Feeling lost in the shuffle? Do the days seem to blur into weeks, the weeks into months, and the months into years? Does time feel like it’s slipping away from you, and with every passing day, you feel increasingly lost?
At the same time, does common societal wisdom not seem to apply to you? Perhaps you’ve been told to follow the well-trodden path to keep you safe, but this leaves you feeling empty.
You’re constantly searching for something that moves you, but you can’t find it. You wake up every day and wonder why you aren’t happy. You secretly fear that you’ll never find your way.
Unfortunately, these problems are becoming more and more common among today’s men. The good news is that there are simple, actionable tips and mindset shifts that can help you find your passions and cultivate a more exciting lifestyle.
Today, I’ll cover six simple steps to help you tap into your true masculine potential, embrace inner confidence, and lead a more fulfilling life.
1. Study The World Of Entrepreneurship — Even If You DON’T Want To Be One
Most people working normal 9-5s have a tough time understanding the world of entrepreneurship. Entrepreneurs see the world differently from most people, and to the uninitiated, it can seem like these people are living in a fantasy land.
For example, you’re sitting here struggling to find your passions and have probably convinced yourself that you just don’t have any. That it isn’t “in you” to do anything great with your life.
Entrepreneurs don’t think this way. These people embrace the growth mindset and see opportunity everywhere they look.
I can guarantee you there is something you feel passionate about; the problem is that you think it’s impossible to make money or find success doing it.
A normal man paints his garage, takes a few minutes to admire his work, treats himself to a beer and a pizza, and goes to sleep.
An entrepreneur sees a paint job as a business opportunity. He realizes that he’s quite good at painting and that he can make extra money painting people’s rooms around the neighborhood.
He gets some business cards made and then starts leaving them with local businesses and on billboards around the neighborhood.
Before he knows it, he’s making an extra $500 a week painting. That quickly turns into $1,000. And before long, he’s paying people to help him.
And what started as a little side hustle turns into a full-fledged business.
This “can-do” attitude is the key to finding your passions. Even if you have no interest in starting your own business or getting an article written about you in Forbes, you should always carry this entrepreneurial energy with you.
For another basic example, apply this same philosophy to any ordinary workplace. One man goes to work every day with a defeated attitude, does the bare minimum, and jets out the door as soon as possible.
The other man (who also isn’t thrilled with the job) tries to take the initiative and learn new things. He asks his supervisor if there are any peripheral things he can help with and if he can get a transfer to another department. Before long, he finds himself in a new role he enjoys and starts to move up the corporate ladder.
Five years down the line, the first man is still doing the same old crap while the second man is content, engaged, and earning three times the salary he was before. He found his passion.
The point is that if you want to find your passions, you must TRY. Embrace life like an entrepreneur and learn to see opportunities everywhere you go. If you do this consistently, it will only be a matter of time before you strike gold.
2. Level With Yourself
You hear it all the time: “Follow your passions.” When you had trouble picking a major in college, your parents probably told you to “follow your passions.”
When choosing a career, someone probably told you the exact same thing — “Follow your passions.”
To a certain extent, this sentiment is even echoed in relationships. The only difference is the lingo changes a bit to: “Do what your heart tells you.”
On the surface, there’s nothing wrong with this advice. The problem is so many people don’t understand themselves deeply enough to understand what it means.
Most people like to think they know themselves better than anyone else, but that is rarely the case.
Have you ever met someone with a really high-paying salary who does nothing but complain about how miserable their job is?
They rant about how they should never have started this career in the first place. They say they should have—you guessed it—followed their passions.
But is not following their passions really the problem? More often than not, the issue is much deeper.
The truth is, when this person took that job or promotion, all they really cared about was money. All they saw was money.
The problem is not that they failed to chase their dreams—it’s that the ratio of money to work no longer feels worth it to them. What once felt like a lot of money no longer feels like much at all.
So, if you’re trying to figure out what excites you, you must do some soul-searching. What is it that you really want?
