next question so they’ll think more highly of you.

Paradoxically, the more time you spend mulling over responses and trying to find the perfect response (instead of focusing on what other people are saying or doing) the more likely you are to act awkward.

However, when you can shut off the noise in your mind…when you can be still, present, and fully focused on the person right in front of you…genuine and engaging interactions become inevitable.

An inordinate focus on self is a breeding ground for overanalyzing, paralysis, and awkwardness.

But the solution is simple.

Get present. Focus 100% of your energy and attention on the person with whom you’re interacting. Listen attentively and be interested in what they are saying.

When it’s your turn to speak, take a moment to gather your thoughts and then say what you want to say.

Not only will you act less socially awkward, but you will give everyone you interact with the rare gift of true presence.

To take this to the next level, I encourage you to take up a mindfulness practice like meditation or journalling in silence, or even practice some form of “movement mindfulness” like yoga, jujitsu, or surfing.

The more you can get out of your head and fully engage with what’s happening right now the less awkward and more likable you’ll be.

2. “I Don’t Like You, Bro!”

Social awkwardness and anxiety often stem from a need for external validation. You want to be liked, respected, and admired…and you’re worried that the “real you” is not enough.

Which makes anxiety and socially awkward behavior all but inevitable.

And it’s not your fault.

Our 200,000-year-old brains evolved during times in which the approval of other people was, quite literally, a matter of life and death.

If the other members of your tribe didn’t like the things you had to say or the way you acted, you would end up either as an outcast–and face inevitable death at the hands of the elements–or executed at the city gates.

But times have changed.

There are nearly 8 billion people on this planet and no matter how insane or unfounded your ideas are, in most cases, nothing bad will happen to you as a result (the “flat earth” community comes to mind). Regardless of who you are or what you believe, there is someone, somewhere with whom you connect on a deep level.

And to achieve social success, you must accept this fact.

Realize that not everyone will like you…and that’s ok. Because you shouldn’t want to be liked by every person you meet.

Humans are eclectic creatures and each of us have our own beliefs, likes, and dislikes that often diverge wildly from one another. The same behaviors, stories and jokes that arouse laughter and garner acclaim in one social circle will incur criticism and hatred in another.

Therefore, your goal should be to foster a deep connection and mutual respect with a handful of people who share your values and have similar visions for life.

And until someone has proven themselves to you, you shouldn’t care about their opinion one way or another.

A powerful frame to instantly remove social awkwardness is by shifting your frame from, “I hope they like me” to “I wonder if I like them.”

3. The Social “180” that Will Make You 10X More Interesting to Other People (Even if You Live a Boring Life) 

I’m going to let you in on an obvious, but often ignored “secret” that only the most social men know.

No one cares about you.

They care about themselves.

I’m not suggesting that you aren’t important to the people in your life. You are. But what people often forget is that we are all the most important people in our own lives.

We care about others, yes. But only insofar as they affect us.

We are all, first and foremost, interested in ourselves and our own lives. Yet, whenever we enter into social interactions, we are quick to forget this fact and we erroneously believe that the fastest path to social success is by being the loudest and most interesting.

But in reality, the quickest way to establish rapport, increase your likability, and leave a lasting positive impression on the people you meet is to listen well and be more interested.

You don’t need a long list of stories or jokes or accomplishments to be less socially awkward. You simply need to express genuine interest in the people with whom you’re interacting.

Instead of spouting off stories, jokes, and anecdotes, shift the focus from yourself to the other person.

Be interested in their story and ask open-ended questions that allow them to dive deep into their favorite topics.

For example, if you’re talking with a beautiful woman and you ask where she’s from, don’t immediately fire back telling her about your favorite ice cream spot in your home town, instead use her answer as a springboard to dive deeper and get to know her better.

It’s the difference between:

You: “So where are you from?”
Her: “I was born in Seattle, but we moved to San Diego when I was 12 and I’ve lived here ever since.”
You: “Cool…I’m from Vermont. When I was a little kid, there was this ice cream shop we’d always go to that…blah blah blah.”

