Most men (especially those facing a midlife crisis) falsely believe that attraction is a fixed variable. They think of it as something innate, and they are powerless to change. In other words, some guys just ‘have it’ and others don’t.
Attractiveness is something that men can build. It is something that men can learn. And it is something you can learn, too — if you have proper guidance.
The first thing you need to understand is that men and women are attracted to entirely different things, and the biggest mistake you can make (and are probably making) is thinking that the opposite sex thinks the same way you do.
See, most men think they know what determines attractiveness, but most men are utterly lost.
Often a man will observe another man that they think is attractive to the opposite sex and try to emulate — to the best of their ability — what this guy is doing. That’s all well and fine, and we all have to learn from somewhere, but you need to make sure you’re learning from someone who knows what actually works.
This is where attraction coaching comes into play. What if I told you that — outside of select few traits that simply can’t be changed — your level of attractiveness is completely dependent on how you speak, how you act, how you carry yourself, and how you feel about yourself on the inside?
Now, if you read that sentence and thought, “But I’m too short,” or “I’m too fat,” or “I don’t have nice teeth,” or “My nose is too big,” or [insert whatever insecurity you have], then let me stop you right there.
This is completely flawed thinking, and it’s called ‘othering.’ You’re classifying yourself as somehow different from the norm and falsely blaming that difference for your perceived failures.
Step one when it comes to attraction coaching is getting this crap out of your head. I don’t care how different you think you are; I guarantee these differences are all in your own head.
Step two is figuring out what actually makes a man attractive to a woman. Not what the movies tell you. Not what you see on social media. Not what your boys tell you to do. No, what actually works.
Step three is taking that knowledge, acting on it, and implementing it into your daily life. Knowing the solution is all well and fine, but if you do nothing to act on it, you’re never going to get anywhere.
The final step is embracing your new reality as an attractive man and taking advantage of everything that life has to offer. What that will look like will vary from person to person, but I just want you to get clear on that image right here, right now. Trust me; it’s more important than you may think.
And with that being said, here are 7 ways attraction coaching can help you unlock your charm and take your dating game to the next level.
1. Attraction Coaching Will Teach You How to Leave Any Woman in Awe
Look, first impressions are everything. This is true in life, and it’s especially true in the dating arena. And if your first impression sucks, you’re going to be fighting an uphill battle.
The problem is that so many men go through life not understanding how others perceive them. Again, they think they know how they come off, but they really don’t.
Secondly, far too often, I see guys turn into totally different people when they meet a woman for the first time. This is not only disingenuous to her, but it’s a recipe for self-destruction in the end.
Think of it like going to the gym or working out. You can go to the gym for a week, a month, or a few months and take some photos pretending you’re a triathlete, but at the end of the day, you know you’re not. And eventually, the truth of what we are always catches up with us.
So why not just change who you are? I’m here to tell you that if you want to be that guy that walks into a room and stops traffic with his charm, you can be that person. You just need to learn how to do it.
It’s not about being loud, flashy, or overzealous. It’s a subtle art, one that is simple to learn but difficult to master. Attraction coaching can help expedite the process so you can step into a commanding presence that is uniquely your own.
And once you master this, you’ll have it with you for life. Instead of pretending to be something you’re not, you’ll learn to own your own energy and use it to captivate the women around you.
2. Attraction Coaching Will Teach You How to Tap Into Your Alpha Body Language
It’s no secret that men have certain physical traits that are attractive to the opposite sex. And while working on your physique is definitely a core aspect of increasing your attractiveness, how you carry yourself is equally important.
Case in point: a man’s shoulders. According to many studies, the size of a man’s shoulders is one of the determining factors behind how attractive he is to the opposite sex.
So what do you do if you don’t have broad shoulders? Well, you have to make them appear large. But don’t be too quick to run off to the gym just yet.
Be honest; how do you carry yourself? Do you stand upright with your shoulders back and your chest out? Do you keep your head up when you walk? Do you look people in the eye when they speak to you, or do you look away?
All these (and more) are signs of poor body language. These are things that tell the people around you (especially women) that you are a beta male: a follower who will never be as successful or powerful as the alphas.
And when it comes to your physique, the easiest thing you can do is just learn how to carry yourself. If you’re not naturally broad-shouldered, don’t amplify the problem by walking around slouched over. Stand up straight and walk like you have a purpose.
This is just one of many simple things you can start doing today to increase your assertive presence around women. A professional coach can give you an objective assessment and provide guidance on how to improve.
3. You’ll Learn How to Master Social Dynamics, Exude Confidence, and Leave a Lasting Impression on the Women in Your Life.
