98: Owen Marcus: A Man’s Guide to Masculine Emotional Intelligence

For more than fifteen years, Owen Marcus has worked with men’s groups to develop programs that give them the tools and teach them the skills to be successful men, to celebrate their strengths, and to live their lives fully and with joy.

Owen Marcus overcame challenges such as Asperger’s Syndrome and Dyslexia to pursue his passion of helping others to find their out of the box solutions. However, it wasn’t until much later that he understood that in being free to be his own man, he was able to create and fulfill a life he designed.

His book Grow Up is not a “self-help book”; it’s a playbook on how to live your own life. Imagine a life where you can dream, love, create and live in the moment with an ease you never thought possible.

Favorite Success Quote

“The goal of life is to be a vehicle for something higher.” – Joseph Campbell

Key Points

1. Embrace the Power of Connecting with Other Men 

If you are feeling lost, unsure of yourself, with nowhere to go and no-one to turn too, then you need to surround yourself with other men.

You need to find and dive into a community of high level men who are living their lives at a higher level.

Men who can help you through your problems, call you on your b.s., and support you in your goals.

When you connect with other men, you become more empowered.

You share your burdens and your problems and open yourself up to the advice, criticism, and love of people who have your best interest at heart.

Drop your ego and find your tribe.

It will change your life in ways that you cannot imagine.

2. State Your Emotions Directly 

Many people will tell you that you need to be “Vulnerable”.

And while there is merit to this claim, it sounds weak and feminine.

Instead, focus on being direct.

Tell people what you are feeling, be honest about your emotions, and open up about your problems.

When you are direct with people, you remove all pretenses and all facades.

You give yourself total freedom because you are willing to take 100% responsibility for who you are, what you want, and how you feel.

State your emotions directly.

Be honest and assertive and your entire world will change.

3. Most Women Are “Bitchy” Because Men Aren’t Assertive

If you are in a relationship and your woman is a “Bitch”, chances are strong that the reason for her behavior is your weakness.

I know that it might be uncomfortable to take responsibility for your relationship and your woman, but when you dive into the nitty gritty, you will realize that I am right.

Women want to fall into their feminine selves and feel safe and secure in the arms of their man.

But they can only do this whenever you are willing to fall into your masculine.

They can only be feminine when you are willing to take charge, be assertive, and do the work that is necessary.

So stop blaming your woman and start looking in the mirror.

You will often find that the fault lies in your own actions and not hers.

4. Do You Habits Give or Steal Energy?

Take time to examine your life.

Look at every habit that you currently have and ask yourself one simple quetsion “Does this thing give me energy or take away from my energy?”

If it gives you energy, then do more of it.

If it takes away from your energy, then cut it out of your life.

End of story.

5. Make a Connection with the Divine 

One of the most uncomfortable topics for most men is the concept of the divine.

We hesitate to give the idea creedence and accept the possibility that we are not the greatest force in the universe.

But if you want to truly grow up and embrace your masculine, then you must develop a connection with the divine.

I don’t mean this in a religious sense.

I mean that you must cultivate an attitude of gratitude, must bend your knee to the will of the universe, and commit yourself to a higher purpose.

When you are willing to do these things, you will find an overwhelming sense of peace and serenity sweeping over your life.

Whatever you view the divine to be, I challenge you to get connected with it in your own way, now. 

Influential Books

The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida

Hero of a Thousand Faces by Joseph Campbell


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