86: Steve Harvey: What Makes a Man in Today’s World

Steve Harvey is a media conglomerate personified in a man whose career began doing stand-up comedy in the mid-1980s. His success as a stand-up comedian eventually led to a long stint as host of It’s Showtime at the Apollo.

His stand-up success has also led to multiple TV shows and movies, serving various roles on some projects acting, hosting, writing and producing, and his career has continued to flourish, becoming a top-rated radio host, fashion entrepreneur, best-selling author, popular game show host on Family Feud, and 2013 People’s Choice Award winner as “Favorite New Talk Show Host” for his new daytime show Steve Harvey. Harvey just recently renewed deals in January 2013 for his daytime show and radio show.

1. Real Men handle their Responsibilities

Being a man is simple.

No, you don’t have to ride a motorcycle, hunt wild bears, or shoot bad guys in the face.

All that you have to do to be a real man is to take care of your responsibilities.

If you can do that, then you are a man.

If you wake up every morning, go into the world and earn your living, and then come home and provide for your wife and children then you are a man.

If you are single, then it is your responsibility to prepare for the family that you will one day have.

This isn’t rocket science.

Just do the work and handle your responsibilities.

That’s it.

2. Men Need More Mentors and Fathers 

One of the most pervasive diseases that is facing the modern man is the disease of the absent father.

Men are growing up without a clue, wondering what it means to be a man and getting all of their guidance from rappers, movie stars, and friends.

This is a tragedy.

If more men grew up with fathers who loved them, supported them, and taught them what it truly meant to be a man, how much better would the world be?

What would that do for society?

As a man, it is your responsibility to be there for your children, no matter what.

3. You Are Ready for a Relationship When You Are Tired of the Revolving Door 

Have you ever woken up next to a beautiful woman after a one night stand and thought to yourself “Is this it?”

If so, then you are ready for a relationship.

Most men are not ready for monogamy and commitment until they have been stuck in the revolving door for quite some time.

We need to get it out of our systems.

We need to experience different women, to figure out what we want, and to learn about how the fairer sex works.

Once this becomes a chore, once you no longer get excited at the prospect of being with another girl and instead you fantasize about building a life with someone… then you are ready for a real relationship.

4. Men Need Love, Loyalty, and Support 

As a man, you must look for three qualities in your woman.

You need a woman who will love you, a woman who is loyal to you, and a woman who will support you.

That’s it.

If your woman truly loves you, remains loyal to you when times are hard, and she is willing to support your dreams and ambitions, then you have found a woman worth keeping.

But if she lacks even one of these qualities, then you must cut your losses and move on, because you will not be able to force what isn’t there.

5. Provide, Protect, and Profess 

As a man, your job is simple.

You must provide, protect, and profess your love for your woman.

That’s it.

If you are providing her with everything that she needs to have her needs met.

If you are protecting her physically and emotionally from the danger of the world.

And if you are professing your love for her on a regular basis, then you have done your job as a man.

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14 thoughts on “86: Steve Harvey: What Makes a Man in Today’s World”

  1. One of my favorite podcast! Steve Harvey gets to the point and as Andrew said, he just saved a few thousand relationships! Thanks for the knowledge, now I’m going to apply it!

  2. I loved Steve’s insight because it really hit home but was also incredibly simple. I think we tend to over-complicate things with our significant others and keeping it simple is one of the greatest things we can do to improve our relationships. One of his tips is to stop arguing and always trying to be right. I laughed at this part because it reminded me of one of Louis C.K.’s standup routines where he talks about how stupid it is that couples always fight. He goes on to say “I mean, really, what’s the point? It’s not like you win money.” It was funny, but it actually shifted to way I approached arguments with my sisters, mom, girlfriends, etc. I also liked the how he explained the way that men love is through what he calls the 3 P’s: Protect, Provide, and Profess. These things are often overlooked by women, but to us men, we feel like we’re giving our lifeblood to someone if we give these things. That’s not to say that’s all men have to do in a relationship, but if a man is giving these things to a woman, you can guarantee that he values her and will do everything he can to be the best man he can for her.

  3. Great Podcast, Steve gets to the point. If your man, you must take responsibility for anyone who depends on you. If someone is still paying your bills you are not a man. True words.

  4. Andrew Ferebee X Steve Harvey = A Great Podcast and invaluable insight on becoming a man to start my Monday morning! Word up Steve Harvey on “The 3 P’s”, simple and on point. I know that will help me keep ideas, on dating women, a little more simple! Best of luck on your Canadian conferences, let me know when you make it to Milwaukee or Chicago!

  5. That was a powerful episode, I didn’t expect this odd man could be so well-spoken and you guys really overdelivered in this episode. Will check out more stuff from him. And Andrew I hope you keep getting us interviews with these inspiring odd people!

  6. Great Interview Andrew. Huge fan of Steve Harvey’s work and this is a testament to his work. AMAZING ADVICE!! I’m 23 and can already see that he’s saved me alot of headaches! Thank You Andrew. An Thank You Steve.

  7. This episode is filled with valuable insights from Mr. Steve Harvey. I learned more in this 18 minute podcast than any other recent 18 minute time span I can think of. Personally, I am going through some relationship issues, but now that I know his golden rule, I should have less headaches in the future. Further, his advice to his 20 year old self is definitely worth a listen (especially if you are around that age) as I wish I knew that back than. This episode is an absolute must listen to!

  8. Protect. Profess. Provide. I’ll never forget the three ways men show their love. I feel like I was just given invaluable secrets to taking my relationship to the next level. Steve, Andrew, you two rock!

  9. Great Interview with Steve Harvey. I’m so excited that I get to hear what his perception of a real man is because he is very successful and confident. Watching him on TV and finally hearing him speak about this topic was great.

  10. Andrew, really enjoyed this episode! It hit home. My son is 18 and just told my wife, his mother that he is “A grown ass man”. The points that Steve shard about what makes a man are simple and easy to share with my son in a good conversation.

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