Far too many men make the mistake of thinking that their actions around women are all that matters. Not true. If a woman sees you act a certain way when you’re around your friends or other peers, but you act completely differently around her, she’ll take notice.
Oddly enough, a big problem I see is that many men overdo it around other men. They try too hard to control the room and be the center of attention. The result? They end up looking like jerks.
Navigating these complex social dynamics is a central part of attraction coaching. Being overly dominant, submissive, or cooperative are all equally detrimental to your image.
For example, it’s one thing to be able to lead conversations; it’s another to dominate them completely. It’s one thing to be humorous and make people laugh, but it’s another if you’re doing that others’ expense.
See, many men think that being the alpha male means you have to dominate every other person in your presence, but this simply isn’t the case. If you’ve ever seen two self-assured alphas in the same room together, they usually don’t butt heads at all. In fact, they get along just fine.
Why? Because they exude an inner confidence that dictates the energy of those around them. This goes for everything from verbal communication to body language. The key is to emanate confidence and authenticity wherever you go.
When a woman sees you display this behavior, it sends her a powerful message about you. Authentic confidence is infinitely more attractive than feigned confidence.
Now, if all this has you feeling a bit confused, that’s where professional coaching comes in. I don’t know you, and I’ve never seen how you act in a social setting, so I can’t properly diagnose the problem. But if you choose to work with my team and me, we can give you individualized coaching strategies that will help you master most any social dynamic.
Only when you learn how to do that can you embrace your role as an authentic alpha and step into your own.
4. You’ll Learn to Maximize Your Verbal Prowess So Every Word You Say Captivates Her
One of the most problematic issues men face is that they can’t articulate themselves around women. Their nerves get the best of them, and they are left stuttering and stumbling over their thoughts.
If this isn’t the case, then it’s often the opposite. Since they are so anxious about what to say, they might resolve to just not say anything at all. Out of fear of saying something wrong, sounding stupid, or running out of things to talk about, they just sit there with their mouths shut.
Mastering the art of verbal communication is one of the most important things you can do to increase your charm and take control of your dating life.
And I’m not talking about pick-up lines or anything that you need to memorize or regurgitate to get women to engage with you; I’m talking about genuine charm.
What you may not understand is that the key to having charm is mindset. If you have confidence in yourself, the words will come naturally. Yes, a certain aspect of it is knowing what to say and what not to say, but these are more like genuine guidelines than any sort of specific list.
I can’t tell you how many men I’ve seen who were conventionally attractive and had great salaries but could not — for the life of them — get their words out of their way.
You’d think, from an outside perspective, that these guys would have no problem talking to women, but that isn’t always the case.
More often than not, something about how we were raised or a traumatic childhood experience is what is holding us back…
These limiting beliefs are often subconscious, but it is these beliefs that give rise to the “I just don’t have it” mentality.
With my coaching program, we tackle those limiting beliefs head-on so you can get out of your own way and take hold of the life you want and deserve.
5. Be Assertive, Learn to Assert Your Wants and Needs and Ignite Serious, Long-term Relationships.
Are you a ‘nice guy’? Are you always accommodating of others’ wants and needs, often at the expense of your own? Do people commend you for this behavior? Are you the type of guy who would “give the shirt off your back” to help others?
If so, I have some news for you that may be tough to hear…
These behaviors, as commendable as you may think they are, might be holding you back in various aspects of your life, especially when it comes to women and dating.
How so, you ask? Isn’t kindness, empathy, and generosity what all women want?
Well, yes, but they aren’t the be-all and end-all. These traits are only one half of the spectrum. On the other you have assertiveness and independence, and if you lack that, women will never truly respect you.
That’s why so many men get caught in the friend zone. They’re not assertive enough to openly admit what they want, and as a result, they’re always chasing after women. If this sounds like you, it’s probably because you’re over-accommodating.
You’re telling people that your opinions and needs don’t matter. And if you’re telling the world that, it’s probably because you — perhaps on a subconscious level — believe that, too.
So, what’s the solution? As with all things in life, the key is finding a balance. You do not (and should not) turn into a self-centered asshole who puts himself on a pedestal at the expense of others. You need to be assertive and communicative without coming off as aggressive or inconsiderate.
If this sounds like a tall order, this is yet another area where professional attraction coaching comes into play. Chasing after women is tiring… wouldn’t it be easier and more productive if they chased after you?
Sound impossible? Don’t kid yourself; if you know how to properly present yourself as a cohesive package, you can be absolutely irresistible to women. Forget about “let’s just be friends”; you’ll be getting pestered to buy engagement rings.
