8 Proven Ways to Increase Masculinity and Become Irresistible to Women

Your masculine energy is one of the most powerful things you can tap into as a man.

As men, we are expected to live by some code. We are supposed to be strong, bold, and kind; most of all, we’re supposed to lead the people around us.

As men, you’re supposed to be, well, masculine. Right? At the very least, you want to be more masculine.

If this is something you want in your life, you’ve come to the right place.

The truth is that masculinity is much more than just exercising and eating red meat. Masculinity is a lifestyle. It’s a philosophy.

Masculinity is a way of being, and we’re going to dive into how you can improve your sense of masculinity using proven and long-established methods.

This isn’t easy, but the longer you stick with it, the easier it will become. That’s the byproduct of getting stronger.

How to Increase Masculinity

Increasing masculinity sounds nice, but what exactly is “masculinity”? You can’t increase something without a starting point.

Like I said above, masculinity is not just eating red meat, chasing women, and lifting weights. These things all get a bad rap anyway, so we won’t focus much on them here.

Instead, we’re focused on the full spectrum of the masculine experience.

Masculinity is a lifestyle that requires discipline, hard work, constant striving, and, most importantly, a spirit that exudes leadership and confidence.

The most powerful men in the world are leaders, not followers.

These ten habits are designed to help you become a man who leads, not a man who follows.

1. Get Comfortable With Your Masculine Energy

Want to become a more powerful, masculine man?

Buy a pink shirt. Seriously!

The truth is that masculinity is under scrutiny by people who are trying to make it into something it isn’t.

Pink is just a color, but for some reason, it’s seen and almost accepted in our culture that men shouldn’t wear pink. Pink is seen as a sign of weakness and feminine energy, but it’s not.

Pink is a sign of femininity, love, and kindness.

I know, I know, I can hear you already:

“If I want to increase masculinity, why would I want to wear a color associated with femininity? That’s the opposite of what I’m going for.”

This is why I said that pink is just a color.

The color pink makes you appear more feminine to other people, but this also makes you seem more secure in your masculinity. This is an essential basis for improving your masculine energy.

If you can wear pink in public, even though culturally this makes you seem “feminine”, you’re on your way to not only stabilizing your masculinity but also increasing it. Building masculine energy is more than just expelling feminine energy. It’s embracing it.

The most masculine men out there are comfortable. Healthy masculinity is comfortable.

Prove that your masculinity is more powerful than the color of your shirt.

2. Start Speaking Up For Yourself

In life, bullies are everywhere.

When you’re a kid, they’re on the playground, and they’re stealing your lunch money or throwing you into the ground.

When you’re an adult, bullies are more elusive.

Sometimes the bullies are trolls online. Other times they’re coworkers and friends. In rare cases, your “bullies” might even be members of your own family.

Regardless, there’s only one thing you can do to stop them from harassing you: learn to stand up for yourself.

When you stand up to bullies and speak up for yourself, the benefits to your mental health and mindset are incredible.

You become more confident, develop better self-respect, and boost your self-esteem.

You probably don’t need me to tell you this, but these attributes can change your quality of life as a man. Your masculine energy will grow as you build confidence and become more self-reliant.

3. Take Your Self-Care Seriously

For many men, self-care gets a bad rap. Self-care, ironically, is associated with femininity. Bubble baths, facials, and mani-pedis.

This is what many people think of when they think of self-care.

People don’t think of self-care as one of the more “manly habits”.

They think of a woman in a spa with cucumbers over her eyes, talking about how stressed she is. They don’t think of going to the gym, reading, or even playing video games as self-care.

The self-help world is so jumbled that many people have been brainwashed into thinking that video games are cancerous for the mind and will “ruin your life”.

Here’s the no-fluff truth: self-care is a jumbled balancing act.

Self-care is the play and relaxation that goes hand in hand with your work. The rest allows your muscles to build back stronger after a hard workout in the gym. It’s the hard workout you use to blow off the steam from a stressful day at work.

Self-care is not fancy–it’s just taking care of yourself. 

It’s essential for boosting masculinity.

3. Get to Know Your Masculine Core

What do you want out of your life?

Do you have “a purpose”? A vision for the person you want to be?

Do you have goals, dreams, and aspirations?

Answering these questions is essential for your personal growth.

Whether you have answers to these questions, the follow-up habit you need to add to your life is simple: mindfulness.

As one goes through the transition from boy to man, the most challenging thing that you’ll have to do is find a central purpose or aim for your life. Some men go their entire lives without a purpose.

“The mass of men live lives of quiet desperation” – Henry David Thoreau

Don’t be like the mass of men. Find a life that gives you purpose, peace, and abundance. Work hard, hustle, and do the work to be successful, but also take the time to explore your mind. Find out who you are.

