Imagine being 24 years old and lost in life without any direction where to go or idea about your purpose in the world.
Imagine being an inch away from clinical depression, to the point where a doctor offers to prescribe you medication.
That was me.
I was stuck in a vicious cycle of walking aimlessly from job to job, punching in and punching out, coming home feeling like I wasted my day with uninspiring work. The pain from guilt and frustration ate away at my soul; it slowly created distance further away from my true purpose.
I grew tired. I started losing hope. I couldn’t see the light anymore. Sleeping was impossible. Food tasted bland. The support and encouragement from my friends and family were the only light in a tunnel of darkness.
But something mystical happens in those moments we call “rock bottom.” We stumble across something or someone that instills inspiration. Almost as if the Universe scheduled it into our day. For me, it was a book given to me by my aunt and uncle. The Key To Living the Law of Attraction by Jack Canfield.
With groggy eyes and a long face, I casually thumbed through the first few pages, hardly expecting any miracle moments or words of wisdom. But what happened next was that pivotal, life-altering moment that everyone experiences at least once in their timeline.
My survival instincts came alive. I found a new, refreshing attitude that said, “I will NOT succumb to defeat. I will NOT let this be my story.” We write our own story, after all. I took responsibility for my life.
The words in those pages breathed life into me, and it resurrected my weary soul. The first sentence in the book is, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” I learned how to use the Law of Attraction in my life. Now, it’s my pleasure to give you the same chance to attract what you want out of life.
What is the Law of Attraction?
Before we get into how the Law of Attraction can work for you, I want to give you a quick run-down on the science behind it.
Everything in the universe is made up of energy. At a basic form, the sun, moon, stars, humans, plants, and animals are all energy. Energy is in constant motion and it never rests. It is always moving from one form to another. With that in mind, we are all a part of something bigger than ourselves. We are all connected to everything and everyone, similar to the Internet. Together, we make up the cosmos.
I don’t believe in coincidence. It’s not just a coincidence when two friends finish each other’s sentences, or when you receive a phone call from an old friend that you were “just thinking about a few days ago.” It’s not coincidence when you are in the right place at just the right time, or the perfect opportunity presents itself after you ask for it.
You are a magnet to everything that you attract, positive and negative. We carry far more power than we realize.
How To Use The Law of Attraction To Create Your Dream Life
Your emotions are a critical component in the application of the Law of Attraction.
Learn to listen to them. They are an important internal feedback system to the vibrational state you are creating. As men, we are trained to be stoic and tough. We usually push our feelings down inside and put on a resilient front. Men feel weak when they openly share their feelings with others.
But vulnerability is strength. Getting in touch with your feelings, owning them and expressing them builds character and courage. When I began to understand my feelings, I created an internal compass that guided me in the right direction.
When you are feeling joy, happiness, love, and a sense of expansion then you are on the right path. The thoughts you are creating, ideas you are brainstorming, and activities you are engaging in are moving you towards your ultimate purpose.
However, when you are feeling anger, sadness, jealousy, depression, you are moving in the opposite direction. The feedback you are getting is telling you that you are off your path.
Positive energy and intentions attract positive emotions and outcomes. Negative energy and intentions attract negative emotions and outcomes.
Take responsibility for everything that you are currently attracting into your life. There are no coincidences. There are no accidents. You can consciously and deliberately participate in the creation of your future.
I know what you’re thinking, “But Tim. How is it MY fault if someone rear-ends me? How is it MY fault when someone steals my wallet?”
Living the Law of Attraction is not labeling things anymore. It is having a different perspective on someone stealing your wallet and not labeling it as horrible. It is what it is, now what opportunity has been created because of it?
Practice the habit of releasing the outcome and the attachment to what the outcome looks like. Be honest with what you feel and let it be a guide or signal, but do not act upon or let negative emotions rule you.
Sometimes the Universe hands you situations that will make you stronger, better, and more equipped to handle what is ahead in your life. Take these opportunities to gain wisdom, insight, empathy, experience, etc.
“You must bring yourself into alignment with what you are asking for. That’s what joy is, that’s what the feeling of passion is. But when you are feeling despair, or fear, or anger, those are strong indicators that you are not right now in alignment with what you are asking for.” – Esther Hicks
Action Steps to Manifest Your Wants, Dreams, and Desires
1. Define Your Dreams:
Consider the different pillars in your life (health, wealth, relationships, personal, business, recreation, contribution, etc.) and give deep thought to each of these areas. Brainstorm 5-7 bullet points for what you want and what you don’t want for each category.