If you want to be a multimillionaire, level with yourself and just say that. DO NOT convince yourself that you’ll get there by earning a low six-figure salary at some company.
Too often in life, we settle for what we think we deserve. You must train your mind to unlearn these habits. Set your sights on what you really want — no exceptions.
Allow yourself to be excited by the prospect of being rich, of owning your own company, or of dating a supermodel. Whether you want to be an artist, an athlete, or an average Joe doesn’t matter. What matters is that you focus on what truly excites you and forget everything else.
3. Look At The Past To Find Your Way In The Future
Sometimes, the easiest way to find your path is to retrace your prior steps. When you were young, anything seemed possible. It didn’t matter if you didn’t know the way; you had the confidence that, somehow, you’d be able to figure it out.
Then as you got older, you lost this mindset…
Between parents, teachers, and other authority figures telling you that you couldn’t, you began to believe it.
This may have started when you were a teenager or even younger. As you got older and progressed through high school, college, and the workforce, things only got worse.
If you’re struggling to find your passion and find a way forward, the simplest thing to do may be to return to your roots. Think about what you were into as a kid and see if you can find inspiration there.
Remember, these negative emotions you’re struggling with are learned emotions; you were not born with them. And just as they were learned, they can just as easily be unlearned.
This is a world that strives for conformity — always has and always will be.
Even the “outcasts” often follow a set of norms that allow them to fit in with a particular group.
One of the bravest things a man can do is be unapologetically himself. This is the true bedrock to finding your passions and what truly excites you.
If you’ve spent the last five or ten years mirroring others, trying to follow their path to success and getting nowhere, something is wrong. It’s fine to make mistakes, but there is no excuse for making the same mistake twice.
Never forget that your career, your lifestyle, and your hobbies are yours and yours alone. Embrace what makes you unique, tap into your childish curiosity, and dare to do things differently.
The people who have left their mark on the world didn’t do it by conforming to societal norms; they did it by daring to be different.
The cell phone, laptop, or tablet you’re reading this on? These are devices that many once considered to be impossible to build. Yet here they are, a staple of our everyday lives.
And don’t think that means you have to make radical changes overnight or reinvent the wheel. All it means is that you need to be willing to experiment with the things that intrigue you.
Visit an art museum. Take a solo trip to a state or country you’ve always wanted to visit. Learn how to bake cupcakes if that strikes you — it doesn’t matter.
The point is, do something.
As FDR famously said, “One thing is sure. We have to do something. We have to do the best we know how at the moment… if it doesn’t turn out right, we can modify it as we go along.”
Do your thing and stick with it. Yes, you’re going to face skepticism from others. People might question your choices or actively discourage you from pursuing your dreams.
Ignore these people. Understand that their limiting beliefs have absolutely nothing to do with you and your passions. Whatever worked for you in the past, tap into that energy and use it to guide you in the future.
4. Focus On Longevity — Work Toward Something That Never FEELS Like Work
Careers and hobbies come and go, but a true passion should never falter. When you find your true passion — and figure out how to earn money from it — you’ll effectively never work another day in your life.
Ever heard of the term “flow state”? You’ve probably heard social media influencers tout the benefits of getting “in the zone,” but what does that really mean?
Simply put, it’s a mental state in which your energy, focus, and enjoyment of the task at hand are at their maximum. While it may be a common theme in self-help circles, the concept was actually coined in 1970 by the psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi.
Now, I can guarantee you’ve experienced a flow state at some point in your life. Perhaps you were engaged in a sport and just felt like you could play without end. Maybe you were engaged in a book or video game and stayed awake all night to complete it.
The trick is figuring out how to engage the flow state in your professional or creative endeavors. The easiest thing you can do is minimize all distractions and interruptions. Turn off notifications, unplug the television, or go to the library — whatever you need to do to focus.
You might say, “I just don’t like to read,” but that’s probably only a half-truth.