And:

You: “So where are you from?”
Her: “I was born in Seattle, but we moved to San Diego when I was 12 and I’ve lived here ever since.”
You: “Interesting… I wouldn’t have pegged you as a Cali girl. I’ve never been up to Seattle before, what’s it like compared with San Diego?”
Her: *Dives into her childhood and feels understood and surprised by your genuine interest in her life*

The first example demonstrates social awkwardness by jumping quickly into the next question out of nervousness. You were simply trying to keep the conversation going to avoid silence.

The second example, however, shows that you are interested in her and her history. You want to know more and you’re actually listening to the things she’s saying.

By shifting your frame and entering into every interaction with an attitude of curiosity and genuine interest, you will instantly become one of the most likable and memorable people in the room…even if you don’t say anything interesting.

4. How to 10X Your Social Confidence WITHOUT Socializing More 

The fastest way to develop your social skills and eliminate your awkward tendencies is to invest heavily in your personal development and develop unbreakable confidence in yourself and your worth.

When you live an amazing life…when your days are filled with excitement and adventure…when you’re doing the work you’re passionate about…socializing becomes less stressful because you aren’t trying to prove anything.

You know that you have an epic and exciting life and if someone else doesn’t want to be a part of it because of one weird sentence or odd gesture you made during a conversation…it’s their loss, not yours.

And, despite what you might think, developing this confidence is simple. Not easy, but simple.

It’s about taking control of your life and building yourself into the man you want to be…

Getting in the gym on a consistent basis, eating healthy foods and building a body you’re proud of…

Pursuing your passions, doing work that matters, and creating a career that lights your soul on fire…

Living an interesting and exciting life, traveling, being open to new experiences, developing fun and diverse skills (from boxing to cooking to dancing to playing the guitar)…

Getting out of your comfort zone, overcoming adversity, and doing uncommon things to enjoy an uncommon life…

When you earn and develop an unshakable sense of confidence in yourself (and make no mistake, confidence must be earned), the opinions of others won’t matter.

You won’t care what other people think of you or how your words are received. Instead, you can simply flow through the interactions knowing that you are enough exactly as you are.

If you want to learn step-by-step how to build unbreakable confidence and develop yourself into a strong grounded man, be sure to check out my free guide: 9 No B.S. Strategies to Build Unbreakable Confidence and Self-Respect

5. The Social “Strength Training” Program to Beat Social Awkwardness for Good 

Socializing is like a muscle. The less you use it, the weaker it gets.

And unfortunately for most men, because they live their lives in tightly compartmentalized boxes, their social muscles tend to atrophy and atrophy fast.

They wake up, drive to work, say “Hello” followed by “I’m good…” to 2-3 coworkers, sit down to their computer, work or distract themselves until 5pm (rarely, if ever getting up to talk with anyone), go home, watch TV, go to sleep, rinse, repeat.

Their lives are almost entirely void of social connection so, when they do have the opportunity to socialize with someone, their mind goes blank.

To make matters worse, our society has become addicted to our devices and the proliferation of “social” media and smartphones has all but eliminated the day-to-day interactions that used to be so common (you know, like actually talking to people while standing in line or riding a bus).

Because most men are so unused to being social, awkwardness is inevitable.

The solution however, is simple.

Make an effort to be more social every single day. Start a conversation with the cashier at the grocery store or the barista at Starbucks. Say “Hello” when you pass people in the street.

Get off your damn phone, out of your head, and into life.

Open your mouth, make an observation, and see what happens.

In addition to being more social in your daily activities, if you’re serious about beating social awkwardness for good, you must make a concerted effort to “immunize” yourself against social anxiety by making a habit of going out and exploring your city with other people.

The obvious place to do this is a bar or club. However, if nightlife isn’t your thing, there are plenty of meetups, group fitness classes, and other fun activities where you can go to meet new people and get more experience socializing.

To make the most out of these activities, I encourage you to take some time at the end of each night to reflect on your experience.

What interactions went well? Which ones was I holding back? Did you have any awkward moments? If so, did anyone notice or did anything bad happen?

