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Want to discover how to master your mind? How to become the captain of your destiny, to forge your own purpose, and unlock new levels of self-mastery?
Then you’re in the right place.
In this interview with Arash Dibazar, we dive deep into the psychological and spiritual components of self-mastery and reveal dozens of practical steps you can take to become the strongest version of yourself.
No matter what your goals or dreams, this interview will help you achieve them faster.
Let’s dive in.
Who is Arash Dibazar?
From the age of 4 to 11, Arash Dibazar lived in 6 different countries including Iran, Turkey, Syria, Kuwait, England, and the U.S. Having to mix with so many different cultures, he quickly acquired the ability to read people’s expressions and body language as a means of understanding their communication.
At age 11 he began what would become a distinguished martial arts career, leading him to develop his own Persian based self defense system called Panjo. Arash later gained an interest in theater and became the student of Broadway actor and director (and The Prince of Fiji), the late Manu Tupou.
After a chance encounter with the book The Game that started him on the path to meeting pickup gurus such as Mystery, and eventually becoming a personal student of James Matador. Arash combines his many backgrounds to create a style of game that is both strong and charismatic, is structured and flows naturally.
Having the confidence of a champion martial artist, the skills of an expert actor, the secrets of a master seducer, and a deep background in Zen Buddhism; Arash now lectures regularly on subjects that affect the human condition and helps people overcome their insecurities and weaknesses to become stronger, more confident, more accomplished, and more fulfilled individuals.
Arash Dibazar’s Favorite Success Quotes:
“All in a state of mind.” – Arash Dibazar
“If you get your mind right, you get your life right.” – Arash Dibazar
Key Points from My Interview with Arash Dibazar
1. Certainty is the Key to a Magnetic Personality
If you want to be the kind of man that women flock to and other men respect, then you must develop only one key trait.
Certainty.
Most people walk through lives in a perpetual state of psychological paralysis. They are overwhelmed by the endless options available to them and feel incapable of selecting a course of action and pursuing it with even a modicum of self-confidence and certainty.
To grow and develop yourself as a man, certainty is essential. But it isn’t easy.
We live in a world that thrives on uncertainty. A world that clouds our judgment, muddles our thinking, and obfuscates the truth.
To develop certainty, you must first embrace stillness and solitude. You must reconnect with your higher-self and listen to the truths and messages it’s been trying to teach you (potentially for decades).
You must cut through the crap and gain crystal clear clarity on who you are, what you want, and who you want to become.
Once you do this, you will find your certainty. And when you have certainty…you have true power.
2. Study What You Need to Know and Ignore the Rest
With the click of a button, you can learn how to:
- Hunt and clean game
- Start a business
- Meet and marry the woman of your dreams
- Build a website from scratch
- Pour concrete
- Train a dog
And a whole host of other information.
And this information overwhelm is a problem. From the time we were little boys, we’ve been conditioned to become a “master of none”. To know a little about a lot without ever committing to mastery and excellence in one discipline.
We’re told that we need to learn about history, math, science, grammar, language, culture, art, and finance.
While there is certainly merit to having a 30,000 foot understanding of the core concepts that run our society, true self-mastery requires specialization.
You must learn to silence the noise, to focus only on the things that truly matter, to devote yourself myopically and obsessively to your “one thing” and go all in on your craft.
Once you understand the life you want to create and the results you want to achieve, go out and learn what you need to learn and nothing more.
Shut out the noise and focus only on the essential.
Your life will be simpler, happier, and more successful for it.
3. Be Selfish and Take Care of Yourself First
If you received the “Standard American Education”, you were likely raised to put others first. To consider every action through the lens of its impact on others. To predicate every decision on the approval of authority figures and adherence to societal norms.
And, at a basic level, this is necessary to create a thriving society.
To build a successful nation, we must all have empathy for our fellow humans and treat others with dignity and respect.
But the problem arises when we take these inclinations to the extreme and allow the opinions and needs of others to dictate our own actions.
Despite what you were told growing up, you are indeed the most important person in your life. This is not narcissistic. It’s the truth. The world doesn’t revolve around you…but your world revolves around you.
To achieve success and self-mastery, you must accept and internalize this fact.
You must realize that you and only you can care for and prioritize your needs and desires.
Creating a lasting legacy and impact requires that you are selfish…that you say “no”…that you put yourself first…and lead by example.
This doesn’t mean that you should ignore the needs of others or manipulate them to get what you want. Simply that you prioritize yourself first so you can serve others later.
If you are tired, burned out, bored, and trapped by the needs of others in your life, you will never be able to show up as the strong grounded man the world so desperately needs.
True impact can only come from a place of self-care and self-love.
So take care of yourself. Prioritize your mission, your fitness, your needs, and your desires so you can better serve the world.
It might feel selfish…but it’s the most selfless thing you can do.
4. You Know Your Purpose, So Own It
When you were a child, you didn’t have to think about your purpose. You knew what it was.
You knew that you wanted to be a writer, an astronaut, a Navy SEAL, a teacher or a lawyer. And even if you did not understand the specific manifestation of your purpose, you knew the theme–the overarching mission you wanted to achieve.
But as you began to age and mature, becoming bogged down by the mandates of society and the realities of “adulting”, you slowly started to forget.
Your dreams, that once seemed so obvious, so certain, so achievable…quickly became the wistful longings of a younger and more naive man.
To achieve the life of your dreams, you must reconnect with this purpose.
You know what you are meant to do. You know who you want to be. You know what you want to accomplish. But you’re too damn scared to do it.
Even if you do not understand the specific how of your purpose, you know the direction in which you want to move. You know what you don’t want to tolerate and experience and you know the first step you need to take on your journey.
So take it.
Stop waiting for your purpose to hit you upside the head and realize that it’s been inside of you all along.
Own your purpose and go achieve it.
5. It’s All in a State of Mind
Everything in our lives is all in a state of mind.
Success, failure, happiness, sadness.
It’s all in a state of mind.
Why is it that two people suffering from identical problems and struggles can have such radically different views on what those problems and struggles mean?
Because of their state of mind.
The events you experience in your life are insignificant when compared to the stories you tell yourself about those events. In every moment, you can choose to believe a more empowering story and to see events, as challenging and heart wrenching as they may be, as a gift from the universe and the opportunity to improve.
Arash’s Most Influential Book:
Dianetics by L. Ron Hubbard
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