When you have an OLED television, a smartphone, a tablet, and half a dozen other distractions in your home, reading a book might seem like the least stimulating thing you can do.
If you change your environment to get rid of these distractions completely, reading a book will seem far more interesting. In other words, you can hack your life to achieve a flow state.
Challenge yourself, but not so much that you come to hate the task at hand. No matter how much you love something, it’s never a good idea to do something to exhaustion.
Set goals and seek feedback (more on this below). You might think you’re doing everything right, but you can always learn something from someone with more experience.
With proper clarity and a consistent feedback look, you’ll find it much easier to stay motivated.
And here’s a hint: If you find a certain activity highly enjoyable but are still unable to become completely immersed in it, keep searching. I guarantee you will find it if you have enough persistence and the proper mindset.
5. Stop Looking For It And Start Doing It
Here’s a secret no one likes to talk about: Society doesn’t want you to do anything with your life. Society doesn’t care if you find your passion or if you’re happy.
The only thing society wants you to do is show up to work and feed your money into the economy. The system is built so that you can’t live life to the fullest.
It is easy to sit there and “look” for your passions; it is hard to go out into the world and try different things.
But, of course, this is exactly what it takes to find it. Instead of spending endless hours trying to “figure out” what moves you, focus on actually doing different things.
The problem is that so many people overthink things before making a move. If you spend your life waiting for the ideal moment to make a change, you’ll be waiting for a very long time.
You’ve probably been conditioned to believe that passions are something you’ll just stumble upon, that a stroke of genius will come to you and set you on your way. Unfortunately, it doesn’t really happen like this.
Passions are usually developed gradually over time and after a great deal of experience, curiosity, and persistence.
Don’t go out there thinking you need to do something drastic. You don’t need to quit your job or make other immense life changes. Devoting a couple of hours a week to new activity could more than suffice.
The only real trick is to be persistent. Humans are naturally curious creatures, but — as I mentioned above — society and authority figures like to beat this aspect of human nature out of us.
The truth is, the more you do, the more you’ll see certain patterns develop. You’re making progress every day, whether you realize it or not.
You’ll find that passions often arise at the intersection of seemingly unrelated interests. That’s why trying as many different things as possible is so important.
Humans spent hundreds of years staring at the ocean, thinking the world was flat. It was only until a few brave men decided to build a ship and see what was out there that things finally began to change.
If you want to chart your own path in life, you have to put effort into it, be willing to make yourself very uncomfortable, and take risks.
6. Broaden Your Horizons With A New Social Circle
If you’re struggling to pinpoint your passions in the confines of your current lifestyle, it might be time to… well, change your lifestyle.
Often, the key to unlocking what truly excites us lies beyond our regular social circles and comfort zones.
No matter how strong-willed you are, humans are inherently influenced by their surroundings and the company they keep. How many friends of yours have passions that motivate them?
If the answer is “a few” or “none,” you’ve found one of the major problems in your life.
Let’s take a very basic example. Assume a man is terribly out of shape. Chances are, the majority of that man’s family, friends, and coworkers are also out of shape.
The company you keep naturally rubs off on you. Sure, you can influence those around you to some degree, but you are only one person. If you’re the only person trying to himself in your social circle, you’re dooming yourself to failure.
It’s difficult to resist when your coworkers bring donuts for breakfast, order pizza for lunch, and invite you to go out for drinks after work.
That’s why a different social circle may be just what you need to find your passions. Think about gym employees. How many people who work in a gym are obese and out of shape? Almost none. It’s just not something that you see very often.
Why? Because their social circle rubs off of them. If you’re surrounded by people who work out all day, you’re going to start working out all day, too.
The same principle applies to you and your passions. If everyone around you is lost and hopeless, this mindset will rub off on you and drag you down.
Of course, it can be difficult for men to cultivate genuine friendships with other men. That’s why professional coaching groups, like the one offered at Knowledge for Men, can be so beneficial.
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