Julien Blanc aka RSD Julien is an instructor for Real Social Dynamics who is the leader in dating, relationships, personal growth and self actualization. Julien has been working on this area of his life for the last 7 years and has been coaching men around the world for the last 5 years. Julien has quickly become one of the most popular figures in the dating industry for men with his wild, carefree and self amusing personality.
You can apply the concepts from dating and pickup into any aspect of your life. It’s all the same. It’s just a game..
Favorite Success Quote
“The road of excess leads to the palace of wisdom.” – William Blake
1. Burn Your Boats and Taken Massive Action
If you want to achieve massive success in any area of life faster than you ever thought possible, there is a single step that you can take to all but guarantee that achievment of your desired outcome.
Burn your boats.
What do I mean by this?
There was once a famous general who was ordered to take an island that was heavily fortified with an army that vastly out numbered his own.
When the general and his troops arrived, he ordered one of his lieutenants to go back to the back to the boats and burn them.
As his army looked at the smoke rising from their ships in dismay, the general addressed his men with a simple statement “There is no way home. We either take the island or we die trying.”
And guess what?
They took the island.
If you want to achieve rapid and massive success then you have to burn your boats.
If you want to succeed as an entrepreneur, then quit your day job, hustle. You will find a way to succeed if your only options are success or starvation.
If you want to succeed with women, then hire a coach and give him $1,000 to spend at his leisure if you don’t do at least one approach a day.
If you want to succeed at health, then throw out all of your old food and commit to give away your most treasured possession if you don’t achieve your weight loss goals in the allotted time.
This might sound extreme.
But I promise you that if you burn your boats your life will never be the same.
2. You Can Always Become More
It’s all too easy to get comfortable.
To get complacent and to think that you have finally “arrived”.
But the truth is you have never arrived, there is no final destination, and there is no “ultimate success”.
You should constantly be seeking to grow and expand your capacity and your ability to achieve in any area of life.
Did you make a million dollars? Great, now it’s time to work on making 10 million.
Did you finally learn how to cold approach women? Great, now it’s time to find a way to start closing even faster.
Did you finally hit your body fat percentage goal? Fantastic, now it’s time to continue sculpting your body and growing your strength.
You need to realize that you will never arrive and that the joy of life is found in the journey.
Constantly push the envelope and seek to grow more every chance you get.
3. The Fun is Right Now
Something that most guys don’t realize is that the fun of life is right now.
No matter how much your life sucks or what you are trying to achieve, the amount of fulfillment that you achieve from tackling your current goals will not grow as your goals grow.
It’s just as amazing to make your first six figures as it is to make your first seven or eight.
It’s just as amazing to have your first successful cold approach as it is to have your first threesome.
It’s just as amazing to lose the first 10 lbs. as it is to lose the first 50.
The juice of life is right now.
So stop waiting for some time or place in the future where you will be happy and fulfilled and start enjoying the journey right this second.
4. Eliminate Your Need for External Validation
You need to quit looking for validation outside of yourself.
If you want to do something then do it.
You don’t need other people’s permission to live life on your terms.
You don’t need people’s permission to start your business, get better with women, or take back your health.
And you sure as hell don’t need other people’s approval once you have started on your journey.
Learn to derive everything that you need from inside yourself and you will unlock ultimate power.
5. Trust Yourself
Learn to trust yourself no matter what.
It’s ok to take advice from mentors and successful individuals, but in most cases, you need to trust yourself to know what is best for you.
If you feel strongly about quitting your current job to pursue your passions, then do it and ignore what other people think.
If you feel strongly about leaving a relationship that is no longer serving you, then do it.
This is not to say that you should not listen to people who are smarter and wiser than you are, but rather that you know when something is out of alignment with your goals and desires.
And if you feel that lack of congruence in your life but don’t make a change based on someone else’s opinion, then you are forfeiting your power to other people.
Trust yourself and take massive action and you won’t go wrong.
And if you do go wrong… At least it you went wrong living your life and not the life that someone else designed for you.
The Game by Neil Strauss
The 6 Pillars of Self Esteem by Nathaniel Branden
No One Here Gets Out Alive by Jerry Hopkins