35: Marni Kinrys: Go From Mr. Nice Guy to OMG Who is That

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I’m Marni the wing girl, and I’ve spent the last decade helping tens of thousands of men go from being Mr. Nice Guy to Mr. Holy S&*T, I Want Him!!!

Every product I create, every conference I put on, every coaching call I make, I have one simple mission. . . give the good guy the edge. You are about to learn everything you need to know about women. Including the things that women would never want you to know.

I am the founder of The Wing Girl Method. What’s special about my method? I give you access to the 5% of knowledge about attracting women that no man can ever teach you. How do I have access to this? Because I know women inside and out. For goodness sake, I am one. In other words, I have a vagina.

My job as a wing girl is to teach you everything you need to know to attract, date and get any girl you want.

Favorite Success Quote

“You can’t turn a woman on until you turn yourself on” – Marni, The Wing Girl Method

Key Points

1. Most Women Don’t Know What they Really Want

One of the most common mistake that men make when it comes to seduction and relationships is listening to women.

Seriously.

I don’t mean that they are making a mistake by paying attention to their girlfriends or listening and connecting to women that they meet.

I mean that they listen to women who think that they know what they want.

Because the simple truth is this, most women have no idea what in the hell they want from a man.

They will pour honey into your ear, telling you that they want a nice guy, a sweet guy, and a stable kind hearted man, all the while going out and sleeping with the bad boys and the d-bags.

Outside of a few highly aware women like Marni, most of the women that you meet will give you terrible advice about what women want and how to give it to them.

Stop listening to women and start listening to results.

2. Women Want a Man Who is a Leader

The first, indisputable thing that all women want (especially powerful women) is a man who is a leader.

This doesn’t mean that you have to lead a group of Navy SEALs into battle against Somali pirates or run a Fortune 500 Company, but it does mean that within the realm of your relationship, you show up, take charge, and move the ball forward.

Women hate it when a guy initiates a date and then shows up saying “So what do you want to do?”

Nothing is a bigger turn off than a man who cannot take charge and lead the way.

Women want a man who will text them and say “We’re going out tomorrow night. I will pick you up at 8 p.m., be ready and wear something nice ;)”

They want a man who has a plan, and doesn’t feel the need to run every detail by them.

They want a man who they can relax with and know that he has things taken care of.

3. Women Want to Feel Like Their Most Feminine Selves 

The quality of leadership alludes to a bigger issue that needs to be addressed within the dating world.

The masculine and feminine dynamic within a relationship.

When women, especially career driven and high power women, are with a man, they want to be able to let go of all the stress and struggle of the day and fall into their most feminine selves.

They want to be able to trust in their man totally and embrace the carefree and erratic nature of the feminine.

But to do this, their man (you) must be fully embracing his masculine.

He needs to show up with strength, confidence, and a soft aggression showcasing that he knows what he wants and is willing to do what is necessary to get it.

To feel safe with a man, a woman must first see that man stepping into his masculine energy and fully owning his actions and desires.

While this might sound a little bit woo woo and mystic, it’s actually really simple.

Are you showing up as a man?

Are you being honest and expressing your wants and desires? Are you taking charge and leading the relationship? Are you expressing emotional resilience to your woman’s storms and allowing her to feel totally safe and secure in your arms?

The more masculine (not macho) of a man you can be, the more feminine your woman can feel, and the more connection and attraction you will build.

4. Most Women Don’t Care About Money, they Care About the Man Who Has Money

Many people will tell you that women don’t care about money, or that money doesn’t matter in attraction.

And that’s true… to a point.

You see, the key thing you must realize is that money is an indicator of character.

Most men who have money also have a strong ambition, work ethic, hustle, and desire for a better life.

This attitude permeates every area of their lives and women know that in most cases, men with money posses a certain set of characteristics that make them high quality mates.

For example, men with money tend to be more emotionally stable and consistent, since it’s hard to keep any amount of wealth if you are swept up in the tide of emotions and desires.

Women see this as an indicator of security and commitment.

None of this is to say that women are not attracted to men without money.

As long as you can display similar characteristics and they know that you are taking your life somewhere, the balance in your bank account is irrelevant.

So while money might not matter as much as you would imagine, it is a reflection of the man, and that is what women find attractive.

5. Be Fun

At the end of the day, women are just like the rest of us, and they just want to have fun.

If you can remove your ego from the seduction process and start going out with the sole intention of having fun and enjoying your time out with friends, women will be attracted to you.

They want to be with the guys who are having the most fun, and if you can go out with a care free attitude and just enjoy being at a bar or club or any other social gathering, women will sense this and want to be around you.

The more fun you can have, the better your life will be, and the more women will flock to you.

Influential Books

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz

Get Inside Her by Marni Kinrys

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Connect with Marni

winggirlmethod.com

@winggirlmethod

One Response to 35: Marni Kinrys: Go From Mr. Nice Guy to OMG Who is That

  1. Jeremy March 12, 2014 at 9:39 pm #

    Great great episode! Packed with loads of real advice and not the kind of bullshit you get from most dating “experts”. The real coaches all know that you need to work on yourself first. And learning to really communicate, putting aside your ego, and being vulnerable. Love that. Really like her attitude too, she must be a really fun person to hang out with!

    I’m providing a link to Amy Cuddy’s Ted talk that Marni has referenced. It’s an awesome Ted talk by the way, with over 3 million views. I’ve watched it.

    http://youtu.be/Ks-_Mh1QhMc