Explore your authentic dreams and goals. Let your heart guide you to what you honestly feel is right; don’t be ashamed by what you feel. This is your unique offering to the world. Embrace these feelings. Own them like it was your child, and you WILL attract them into your life.
DreamScaping is one of my favorite exercises.
Believe that you deserve whatever it is that you want in your life. You ARE worthy of it. Whether that be:
New Business Partnerships
The Universe acts as a mirror. When you put out passionate energy towards the things you desire, the Universe responds accordingly.
“To trust in the force that moves the universe is faith. Faith isn’t blind, it’s visionary. Faith is believing that the universe is on our side and that the universe knows what it’s doing.”
2. Positive Affirmations
“Affirmations are one of the most powerful ways to create vibrational match for what you want to attract in your life.”
Every thought and word you express to yourself is an affirmation. An affirmation is the action or process of affirming something. For example, “I am strength,” is attracting a strong life force from the Universe. Conversely, “I am not good enough,” is attracting unworthiness and fear.
I used to carry several self-limiting beliefs that held me back in life.
Ones such as, “I am not tall enough, I am not smart enough, girls don’t find me attractive, I don’t have the business intelligence to do that, I’m not good at talking to strangers, I can’t develop a strong framed body,” etc.
In the end, I realized it was all bullshit. So, I retrained my belief system using positive self-affirmations. Strong, positive affirmations are powerful ways to replace negative beliefs and self-limiting thoughts that you have internalized over the years.
Start with the template “I am ___”. (Ex. I am intelligent. I am attractive to women. I am business savvy. I am good at talking to strangers. I am worthy of a sculpted body. I am deserving of wealth. I am strong. I am creative. I am grateful. I am patient. etc.) Write them down on a piece of paper, and thumbtack that paper to a spot on the wall where you will see it and read it every morning.
Special emphasis goes to the FEELINGS and HONESTY of this exercise and not just the words. If you write an affirmation with zero belief or something wildly unrealistic then nothing will manifest. Remember, it’s the feelings that attract our desires, not the words.
Visualization techniques were a HUGE part of my growth and development after I was introduced to the Law of Attraction. Your subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between a real experience and a vividly imagined experience. It responds to all of them equally.
So set the scene and picture what you want your life to be. Make it as real as possible. What do you see, smell, hear, touch, taste? You will start to feel the positive emotions and energy radiate from within you, and by doing so, you are broadcasting positive vibrations out to the Universe.
Declare financially how much you would like to have and then visualize checks coming to you in the mail. Visualize your body healing and the aches and pains going away. Envision brilliant, creative ideas manifesting from your mind, and turning them into its physical equivalent.
Whenever a thought creeps into my head that says, “I’m not savvy enough to do this,” I step back and close my eyes. I think back to a time where I faced a great challenge that I didn’t feel ready for.
Then I re-imagine the intense effort I put in to prepare and educate myself, and the hours of practice and dedication. I finish with the feeling of triumph and success, knowing I can do anything I put my mind and effort towards, and I sit on those feelings.
Mark Hoverson, a $10-million dollar earner and mentor of mine also used visualization to craft his dream life.
Combine these techniques with a vision board and meditation and you are significantly enhancing the effect.
My vision board consists of:
Inspirational & motivational quotes
Pictures of exotic locations I would love to travel to
Pictures of big time leaders who I look up to and want to replicate
Things that motivate me (money, travel, leadership, fitness training)
Covers of my favorite books
My core values and life mission statement
To really live the Law of Attraction, you have to bring the right attitude to the plate. The whole takeaway from this belief is to give off vibes of positive energy. If your attitude is negative, pessimistic, hopeless, then you will not benefit from this.
“It has been proven now scientifically that an affirmative thought is hundreds of times more powerful than a negative thought.” – Michael Beckwith
Constructing a positive attitude can be challenging, but here is my advice. I have trained myself to act quickly when replacing negative thoughts with positive ones… I don’t let myself linger on stupid “should’ve, could’ve, would’ve” crap. Nor do I dwell on the “what ifs”. I live in the present and I create my future every second.
I don’t read, watch, or listen to negativity. If I see an article about some super sad story, I skip it. If the TV happens to be on, and one of those guilt-ridden abused animal commercials come on, I change the channel. If I hear a whiny conversation full of complaining, I excuse myself. It’s that easy.
Lastly, I only surround myself with positive people who I want to be like. I don’t hang around Negative Nancies. I don’t spend my time with people who are comfortable with their mediocre life and have no desire to be better. My inner circle consists of energetic, aspiring go-getters and grateful, humble beings.
Anything else is toxic and will push you further away from your end goal.
The Law of Attraction is always in motion. Let it work for you.
“See it. Feel it. Believe it.”