I’ve seen it all firsthand. Make no mistake about it; being attractive to the opposite sex is a skill, a learned skill that needs to be fine-tuned and mastered.
Put another way: you need to know how to sell yourself. The dating world is just like any other capitalist economy: those who know how to sell prosper, while those who don’t fail. That’s what we can teach you.
6. We’ll Teach You How to Tap Into Your True Potential and Be Comfortable in the Spotlight
And no, I’m not saying you need to get on stage and talk in front of a large audience. I’m talking about building your confidence to the point that you could easily do so if you needed to.
I want you to be honest with yourself: if you woke up tomorrow morning and had to give a presentation on a stage to a large group of people, could you do it?
If not, why? And don’t say it’s because you never took a public speaking course in college.
As humans, we are all capable of interacting through language, and speaking to a group of people is no different than talking to a friend or coworker.
The real problem is usually one of confidence. Now, if you had to speak to a group of 2nd graders, that wouldn’t be so bad, would it? Of course not, because you’re an adult and they’re just kids, so you aren’t intimidated by them.
Now imagine feeling that comfortable in any situation, whether at the office, a family get-together, or on a date. You’d be unstoppable.
We can teach you how to inject this level of confidence into your day-to-day life. Whatever traits you like about yourself that boost your confidence, we’ll teach you how to amplify those. Similarly, we’ll show you how to eliminate the negative traits that give way to self-doubt.
A great deal of how we perceive ourselves (and how we perceive others) also comes down to physical appearance. And no, we’re not going to give you a makeover or anything like that; we’re simply going to teach you how to better understand yourself so you can morph into a man who is completely comfortable in his own skin.
Maybe you need a new suit. Maybe you just need a suit. Maybe you need a new haircut, beard style, or to bulk up your shoulder muscles. Whatever it is you need, you already know what it is. All you have to do is get out of your own way and make it happen. And we can help you that.
7. We’ll Help You Learn How to Spark Great Conversations.
Despite what you may have been led to believe, men and women think and act very differently from each other. This is especially true when it comes to emotional processing and communication.
If you’ve been trudging through life expecting the women you date to see things the exact same way you do, it’s no wonder you’re having relationship problems.
The first step toward becoming more attractive to women is learning to speak their language. As cliché as this may sound, it’s true. And if you dig a little bit, you’ve probably experienced this yourself dozens of times in the past.
Have any of the women you’ve dated in the past ever complained about problems at work? Everyone does, and you’ve probably done so, too. Yet how many times have either of you been able to effectively solve the other’s problems?
If you’re anything like most couples out there, the answer is probably close to never. This is because men and women take entirely different approaches to problem-solving.
Men are task-oriented and tend to compartmentalize issues. Women use a holistic approach and consider different aspects and implications. Neither one is necessarily any better than the other, but they are undeniably different.
This is just one example, but the problem can be far more pervasive than you even realize. The problem that many people — both men and women — run into is that they think their partners should think and feel the same way they do.
Sorry to break this to you, but it just doesn’t work that way. And if you want to have any hope of creating a loving and lasting relationship, you need to become well-versed in these differences.
Our training in this area can help you boost your communication skills while simultaneously cultivating deeper and more meaningful interactions.
Once you understand the secrets to effectively communicating with women, it will increase your charm and attractiveness exponentially.
Tap Into Your Full Potential With Attraction Coaching Today
Becoming more attractive isn’t about mimicking others or using recycled pick-up lines. It’s not about getting a certain haircut or wearing a certain outfit just because that’s what’s in fashion.
If you really want to elevate your attractiveness, you have to become the best, most authentic version of yourself. You need to effortless and naturally be able to show your worth and sell yourself to the opposite sex.
And don’t kid yourself: any man on this planet who has enjoyed success with women learned to do these things a long time ago. Now it’s up to you to learn.
You’ve undoubtedly heard that confidence is the most attractive trait a man can have, but I want to take that a step further. Confidence, assertiveness, and authenticity are the holy trinity when it comes to the dating game; if you can master these 3 dynamics, you can accomplish great things.
And no, my coaching program isn’t going to be easy, and we most certainly aren’t going to sugar-coat things to inflate your ego. You will have to do things that make you uncomfortable, but I promise that doing those things will help you become the best version of yourself.
But beyond that, you’ll gain support through a social network of like-minded men. These are guys just like you who can relate to your problems because they are going through it themselves. You and your peers will be guided by my expert team of coaches — men who also experienced the same things you have and emerged victorious on the other side.
If you think you have what it takes to stand among these men, I invite you to take the next step. I promise you, it will be one of the best decisions you ever made in your life.