When you start treating your social life like a video game, where you have to learn the right strategy, “level up”, and take on increasingly different “boss battles” (e.g. Level 1 is saying “hi” to five strangers, Level 10 could be approaching multiple women in a night and exchanging phone numbers), you’ll actually start to enjoy the process of improving your social life.

It will no longer be an arduous chore you have to do, but a fun adventure you get to do

And that’s when the magic really starts.

6. Tap into Your Inner Don Draper and Master the Fine Art of Social Dynamics and Influence

Despite what you might believe, no one is born a social or antisocial person. We are all taught social dynamics through our experiences in childhood and early adulthood…the only problem is that some of us received an outdated curriculum.

Whatever challenge you’re facing in your life that makes you feel socially awkward…there is someone out there who has faced the exact same problem and overcome it.

And chances are, they’ve published a book, created a course, or simply written a blog article (like this one) sharing their experience and teaching other people (that’s you) what they learned.

If you take action on all of the lessons I’ve shared so far, internalize the mindsets required for social success…and still find yourself trapped in anxious and awkward tendencies…

…Take a step back and educate yourself.

There are hundreds of amazing books that will help you improve your social life and dozens of YouTube channels (with hundreds of videos each) that will show you step-by-step how to be more charismatic and less awkward.

A few of my favorites are:

• How to Win Friends and Influence People
• How to Talk to Anyone 
• Captivate 
• What Every Body is Saying 
• The Charisma Myth
• The Dating Playbook For Men 

Sometimes, it’s the little things we don’t know that hurt us the most. And by investing in your education and developing a deeper understanding of social dynamics–psychology, conversation, humor, storytelling, body language, etc–you can overcome these “unknown unknowns” and make quantum leaps in your social development over a relatively short amount of time.

7. Two Powerful Exercises to Control Your State and Tap Into Powerful Emotions on Command 

As I explained earlier, social awkwardness is not a character or personality trait…but a physical, mental, and emotional state. It’s a way of being.

We’ve all had the experience of being in a bad state. Maybe your boss said something that pissed you off or your neighbor was being loud overnight and you woke up cranky and sleep-deprived…

…Whatever the case, your bad state permeated every aspect of your day.

And because your state sucked, everything and everyone sucked.

The inverse is also true. We’ve all experienced being in a high-energy state after a positive experience…like a raise or a successful date or an unexpected gift.

And after we got into that high-energy state, nothing could bring us down. The crazy traffic became an opportunity to listen to our favorite music…the crappy cell coverage, an excuse to put down our phones and engage with the world around us. Everything and everyone seemed brighter, happier, and more vibrant.

The external events didn’t change. But our states changed our perception of those events.

The good news is that your state is something that is entirely inside of your control. And to eliminate social awkwardness and improve your interactions, it’s something you must control.

It’s all too easy to carry a bad state from work into your social life. If you spent the entire day sitting behind a computer with your headphones in, you’ll struggle to “shift gears” and unleash your social prowess.

As such, I encourage you to fill your days with rituals that amplify your state, remove the physiological manifestations of anxiety, and allow you to feel and perform at your best.

And the first ritual which every man, regardless of whether you’re battling social anxiety or not, should have in his life is a morning routine. The right morning routine will improve your performance at work, reduce your stress levels, and help you show up each day in a powerful and charged state.

Although there are (literally) thousands of morning routines you could implement, I encourage you to keep yours relatively simple and iterate as time goes on.

As soon as you wake up, pound back at least 1 liter of water (with lime juice and Himalayan sea salt for bonus points), and spend the first 15-minutes of your day moving.

You don’t need to crush a CrossFit workout or run a 5k. Simply 15-minutes of an energizing yoga flow, some calisthenics, or a short jog are enough to get the job done. Ideally, you’ll want to do your exercise outside, in the dirt with bare feet (to get all the benefits of early morning sun exposure and earthing. Click here and here for studies on these).

Next, I encourage you to take a cold shower while doing Wim Hoff breathing (which you can find a tutorial on here). By starting your day with something as physically uncomfortable as a cold shower, it will “immunize” you against some of the stress and anxiety you experience socially.