Be mindful of your existence as a man. Figure out what makes you the man you want to be, and do those things.

The best ways to develop self-esteem through mindfulness are writing and meditating. Make a habit out of both of them. This is how you become happier, more thoughtful, and a better man in every single way.

4. Surround Yourself With Men Who Have Similar Values to You

For everyone, regardless of race, religion, color, creed, or orientation, a community is essential for confidence, self-esteem, and happiness.

A truly masculine man can walk into any room and make it better. This is the essence of strong masculine energy.

For men, however, this often becomes a lost value. Many men become so entrenched in having careers, achieving goals, and ticking off boxes on their journey that they forget exactly how important it is to have a community.

A cheat code for rebuilding your self-esteem and self-confidence (and as a result, your masculine energy) is to be a part of a community you can trust. You want a family that pushes you, supports you and builds you up.

These are hard to find, but these communities do exist in real life. I lead one myself.

Some communities men enjoy are practicing martial arts, going out with their male friends, or even playing competitive sports. Do what feels natural.

5. Explore and Cultivate Your Curiosity

Curiosity boosts confidence – but what should you be curious about? Where does your innate desire lead you?

Many young men especially ask this question because, in the early stages of our lives, we are very financially motivated. We only feel that can earn us the extra income is worth pursuing.

Here’s the truth:

Curiosity is about what’s in your mind and heart, not about what’s in your wallet. If you’re curious about basket weaving, for example, and no one ever pays you, pursuing this curiosity will do incredible things for your life because you will learn to listen to yourself and follow your curiosity.

Your relationship with yourself will improve dramatically when you follow your curiosity and feel joy. You’ll become happier, more thoughtful, less anxious, and most importantly, learn to treat yourself like a close friend.

This will do wonders for your confidence and self-esteem and, in turn, your masculinity.

6. Build a Strong Body and Find Your Masculine Edge

I told you there was more to masculinity than exercise and eating red meat, but that’s not what I mean when I say “stronger and healthier.”

Strong and healthy men prioritize exercise, eat good food, sleep well, and care for their minds and bodies. This is the essence of being a man with healthy masculine energy.

Being healthy increases your testosterone levels. Be healthy.

It’s not enough to chase after your goals. You also have to take care of your temple–yourself.

Investing in yourself and your health increases your confidence in yourself, making you more likely to continue investing in yourself and staying focused on your goals.

Think of it like a snowball effect:

Either you start with confidence, which helps you make better choices for your physical health, or you start with very little confidence, but you do the work anyway and invest in your physical health and your body.

Doing this will, in turn, make you more confident.

Good physical health is essential for growth and happiness, whether confident or timid.

7. Fulfill Your Essential Masculine Duty as a Partner

People in toxic relationships experience a lot of adverse side effects.

They lose friends, get stressed out, get depressed, and much more.


You might say, “because they’re in a bad relationship,” but there’s more to it than that. People in bad relationships suffer because they have little to no control over their reality.

Someone else – the toxic person in their life – is driving the bus, and this makes them miserable?

The easy solution is to take back the power, but there’s more to dating and social relationships than just having power over someone.

If there’s a woman in her life, don’t be her slave. Make her your queen. Healthy masculinity also understands relationships.

You must ensure you are not a vessel for someone else’s manipulation. You need to make sure that you have positive relationships.

In terms of increasing your self-esteem, your ambition, and most importantly, your masculinity, it’s essential to have the self-confidence to thrive and survive in your daily life.

Control your life and avoid manipulation. Have good, meaningful relationships with your male friends and your female friends.

8. Get Over Your Fear of Failure

What scares you?

Afraid people won’t like your work? Afraid of losing your business? Losing your job? Getting rejected by one of the females you like?

If that’s you, I’m sorry.

Anxiety sucks.

But at the same time, having anxiety does not allow you to let that anxiety run your life and stop you from doing the things you want to do. Anxiety is not permission to be miserable.

Anxiety is an obstacle. Learn to deal with it. It’s your essential masculine duty.

Sorry for the tough love. That’s how it is. To become the kind of man you have always wanted to be, you must start living with intention.

At the core of everything we’ve discussed in this article is intention. You must be intentional with your behavior to be more masculine and powerful.

Strong men live with intention. Weak men allow others to determine their fate.

Masculine energy breeds strength. Lean into your strength.

That’s just how it is.


I want you to be the best man you can be. I want you to create the life you dreamed about as a younger man.

I want you to thrive in manhood, not struggle.

I want your masculine energy to radiate into every room you walk in.

For many men, role models, like-minded peers, and even people supporting their goals are very hard to find.

The most masculine men are not the ones who eat the reddest meat or lift the most in the gym. The most masculine men are the ones who are living their lives exactly the way that they want to.

The most masculine men are in control of their lives.

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