270: Allie LeFevere: Cut the B.S. And Take Responsibility

Allie LeFevere is a women’s coach who creates programs helping women improve their self worth and confidence 

Favorite Success Quote

“Anything that does not bring me alive is too small for me” ~David Whyte

Key Points

1. Personal Growth Requires Giving to the World

On your path to ultimate personal development, you will reach a place where you realize that you can no longer focus solely on yourself and you have to begin giving back to truly impact the world.

To grow into the best version of yourself, you have to give back to others, you have to be a servant to the world, and you have to be willing to occasionally put the needs of those less fortunate than you above your own.

2. You Need to Know What You Really Want

If you do not know where you want to go, then it doesn’t much matter what you are doing on a day to day basis.

You have to have a vision for your life and for who you want to be. You have to have goals and a plan to achieve them, based off of your desires and your dreams, not society’s, your parent’s or your friend’s desires and dreams.

3. You Have to Take Care of Yourself First 

While we have already said that personal development requires that you give to the world, you cannot fully give to the world until you have given to yourself. Until you are taking care of yourself in mind, body, and spirit, until you are a little bit selfish and prioritize your needs, you will not have enough to truly give to the world.

4. Focus on What You Want, not What You Don’t

What you focus on expands.

If you want to achieve your dream you have to focus on the things that you want in your life, not the things that you don’t want. Instead of focusing on how you are out of shape and overweight, focus on how you can’t wait until you are a shredded, athletic beast.

Instead of focusing on how you are broke, focus on how you can’t wait until you have more than enough money to live life on your terms.

It’s just like riding a bike, look where you want to go, not at the tree nearby.

5.Your Language Creates Your Reality

If you are constantly telling yourself that you are a worthless piece of shit…. Odds are, that’s how you will feel.

If you are constantly telling yourself that you are not where you want to be however you are going to put in the work to achieve your dreams, that is what will start to happen.

What you tell yourself, you believe. Be sure you are telling yourself an empowering story.

Influential Books

1. Return to Love by Marianne Willamson

2. Loving What Is by Byron Katie

3. The Big Leap by Hendricks Gay

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Connect with Allie LeFevere

https://allielefevere.com/

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