334: Michael Knight: Understanding the Fundamentals of Social Dynamics

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A former SpaceX employee turned social powerhouse, Michael Knight is the author of “Understanding the Fundamentals of Female Dynamics”, a world traveler, and a master of authentic social interaction.

Favorite Success Quote

Don’t ask for guarantees. And don’t look to be saved in any one thing, person, machine, or library. Do your own bit of saving, and if you drown, at least die knowing you were heading for shore.” ~Ray Bradbury

Key Points

1. Persistent Small Action will Get You the Results 

On your path to greatness, one thing and one thing alone will be responsible for your results.

The consistent and persistent action that you take over time in pursuit of your dreams.

It is like Bruce Lee said, “Long term consistency trumps short term intensity”.

If you decide that you want to revolutionize your health and your physique, then going to the gym for 6 days straight, working out three hours each time, and taking $100s of dollars of supplements in the first week will do very little to help you achieve your goals.

However, even going to the gym a mere 3 times a week over the course of six months, training for an hour, and taking only two supplements but taking the right supplements will result in the ultimate success you desire.

If you want to build a successful online business, then publishing 7 articles a week for a month and working 16 hour days for the first five days will actually prove counter-productive.

However, persisting through the challenges and consistently generating new content and products over 12-36 months will give you a platform that will provide success and financial freedom for years to come.

The same is true of your interactions with women.

If you want to get better with women, then you need to be persistent and take small action over time.

As you grow and build your skills, you will become more successful and your success will compound until eventually, you reach your desired level.

2. Reset Your Definition of Success

If you want to be truly successful with women, then reset your definition of success.

Most men think that they are only successful if they leave their venue with a hot girl wrapped around their arm begging him to call a taxi and take her back to his place.

But the truth is, achieving success on a social level simply requires that you take action.

Did you go over and talk to the pretty girl?

Did you say hello?

If so, then congratulations! You are successful.

As soon as you make this mental shift, all of your interactions will be viewed through a different set of lenses.

Instead of seeing rejection as a failure, you will see the fact that you even tried as a success.

And when you reset your definition of success, you will find yourself having more fun and enjoying your social time on a whole new level.

You will be able to let loose and enjoy a night with friends without being outcome dependent.

And ironically, this almost always increases your success with women.

3.Remember that You are a Gold Miner

Whenever you are put into a social situation and you are looking for companionship platonic or otherwise, you need to remember that you are not there to barter for attention.

You aren’t at the bar, club, networking event, or restaurant to woo others or to buy affection.

You are there to mine the crowd to find those one or two individuals who you genuinely connect with and who you feel comfortable spending time with.

Even if buying women drinks always lead to sex, would you really want those kinds of relationships?

Wouldn’t it be better if you were rejected by 99 women, but found that 1 girl who you could talk to for hours?

The girl who interested you, who captivated your attention, who respected you, and who genuinely enjoyed your presence… not just your cash?

That should be your end goal anytime you find yourself in a social interaction.

You and panning and filtering for gold, and not shedding a tear when your pan comes up muddy.

4. You Attract What You Are

If you have found yourself consistently attracting low-quality women, winding up in relationships with “crazies”, and getting sucked into petty drama and trivial bullshit with your significant other, then it’s time to take a look in the mirror.

Who you attract into your life is almost always a direct reflection of the kind of man you are and the kind of behavior that you are willing to tolerate.

If you find yourself with whiny, clingy women, it is because you are not showing up as a man.

You are not setting the standards from the word “go” and you are allowing these women to act in a certain manner around you.

If you want to attract a higher quality of woman, then become a higher quality man.

5. Women Crave Confidence and Congruence in Men

All women want two things from their men.

Confidence and congruence.

Women want you to show up in the world with a grin on your face, no matter how challenging the circumstances are around you. They want a man who knows that he can handle anything the world throws at him.

They want a man who is confident in himself and in who he is becoming.

They also want a man who is congruent. A man who is who he says he is. A man whose words and actions are in alignment.

If you can show up in the world as a man who is confident in who he is and what he believes and maintain a strong congruence in your thoughts, words, and deeds, then the sky is the limit.

And not just with women, but in all areas of your life.

Influential Books

1. The Spirit of Saint Louis by Charles Limberg

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