283: Alf Herigstad: How to Rediscover Your Manhood Through Perpetual Improvement

Alf grew up on a small farm in Olympia Washington, where he developed a great love for nature, animals, and all things outdoors. He was a boxer for a while, then a soldier, then a father, a builder, a truck driver and a business owner. Later he became a grandfather, an Asatru Gothi, and a reality TV personality.

Alf has done, and been many things in his life but he was always constant…always truly, Alf. The genuine person filled with humor and love who see’s the world through the eyes of a child about half the time.

Alf has done, and been many things in his life but he was always constant…always truly, Alf. The genuine person filled with humor and love who see’s the world through the eyes of a child about half the time.

Later he became a grandfather, an Asatru Gothi, and a reality TV personality. Alf has done, and been many things in his life but he was always constant…always truly, Alf. The genuine person filled with humor and love who see’s the world through the eyes of a child about half the time.

Alf is now the host of the “Being a Better Man Podcast.”

Favorite Success Quote

“I am my deeds”

Key Points

1. You Must Commit Yourself to Perpetual Improvement

If you want to consider yourself a man in the modern world, then you have to commit your life to constant improvement.

Life is a journey, not a destination. You will never “arrive.” You will never be the best man that you can be.

And that should excite you.

Life is about improving, it is about learning, about failing, and about growing. Every day when you wake up, seek to be just a little bit better, stronger, and wiser than you were when you went to bed.

This is the path to a fulfilling life.

2. People in Your Life are Within Your Sphere of Protection

Part of being a man is being a protector.

It is in our DNA.

And as a good man, a man who is on the journey of self-mastery, a man who is seeking to make his life of service, you need to realize that you are the protector of everyone who comes into your life.

If you see someone getting robbed on the street, it is your job to protect them.

If you see a “man” abusing his woman, it is your job to protect her.

If you see someone being taken advantage of, it is your job to protect them .

3. Part of Being a Man is Getting Shit Done 

You cannot consider yourself a man if you spend your days wasting time with video games, porn, or endless hours of television.

As an occasional treat,  video games or TV are not inherently bad, but we live in a society where most men waste 3+ hours a day in a virtual world when they should be getting shit done.

Turn off the TV, get your hand out of your pants, and put the controller away.

Get out in life and get shit done! Learn a new skill, build a business, fall in love, do the things that men were born to do instead of watching other people do them on a screen.

4. You Have to Get Out of Your Room

Everyone has a room.

Somewhere they are stuck that they need to escape.

For some of you, it is a relationship, an addiction, a job, or a set of beliefs.

Whatever it is for you, you have to break free and escape your room.

Because if you don’t you will never live the life that you want.

5. Choose the Hard Way

Life is easy, and a soft life makes for soft people.

If you want to be the best man that you can be, then you need to start doing the difficult things in your life.

Take a cold shower, join a boxing gym, use the stairs instead of the escalator, go out in nature alone for a week.

Do things that challenge you and force you to become a stronger and better man.

Influential Books

1. Undefeated by Everett Skehan

Connect with Alf Herigstad

https://www.beingabettermanpodcast.com/

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