Finally, take the final 15-minutes of your morning to read a good book–preferably something on social dynamics until you get this part of your life down–or journaling about your goals, challenges, and life.

In addition to this simple morning routine, I recommend create a “Pre Socializing” ritual to help you get out of “work mode” at the end of the day.

This will be unique for each of you, but some ideas include:

• Finishing your day with a killer workout at the gym, sitting in the sauna, and meditating for 10 minutes.
• Listening to music that amps up your state and gets you excited.
• Watching standup comedy and laughing your ass off.
• Watching a motivational YouTube video to get you inspired and excited about going out.
• Dancing around your apartment like a mad man and allowing yourself to flow freely and have fun.
• High-fiving or “Cheers’ing” five strangers as soon as you get to a new venue.

Or anything else that puts you in a powerful and grounded state.

By creating these “anchor” routines to create the emotions you want to experience, your social interactions will flow 10X smoother. You’ll feel less awkward, be more present, and enjoy your encounters more than you ever have before.

8. Build YOUR Tribe to Purge Social Awkwardness and Anxiety

Finally, to beat social awkwardness, you must build your tribe.

Like we already discussed, you can’t and shouldn’t try to be liked by everyone. Plenty of people you meet in your day-to-day life have values and beliefs diametrically opposed to your own…and no amount of social savvy will improve your interactions with these individuals.

If you’re an atheist, you’ll struggle to socialize with ardently religious people and vice versa. If you’re a liberal, you’ll struggle to socialize with conservatives. If you value sobriety and discipline, you’ll struggle to connect with stoners and psychonauts.

Similarly, if you’re interested in video games and fantasy novels, you’ll struggle to connect deeply with sports fanatics and party animals. Or, if you’re into entrepreneurship and personal development, you’ll struggle to connect with the easy-going party animals who live “for the moment”.

This is not to say that you can’t or shouldn’t have cordial interactions with people who believe differently from you or that political, religious, or personal labels should be seen as the sole arbiter of a relationship.

Simply that you must surround yourself with the right people. People who allow you to be yourself without fear of disapproval or repercussion. When you’re with people who share similar values and have similar visions for their lives, the quality of your interactions will skyrocket.

When you spend time with individuals who are misaligned with who you are at the core and you try to force yourself to “fit in”, you’ll feel socially inept and awkward. It’s that simple.

The fastest way to eradicate social awkwardness is to realize that, nine times out of ten, social awkwardness is caused by a misalignment between yourself, another person or the environment you find yourself.

When you find people with whom you “click”, individuals who share your morals, ethics, and values, everything becomes easier. You’ll no longer feel the pressure to “try hard” or “fit in”, instead you can simply flow and be more at ease. You’ll know that you are enough exactly as you are and you won’t feel the pressure to put up a facade or feign interest in something you don’t care about.

You share this planet with billions of other humans. And I promise you that there are people in your area who are just like you. Who share your interests, passions, and beliefs and appreciate and accept you for who you are…not who they want you to be.

By seeking out and befriending these people, your social life will accelerate at a breakneck pace and you’ll realize that the awkwardness you felt for so many years was little more than a symptom of spending time with the wrong people.

Conclusion

My intention in writing this article was not to simply assuage your social awkwardness or give you a handful of trite tactics. But to give you a call to adventure.

To push you to leave your comfort zone to develop a more vibrant social life filled with the people and activities you enjoy most.

Life is better when you’re surrounded by amazing people who push you to be better and strive for more.

And the pain of missing out on incredible social connections, deep intimacy, and true friendship will outweigh your desires to stay safely hidden inside your comfort zone.

So my challenge to you today is simple…

Take more action.

Don’t let this content be “just another article” that you read and forget. Use it to propel yourself into the social life you’ve always wanted. A life filled with close friendships, fascinating interactions, and true joy.

Because at the end of the day, the only thing that makes life worth living are the people with whom you get to share it. Without love, connection, and friendship, life feels meaningless, empty and void of purpose.

The journey ahead of you will not be easy. It won’t be comfortable. And it won’t be a straight line to success.

But I promise you, it will be worth it.

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